(Closed) Who goes to the rehearsal dinner — Catholic edition

posted 9 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

As everyone is family, I’d say everyone.  We’re unfortunately going to be having a HUGE rehearsal dinner as also all of my family is coming in from out of town.

If everyone wasn’t family, I say the church given altar servers don’t need to go.

But anyone involved in your ceremony… who needs to be at the rehearsal at the church, should be invited to the dinner.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We’re also inviting Out of Town guests that are coming in on Friday night, the musicians if you know them, and I think some people also invite the priest as a courtesy.

I quickly realized a Catholic wedding rehearsal dinner, even with a small wedding party, becomes an ordeal.

 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Everyone participating in the wedding ceremony (including the priest or deacon) and their guests, immediate family and out of town guests.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Parents – Both sides

Wedding party & Their significant others

Ring Bearer & Flower Girl(s) – And their parents (unless they let you take just the kids)

Siblings & Significant others….

 

So really, it’s a family affair… with the bridal party & significant others… However, significant others of bridal party could be optional… but it might be wierd to invite one and not his/her spouse.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was wondering about this as well….FH’s 2 sisters are not in the wedding but my brother and sister and his brother are….do I need to invite the sisters that are not in it??  (I feel like it would kinda be rubbing in their face like oh your not in it but the others are I don’t know)

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We had the readers, eucharistic minister (because it was the grooms dad), the gift bearers, the petition reader (he was my uncle and his kids were the gift bearers), and 1 of the musicians (because it was the grooms sister).  Then we had the Bridesmaid or Best Man & Groomsmen and their dates, the ushers and their dates, the grandparents, the parents, and our brothers and sisters and their kids.  We did not invite the priests, the other musicians who were hired through the church (they weren’t at the rehearsal anyway), nor did we have any altar servers.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

We invited all our immediate families (parents, step-parents, brothers, sisters, grandparents), anyone from out of town, and anyone who was in the wedding. People were invited in the same formation as they were invited to the wedding—so if they were invited with a guest to the wedding, they were invited to the rehearsal dinner with that guest. If you know the priest well, then you could invite him too, but it is not necessary. Our priest could not have come in any case because he had mass to give after our rehearsal.

@ms sweets—I would invite all your siblings whether they are in the wedding or not. Siblings are such close family it’s pretty much assumed they are invited to all wedding activities, such as the rehearsal dinner. I think you’re right that they would feel snubbed otherwise.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh man thank you for this post….I’m doing a Catholic wedding as well, and hadn’t even THOUGHT about inviting the readers, altar servers, singers, etc to the Rehearsal Dinner….we need to decide who will be in those roles and figure out who to include. 

 

Just a thought on Out of Town guests…the majority of our guests will be travelling in for the wedding as well, and we have opted NOT to invite them to the rehearsal dinner, as it was completely cost-prohibitive for us (would have turned into basically having 2 wedding receptions, and we couldn’t afford that.) I also want our rehearsal dinner to be on the intimate side, which wouldn’t have happened with 150 out of towners. Instead, we are having a rehearsal dinner for those in the wedding party and our immediate families, then holding a “pre-wedding social” afterwards at one of the hotels that our guests are being accommodated at. We’re ordering hors’dourves and there will be a cash bar, and it will be WAY less expensive than having a rehearsal dinner serving 150+. Will be a bit of a long night before the wedding, but we felt this was a nice way to acknowledge everyone who is coming in from far away, and be able to spend some time with them before the craziness of the wedding day.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

My Future Mother-In-Law has invited all of the out of town guests 🙁 so basically I’ll be having TWo weddings! grumble

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh and here’s another question for you ladies……did you include your ushers in the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I am because one of them is walking my mom down the aisle so I figure they could practice that (wow if I wasn’t planing a wedding that would sound silly!)

Post # 15
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Newbee

@farmersdaughter – That’s exactly how we’re handling it too.  A more intimate (but even just immediate family gets up to 25!) rehearsal dinner, and then a bar & apps drop-in at the hotel afterwards for everyone.  We might even make that a dessert party.  We’re doing it this way since almost everyone is Out of Town.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I was told, the readers, the wedding party, bride and groom, parents, ushers.

I ended up letting SO of the wedding party come, too.

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