Post # 1
My twin sister is handicapped, we both have cerebral palsy.mine is mild , but anyways does anyone have any good ideas I can do with her during the ceremony? I was thinking maybe she could have some flowers in her chair? Any cute accessories? She has a manual and a electric wheelchair. We are not sure which one we will take.
Post # 2
Cait2007: there was a bee a while ago getting ideas for a chair, and flowers or tulle were suggested for the back of the chair. It would be so pretty!
Post # 3
Is she in your bridal party or just attending as a guest?
If she is a bridesmaid it may be hard for her to carry a bouquet, but perhaps you could get a corsage for her or tie flowers in a similar arrangement to the bouquets to her chair? She could have a place by your side along with the rest of the bridesmaids.
If she is attending as a guest I would make sure there is a gap in the front row for her to park her chair during the ceremony.
Post # 4
Check out offbeat bride. They have lots of weddings with disabled brides and grooms, people come up with all sorts of cool ideas for chairs.
Post # 5
Feist: I was just going to suggest Offbeat Bride, myself! Great minds…
Anyway, Offbeat Bride has a whole archive of weddings featuring wheelchairs here:
Post # 6
OneDayMrsL: she is a bridesmaid. I haven’t really thought about a bouqute, so, i’m not sure what to do. She really and hold an bouquet.. Tulle would be nice.
Shrink-E-Dink: thank you for the link!
Post # 7
Can you make a silk cover for the back and seat of the chair in you wedding colors?
Do a dry run of the day. Make sure everything that needs to be is fully accessible is; ceremony location, any picture space, and the venue. Make sure all the doors are wide enough. Make sure all of the sites understand that the accessibility features must operational the day of ( No having to fetch an elevator key from the office ect.). Also make sure if you have a limo service they KNOW they can NOTsub out vehicles.
Post # 8
You could decorate the chair in your wedding colours and have another bridesmaid push her up the aisle. And she could have the bouquet just sitting on her lap. Also ribbons and also a sign attached to the back of her chair that reads, ‘Sister of the bride (insert wedding date)’ to make her feel important and included. There were a number of disabled people at our wedding so we kept the ceremony super short to ease physical discomfort!
Post # 9
Cait2007: Are you able to ask her what would be comfortable for her? I know there are various levels of CP and it can effect the ability to communicate but I think asking her might make her feel more included and make sure she doesn’t feel funny about highlighting her chair or illness.
Post # 10
I think this is really pretty:
Like Yipeebee suggested, you could use wedding colors for the fabric.
Post # 11
DH’s best man is in a wheelchair and so is my aunt (she wasn’t in the wedding; just attending)
100% do a private little run through before your rehearsal to forsee any accessibility issues prior to others being there watching/waiting. We did not do this and there were a couple parts that were slightly time-consuming to be smoothed out during rehearsal.
You can ask your sis which she would prefer. If she’s using her electric chair, she might not mind holding flowers. If her manual chair is being taken, the she probably will be using too much movement to keep track of flowers and navigation
a flower crown or wrist corsage are also options
Post # 12
I was just going to suggest a flower crown! Or how about a lei? I think something pretty for in front and back of her chair would be the best (so crown/lei/bouquet) from the front, and maybe a small garland draped across the back of her chair tied with ribbon on the 2 ends?
Post # 13
bridgesandstripes: Yes, flower crown and/or lei both sound nice. OP, what about having all the BM’s (Not just the one in the wheelchair) have the same crown/lei so the wheelchair Bridesmaid or Best Man doesnt feel singled out?
By the way, you can get lovely real-flower leis from Costco.com floral section. They’ll ship the leis right to your door! It might be an unexpected resource, so I thought I would let you know…
Post # 14
- Wedding: garden/backyard - July 9, 2016
My daughter has CP (spastic quad) and will be a junior bridesmaid in my wedding next year. We aren’t sure which piece of equipment we are going to use – walker, manual wheelchair or power wheelchair – but I figure we will dress it up with tulle, flowers, twinkle lights, that sort of thing. She seriously wants a big poufy ballgown which is totally not the way we were going to go but then I figured why not? Her parents are finally getting married, let her be a princess! Checking for accessibility is second nature for us now, as I’m sure it is for you and your family, so I am sure you have that covered. The one spot that often gets missed though is the bathroom facilities – they aren’t always sufficient. Anyone who has dealt with disabilities and accessibility knows that “accessible” is really just a buzz word and often things are more of a pain in the ass than anyone thought because they barely meet the requirements.
Good luck, can’t wait to see pics (if you are sharing) of what you decide to do!