(Closed) Who got to pick their own E-Ring?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 61
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

For months I INSISTED on being 100% surprised, then when I realized he was actually paralyzed with indecision and just wanted me to be happy, I emailed him a link to three rings I wanted, and he bought one. PROBLEM SOLVED! And he loves it too!

Post # 62
59 posts
Worker bee

I designed my own ring. I didn’t trust my Fiance to pick one himself. He has never bought me pieces of jewelry without my help, so I didn’t trust him with a big purchase like an engagement ring. 😊 

Post # 63
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

Yeah, my dude wasn’t into rings when I was, so I started looking on my own. If I didn’t know what I wanted, no way he was gonna know. He was actually going to get me a colored gem . . . which are very pretty . . . but I don’t like color. Lol I don’t wear color.

And then he scored some great gigs, gave me a price, and let me pick anything under that limit. That was the surprise, completely unexpected! I am SO grateful and SO happy to have been given the privilege to pick out exactly what I love. 😊

Post # 64
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I just did this a few days ago.  FI initially said he would choose it himself (after some input from me). That was fine by me as I trust his good judgement.  Then I think he realized it may be better to let me select it since this is an item I will likely wear every day of my life.  It was apparent that a solitaire setting was what we both liked.  So, he brought up the James Allen site and said pick a diamond.  About an hour later, my ring was ordered.  

I am anxiously awaiting its arrival which should be a week from today if all goes smoothly on their end. 🙂

Post # 65
365 posts
Helper bee

Surprisingly my Fiance picked it…never in a million years did I think he would have chosen such a beautiful ring lol we had talked about marriage and I knew it would happen but we never discussed a ring style. The one he chose is stunning and I can’t stop looking at it, he stressed about me liking it and loves it himself and I love the fact that he chose it for me. 

I always thought I’d chose it though, hell I even drooled over which one I’d pick every time I went past a jewellers lol! End of the day it’s going to be one our fingers forever so we have to love it 

Post # 66
540 posts
Busy bee

I helped him pick it. He had certain criteria he definately wanted and outside of that I could go and pick. I am so glad I did and absolutey adore my e-ring.

Post # 67
16 posts
  • Wedding: December 2018

I’m in the process of picking mine now!! Fiance had a silver and CZ ring custom made for the ‘proposal’ but we can take it back to the goldsmiths and the value of that put towards the ring if we want, however I’d like to keep it as the £ value isn’t much but sentimental value is huge!  

We are going back to the same goldsmiths to get the forever ring made and I can choose the exact style / stone I want.  He was very close to buying one outright but then got spooked and backed out!

To be honest, either route is fine with me – it’s nice to be surprised but also nice to be involved in the process.  Things he thought I would be really bothered about (i.e. diamond colour) I’m actually not so bothered about (I want a ‘warm’ stone as setting in rose gold) and it turns out we can get a larger carat dropping down a few grades.  

I’m not surprised it can be daunting for guys choosing a ring with the millions of options to choose from!

Post # 68
18 posts
  • Wedding: August 2018

I went with my sister and planned to pick out my top 3 so when my boyfriend went to buy one he could choose his favorite from ones he knew I loved. When I went and looked i realized there were ring styles I thought I loved that I didnt like on my hand. The ring pictured below was the seond ring I tried on and I FELL IN LOVE. i tried on a few others, but kept coming back to the vintage inspired setting. My boyfriend and I went back a couple months later so he could see it in person and so I could try on other rings so he could see what he liked. Luckily, he loved the one I loved! I sometimes wonder what kind of ring he would have picked, but i am so happy I got to go look becauese i found my perfect ring! I will say the hardest part is WAITING. I have no idea when he plans to buy the ring or how he will propose so i feel like the excitment is still there! 


Post # 69
976 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I thought I knew what I wanted… I had my heart set on a rose gold band and a small solitaire diamond. If my guy had of proposed to me with that I would have been thrilled but… he gave me a ring that he designed for me and it was something I never would have chosen for myself but it literally took my breath away, there was ugly crying. So I’m really glad I never dropped any hints. I wouldn’t change anything about my ring. But I would have been happy either way. I guess it depends how much you trust your mans taste?

Post # 70
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

He let me pick out my dream ring! We didn’t plan anything before he proposed, he just popped the question with a $10 ring from amazon. Then I chose exactly what I wanted afterwards.

Post # 71
4640 posts
Honey bee

SO told me that he has no clue about rings and I should go pick one out.  I’m excited about getting exactly what I want, but it feels weird to just go and do it on my own.  

We are older (37 and 52) and this will be the second marriage for both of us, so I wasn’t expecting a grand proposal, but it just seems weird to go and pick something out that costs that much money…and have someone else pay for it.

But I’m not complaining and will happily get my dream ring!

Post # 72
121 posts
Blushing bee

My Fiance and I had the conversation and I showed him some examples of what I liked and what I didn’t and he was going to pick out the ring. But after trying for a little while on his own, he was having total anxiety about choosing on his own because he is pretty clueless about jewelry and was worried about making such a big purchase without my input. So we shopped around a little together and I picked out three for him to choose fromso he could still choose and there would be an element of surprise. I had a favorite from the three but would have been happy with any of them, so I didn’t tell him which one was my favorite because I wanted him to have some imput on the ring as well. When I showed him the rings he said “It’s this one, no question” about the one that was my absolute favorite. We talked about what I would want in a center stone and he picked one out on his own. He picked the perfect stone to go in the perfect ring. I’m so happy we chose together, because what he showed me he would’ve chosen himself wasn’t what I really wanted.

Post # 73
17 posts
  • Wedding: May 2018

 he would have liked to choose because he enjoys surprising me and he wanted to be the “traditional man with surprise ring”

but i have really bad sensory issues, dont wear jewelry, and so i wanted to make sure we got something that i liked over all the others and wasn’t too expensive and wouldn’t bother my sensory issues as much as possible.

so i found something just right online and thats what i get

no need to go thru life feeling regret, things all worked out they way it was meant and ur ring is good the way it is

Post # 74
1 posts
  • Wedding: November 2020

My fiance used his mother’s original engagement ring and then took me to pick out the one I wanted the following weekend.

Post # 75
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

My Fiance and I got engaged without a ring, then went to look together after that. And thank God we went that route, because I ended up falling in love with a style that I hadn’t ever considered. Not to mention…I have no idea what Fiance would have done without any direction! 

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