(Closed) Who got to pick their own E-Ring?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
3140 posts
Sugar bee

I picked my own stone and have been working with a jeweler on a custom ring (just approved the CADs last week!).  My SO has been involved in the process but I’ve been the one making decisions. (I may ask for opinions between options but ultimatley, it’s been my choice.)   

We’re doing the same (but with her in the driver’s seat) for her ring.  

It’s worked out well, so far.  We have really different styles so it would have been really challenging to pick out rings for each other.  It’s actually been a lovely romantic experience, working on 2 custom projects.  And we both have such particular taste that this way we are both happy.  

Post # 47
1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I went shopping with my fiancé. We went to the diamond district in LA and found the stone we wanted and told the jeweler how we wanted the setting. I never saw the final product until he proposed, but I was soooo glad I got to pick what I wanted!

Post # 48
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I kind of picked mine out 🙂 About a decade ago my mom gave me her wedding ring from her marriage to my dad. They had it custom-made in 1984. They divorced when I was little, but I was always close with both of them so it was very special to me. My first husband didn’t want us to use a “used ring”, so we got me a new one but I’m pretty sure I always liked my mom’s ring more. Luckily my second husband loved the sentiment behind this ring so now I’m proudly wearing it as my own wedding ring 🙂

Post # 49
35 posts

I actually would send my fiance’ pics of rings I like so that he would have options and when the time came I was still surprised. The one thing I forgot was to tell him my ring size so I had to get it sized and they kept it for 3 long weeks.

Post # 50
333 posts
Helper bee

My Fiance and I picked out my ring together. We went to a local jeweler and were able to pick the exact setting and stone we wanted. I was more particular about the setting while he was more particular about the stone. Because of this I chose the setting I wanted (while keeping in mind his budget) and he had a stronger pull when deciding the stone although we picked that together. It was a great experience, and I don’t regret it one bit. We are both very happy with how my ring turned out, and it was still a surprise when he proposed because I hadn’t seen the stone set in the setting before, we literally picked them out separately.

Post # 51
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Four Seasons Hotel Los Angeles at Beverly Hills

I picked my ring. I chose my center diamond, although he and I went together when he bought the stone, and I customed designed the setting with our jeweler myself (I did show him everything before the ring was sent off to be made to make sure he liked it too, as it is his money). Ultimately, like many other bees on this thread the details of the actual proposal will be a complete surprise to me. I got some stupid judgmental comments from a few friends when I told them I knew about the ring and what it looked like (who think everything should be a complete surprise and more traditional), but I brushed them off, as different things work for different couples and my bf wanted me to have exactly what I wanted…I think that’s just as romantic! 

Post # 52
3 posts
  • Wedding: July 2020

We are both so very busy our schedules are insane and so we never really have time to go ring shopping at local jewelry stores to try on and look at different styles. I knew from the start I didn’t want a diamond center and had my heart set on moissanite with a diamond setting. I gave him a few options (sent links via email lol) and had him choose. All 3 options I absolutley adored and couldn’t decide on my own anyway, so it worked out well. He was able to “choose” the ring and I was still surprised in the end. 

Post # 53
464 posts
Helper bee

I did. I am not a sentimental or traditional person at all, so I have no regrets. I feel like it also made things a lot less stressful for both of us because he knew I would be getting exactly what I wanted. 

Post # 54
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Picked and paid for my own relatively cheap ring (not a diamond) several months after we ‘officially’ agreed we should get married (there was no proposal, told him I would be mortified if he proposed, that sort of stuff makes me very uncomfortable).

I get bored easily and like variety so I didn’t want a single expensive e-ring, instead I opted to just purchase rings I like as I see fit and wear them on that finger, lol.

Post # 55
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK

My Fiance and I went shopping together and I got to pick it out. 🙂 I love it.

Post # 57
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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teamroro :  I feel like we are the same control freak person. I too have made ex’s mad because I couldn’t fake excitement or keep my mouth shut about how much I disagreed with a gift. On the flipside…. I have always gotten exactly what I wanted from my partner. He does not mind at all if I pick out my own gifts and when we designed my ring he let me pick out all the spec’s and his only request was that I could not actually see the stone/ring, sit in on the consultation, or step foot in the actual store. I gave him a TON of pictures with my notes and specifications and he took it to the jeweler. I am grateful that he understands me and it can still remain a GOOD surprise (OF WHICH I HATE SURPRISES IN GENERAL because they tend to be bad… But not this one) 

Post # 58
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I’m very particular about my jewellery, and when we were browsing around in stores and online to see what I liked, we couldn’t find anything that I loved. My ring is custom designed (I don’t have it yet!!) but I gave him a range for the specs of the diamond (which was a relief for him since I did the research for him … lol), but he is coming up with the design. I think since it’s something you will be wearing all the time, you should both have a say in it. I still don’t know what the final product will look like and I don’t know when or how he will propose!

Post # 59
707 posts
Busy bee

I picked out my own e ring when we decided that we were ready to get engaged. I’m very particular with what I like and what I don’t and the fi is very clueless when it comes to e rings/ jewelry. He didn’t want to buy a ring I wouldn’t like and I wanted a ring that I love. It seems very unromantic to pick out your own e ring but at the end of the day we decided it was best for us so that both of us are happy. In the end, he gave me the budget and I went out to look for the best ring within this budget. And great for him, I went below budget! It’s a win win. 

Post # 60
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I picked my setting and told him what type of center stone I wanted (amora gem) and which specs to look for- shape, color, etc. Long story short, he bought a stone 2 times bigger than what I was looking for, and we haven’t looked back since lol sometimes surprises can be a good thing.

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