Post # 1
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
This is a really difficult topic for me. I’ve struggled with my body image and eating disorders for a significant amount of my life, and I know that I want to feel beautiful on my wedding day (and my engagement photos next month). Ideally I would like to lose 10-15lbs and tone up. However…I’ve been wanting to lose that weight for a very long time, but my efforts always become extremely triggering and exhausting.
Currently I’m at a “healthy” weight, and my SO says he doesn’t want me to push myself too hard or stress myself out, and I really don’t know what to do. Over the past year I’ve become more active than before and I eat relatively healthy, but the scale always stays the same. The wedding is in over a year, so one would think that would be enough time to slowly change my habits even more, but I’m discouraged seeing as I’ve increased my exercise over the past year and that didn’t even do a lick of good (not that I’m going to quit because I do enjoy it, I’m just explaining).
I want to know who else decided NOT to lose any weight for their wedding and just maintained where they’re at. Again, my SO really wants me to just be happy now and to not push myself/make myself sick/get discouraged and upset if I can’t reach my goals. Of course he’ll support me if I do try, but I admit I am afraid I won’t be able to do it or maintain it and just feel like a huge disappointment.
Post # 2
I think there is WAY too much pressure on women to be at their thinnest on their wedding day. We all need to stop putting so much emphasis on losing weight for getting married. The people we are marrying love us for us. Not a thinner and supposedly more beautiful version of ourselves.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Maybe you just need a new exercise plan if the one you’re doing isn’t working. Are you doing measurements? I can be the same weight but lose an inch in my waist.
Try looking at Blogilates. She puts out a calendar every month (an hour of videos per day) and focuses on toning.
Post # 4
TwinkleBoss: ME!! Didn’t lose a pound, didn’t try. I’m not super skinny either.
Agree with LarLa: !! Let’s be ourselves!
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I’ve been trying to be heathier for 2 years now. I lost 15lbs but I’ve been stuck the same place for awhile. I’m “content” where i am now but I would like to tone up more. I’m not stressing about it and just trying to stay healthy/active because that’s what’s important not the number on the scale.
If you’re at a healthy weight, don’t worry about and it and keep up with what you’re doing. But if you’re working hard and not seeing any results then maybe you should evauate what you’re doing because it musn’t be working.
Post # 6
TwinkleBoss: First of all, you sound very hard on yourself. Your weight is only a portion of you as a person and it in no way determines who you are. Trust me, people will remember the bitchy bridezilla way before they remember the “10 pounds” she needed to lose. Your SO will remember how the wedding made you super stressed before he remembers your weight. No one is going to stand at the alter and force you to stand on the scale, so get that out of your head!
To answer your question, I did not set out to lose any weight for my wedding. In fact, I scarfed down Wendy’s chicken nuggets about 2 hours before the ceremony. I focused on getting out and active to help relieve stress and get me back into my normal routine.
The thing people forget is that you had this whole other world before you got engaged… then you get engaged and it’s wedding 24/7 for months. Dropping the wedding talk and going on walks, bike rides, horseback riding, etc helped me feel more like the normal routine before all the wedding craziness. It helped to relieve stress and enjoy the little projects. Take this year and focus on managing your stress and set the expectation that you want to enjoy this process, it is definitely an achievable goal. Find ways to make that happen by incorporating exercise or being active when you feel overwhelmed, even if it IS just walking to the liquor store instead of driving haha (true story).
Post # 7
Me! Kind of. I’m making some ‘casual’ attempts at getting a little more toned and maybe lose a couple pounds, but I’m treating it as ‘I’ll be pumped if this happens’ and not ‘I need to do this to be beautiful for my wedding’.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Ironically, I started trying to lose weight after my wedding. It was a struggle beforehand because we were spending a lot of time with his family and took some trips. I think I looked great on my wedding day, anyway!
Post # 9
I am trying to not lose weight lol. I’m a big girl but my dress fits me so I will wait until after the wedding to go back on my weight loss plan.
Post # 10
i was at a healthy weight and didn’t lose anything for my wedding.
i didn’t even diet, just ate what i wanted.
Post # 11
- Wedding: December 2014 - Loft
TwinkleBoss: I can relate to this on the opposite end of the spectrum. I am actually trying to gain weight for my wedding. I am extremely self concious about my best as it appears very boney and my dress is strapless so I am dreading that. I feel your pain. I think we all want to look our best the day we get married but really it is just one day.
Post # 12
Omg I have to post on this because I have been saying since I got a engaged which was almost a year ago that I was gonna start working out eating healthy blah blah blah and haven’t done it at all but I am petite 5 ‘2 110 lbs so I can’t say I wanted to lose a bunch if weight but I really did want to work out and tone up because I’m what you would call skinny fat right now if you know what I mean , meaning I don’t hVe much but what I do have jiggles lol so now I’m a month away from my wedding and everyday I say I will start tom so I basically pig out that day and now I just pig out everyday because I’m pressuring myself it’s not good if I would tell myself to gain weight and sit on the couch I would probably work out Nd eat right lol , now I Barely have enough time to tone up it’s crazy and being stressed with all I still have to do as far as the actual wedding goes doesn’t help but I am now trying to take that pressure off myself and maybe I’ll do some squats and push-ups lol
Post # 13
Lisasaurusrex: this is a good logic to have because the pressure only ends in me binge eating because I’ll start “tomorrow”
Post # 14
TwinkleBoss: I thought about this a long time ago since our engagement has been so long. I decided not to because I know that my family and friends all love me for me. I couldn’t give myself a good reason why I should lose the weight specifically for the wedding…I would like to lose between 10-20 lbs but between school full time and a full time job, planning a wedding, and buying a house it is not my top priority.
Post # 15
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
TwinkleBoss: I did not lose any weight, saw it end badly too many times on SYTTD!
Ironically, now 18 months into our marriage I’ve decided to lose weight and am thinner than I was when we got married!