(Closed) Who got engaged at a year or less of dating?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh boy.

We are 9 years apart. We met when I was 15 and he was 24. We kept in contact over the years, off and on. When I was 19/20, we started officially dating. We dated for a year before we got engaged.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I did!  We moved quite quickly, but like you, we both just knew this was different.  As sappy as it sounds, I knew from the moment I saw his face that I would marry him.  I just knew it!  We moved in together at 4 months and were engaged at 8 months.  We did not have any naysayers at all.   I never, ever thought I would be engaged and married so soon after meeting a guy.  I totally thought anyone who did so was a nutso.  But you know what?  Who the heck cares what other people think!  They are not in your relationship.  They do not feel your feelings.  They know nothing.  

 

Edit to add:  we were both 25 when we met and 27 when we married.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

I guess the difference with Mr.TKE and I was everyone knew we were going to get married. I proposed to him on our 9 month dating anniversary. Totally cliche I know, but for me it was love at first sight. It took a little longer for Mr.TKE, but after about 4 months of being together, he knew he wanted to marry me. So did all of our friends because we were ridiculously in love.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We probably would have except we were so young when we met. Instead, we waiting about 6 years to get engaged so that we could finish school and everything. We knew from day one we would get married, and had we been older I’m sure we would have been engaged pretty soon. HOWEVER, even though I know we could have worked out getting married a lot sooner, I do think it’s smart to wait a while- not because you might change your mind but just because I think it’s good to go through a lot together before you get married. For example just learning how to be together- learning how to fight, learning EVERYTHING about each other. My Fiance and I have been through so much together, and while we would have been just fine had we gotten married sooner, I’m glad that we waited. 

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Fiance and I met back in June 2010. He was 23 and I was 22. We’re now 25 and 24. We were talking about getting married within a few weeks of dating. We got engaged after 2 months of dating. I told my close friends right away but we held off on telling any family until November 2010 because we knew it seemed crazy (not like waiting ’til Nov helped with lessening the craziness haha).

Why didn’t we wait? Well, we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and it was the next logical step of commitment… at least that’s how I look at it. The thing is, anyone who knows us knows that we’re not the impulsive types at all.. so they knew this was something different and really special. My friends and family thought I was crazy but they were suprisingly supportive.. 

So here’s our breakdown:
2 months from meeting to engagement
4 months from engagement to moving in together
1.5 year engagement

Like PPs have said, every couple is different. I was wondering about the “honeymoon” phase myself when Fiance and I first met. My Maid/Matron of Honor gave me the scary progression of her failed relationship and it freaked me out a bit (turns out it helps a lot if you don’t date total DOUCHES like my dear MOH). I didn’t want what I had with Fiance to change in a bad way! I can happily tell you that our relationship has grown stronger and is more amazing than I could have ever imagined and I CANNOT wait to marry him in 6 days!

Good luck, lamourbleu! Having a couple to look up to helps a lot. My cousin has been married for 5+ years now, has 2 toddlers, and she still tells me she gets butterflies whenever she see’s her husband. FI’s grandparents have been together 30+ years and they are seriously the sweetest couple EVER. AND apparently they still get it on like bunnies! Too Much Information, I’m sure, but that’s the family I’m marrying into! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

haha. I don’t know if I belong here but 3 months in fi asked me to marry him.! Granted he was very drunk at the moment and to this day does not remember  that he did this. He told me he had a ring that he had picked out and he wanted to marry me. I told him yes, and to ask me again when he was sober. When I talked to him about it the next day, he confessed that yes he did have a ring but that wasnt the way he wanted to purpose, so would I mind waiting? I didn’t mind, in fact I’m kinda a commitment phobe so I needed time to adjust to us dating let alone getting married, however it wasreassuring that I was in a serious relationship and not a college fling. 

Back ground we had been best friends for 8 yrs,  together for 3 months when he bought a ring( its true I saw the recept) and he proposed for real a year and some later.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

DH and I got engaged at 13 months…we had been friends for nearly 3 years before he suggested a relationship.  I was in total shock and didn’t agree for nearly a month afterwards.  After that, though, things moved pretty quick.  He was talking marriage after 3 months…the only reason we didn’t get engaged until after 1 year of dating was that we knew my parents would flip/ask when the baby was due *eye roll*.  We had a nine month engagment, with our wedding 23 months after we started dating, 2 days shy of the 2 year mark of when he asked me out.  With the exception of a few snarky relatives, our friends and family were completely supportive.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@aliavenue:  hey i’m a numbers girl! Show me the studies and statistics that prove your theories and I’m a believer ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I met my husband in october 2010, i was 19 he was 20. we started dating in december 2010, moved in with each other in march 2011, he was 21 i was 20 (we’re a 11 months apart) and 2 weeks later we were engaged. Then married in July 2011, due to his deployment. wasnt expecting that.

My husband actually asked me twice. the first time i said no cuz we hadn’t been together long enough to even discuss marriage in my opinion. 2 days later he asked again and i said yes hoping to get a long engagment but his orders to deploy came a month after we were engaged and hubby sprang on me he didnt want to wait til he got back to get married about 20 days before we had our small ceremony with immediate family.

I’m happy as can be with him being deployed for so long but I’m glad we didnt wait til got home to get married. We’re having a vow renewal in december just a day shy of our 2 year anniversary, just a bigger ceremony and a reception for our family and friends who missed out on the first one. oh and hubby really wants to wear a white tux.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

DH and I started chatting online 4 months before we met in person and decided to start dating.  10 months after our first date, we got engaged and we were married 7 months later.  I knew 2 months in that he was the one and that one day I’d be marrying him.  He and I started talking about marriage shortly after that although it took another almost 8 months for him to ask.  ๐Ÿ˜›

For the record we were 34 and 28 at the time we got engaged.  A few of my friends commented about the quickness, but the people who knew us the best and our families didn’t question it at all and were just thrilled that we were getting married!  I think a few of them thought it was about time.  ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper

We started dating about a month and a half after we met as coworkers. We moved in together at 4 months, engaged at 5 months and getting married at 2 years and 4 months. 21 and 31 when we started dating, 22 and 32 when we got engaged, 23 (2 weeks shy of 24) and 34 when we get married.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

My Dh and I were maried 6 months and 1 day after meeting.  He was 26 and I was 21.  We were also expecting our son, so that moved things along a bit.  We were already talking about marriage though, and had already spoken to the Deacon at our church before we found out about our LO.  We both knew right away though.  We have been married almost 11 years.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@google:  We just got engaged and are going on 9 months together. We started dating pretty much right after we met. Our relationship has only changed a bit over time, mostly just by knowing each other more. I think it’s because we had a no-nonsense policy with each other from day 1 so we didn’t go through any awkward begining of relationship phases. We didn’t wait longer because there was no reason to once we both knew we wanted to marry each other. We’re 20 & 21.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had only been dating a year when we got engaged.  In fact, my Fiance pick specifically the anniversy of our first date to propose.  However, we had been very good friends for 3 years before we started dating.  We were both 27 when we got married.

When you find that right connection, sometimes you just know. ๐Ÿ™‚  We got married 8 months later and now nearly two years after getting married, we’re expecting our first child.  We couldn’t be any happier.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour

We got engaged after 8 months together – but we have known each other for 10+ years as friends

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