(Closed) Who had decided NOT to lose weight?

posted 6 years ago in Beauty
Post # 31
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I did not attempt to lose weight. Infact, I gained 30 lbs for my wedding day.

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Maui

I am not trying to lose weight. Ideally, I would be about 10-15 lbs less and more toned, but I also had a touch of an eating disorder in the past, and I’m afraid if I try to lose weight it will come back. I’m finally at a point where I can eat anything I want without feeling guilty, not feel like I have to exercise off the extra calories I eat, and I am maintaining a healthy weight and feel pretty comfortable in my body now. I don’t want to ruin that. Also, when I look back at the pictures of myself from when I had an eating disorder, the painful memories of how miserable I was come back to me. I don’t want those feelings to be associated with my wedding pictures.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’m not engaged yet, but I have a couple friends who have said they are going to be soooooooooooo skinny for their wedding day. I looked at my boyfriend and was like um, I’ll be the same lol.

 

A couple of years ago I lost 50 pounds. I’m still not skinny but I’m healthy and in shape (went from 150-120). I’m not going to kill myself to lose a bunch more weight and then get depressed when I put it back on after the wedding.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee

I’m overweight, pushing obese.

I’m gaining weight before the “big day.”  Because screw all that lose weight crap.

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m not planning to loose any weight for the wedding. I’m over weight & pregnancy made it even worse but I’ve been this size for almost 3 years now and my SO loves me this way. 

I keep my African hair very short as well and since we announced the wedding date people have been asking if I will finally grow my hair so that I look like a bride and I always tell them never.  The one thing I would hate on that day is not being myself & I take it that trying to change myself now will make me feel exactly that way & I’ll hate myself for it.

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m generally trying to eat healthier an lose a little weight, but I’m not doing it specifically for the wedding. It’s more an overall life thing – I want to be a bit fitter and healthier for children (and a puppy) when I have them.

I’ve found this article really helpful:http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide

I think it’s a wonderful thing to be able to acknowledge that the person you’re marrying loves you exactly as you are – every fatty bi, every skinny bit, all the bad hair days and the rest. 

But I know it’s not easy to accept yourself sometimes, and I’m sure you’ll get some pressure as people just assume women want to lose weight, so good luck finding your peace with it xx

Post # 37
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Worker bee

This is the one thing that stresses me out most. Everyone, Maid/Matron of Honor, future hubbie, his mother … I mean everyone … is “working out and trying to lose weight”. I’m probably the heaviest out of all of them and I have been trying to but have some health challenges that are making it difficult. I feel like it is all anyone wants to talk about however and it has got to the point were I feel so depressed about my weight that I wanted to post poned the wedding. The other day I had a moment where I needed to tell myself that I would never be a size 2. I can either keep focusing on the weight issues and miss all the happy things that are going on OR I could just enjoy this time and realize that I’m doing my best to be healthy. It’s really stressing me out.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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TwinkleBoss:  Nop! I’m at a healthy weight and I love my curves!

Post # 39
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Helper bee

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TwinkleBoss:   Me!! i havent even considered losing weight/ starting a fitness regime. I am no model; and i dont have a perfectly toned body, although i am in healthy weight range. I am the sort that can gain weight easily and am curvy. I think you should just do whatever makes you happy – do not get influenced by expectations of others. If you are happy losing some weight as you have an ideal “look” you want to have at your wedding, then by all means start dieting and exercising! if, like me, you are happier off just maintaining your current weight, do it! (: (If photos are your concern… there is always photoshop.. (:)

Post # 40
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Busy Beekeeper

There is way too much pressure that women put on themselves. It’s ironic you were asked to spend your life with someone AS YOU ARE EXACTLY NOW. Not “Will you marry me once you have lost 20 pounds”. I’m not killing myself. I am making lifestyle choices that have ZERO do with the wedding. I’ll be a hot mama regardless because I know will feel amazing on that day. No because of how much I weigh. 

Plus, I just don’t see the point, stessing for the wedding only to gain it back. No thank you. 

Post # 41
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Bartram\'s Garden

I lost a lot of weight leading up to my engagement (for personal and health reasons).  Once I got my wedding dress, I actually gained 5-7 pounds, because I felt I looked too scrawny in the wrong places in such a womanly outfit.  I think a healthy body image is super important for everyone, but especially women, and DEFINTELY brides-to-be.  It’s more important to feel good, than to be as skinny as possible. 

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Love my body, why would I change for a wedding? There’s enough other stress going on, why add on the stress of weight loss? I’m at a stable, healthy weight, so I don’t think anyone will pressure me to lose weight. And they know that I’ll give them an eye roll if they suggest I EVER skip out on dessert!! But I think that no matter what weight you are, you shouldn’t HAVE to lose weight for the wedding. You are who you are, your Fiance loves you for who you are, you want to look like yourself, not some skinny minny who gains it all back after the wedding and looks at her photos saying “sigh I was so skinny then” — you should just look at them and see YOU, happy and glowing and in love! So no. No wedding weight loss. I’m getting married 100% ME 🙂

Post # 43
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Sugar bee

When I looked at the title I was expecting people responding who had a larger amount of weight to loose lol . If I was 5-10lbs from my goal weight I would be estatic!

I usued to be a size 5/6 and I am now currently an 11 I will be trying to loose weight but mostly because I am tired not feelng well because of it 🙁

 

Post # 44
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Helper bee

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angelinamarie:  I actually had pressure put on me by others to gain weight for the wedding. I actually did try to gain weight in a healthy way by eating more protein and bigger, healthy portions but couldn’t keep weight on due to the stress.

Good thing the camera adds 5lbs lol because I also look scrawny in weird places and could have used a few more curves! I felt beautiful though.

With all the wedding stress gone, I’ve gained a few happy pounds. I’m trying to not care about the scale, more about how I feel and a longer-term healthy outlook/exercise plan. I’ve had a touch of an eating disorder as well as a few other PPs.  

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Bartram\'s Garden

 

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pinkandgold88:  I’m happy to hear of your happy pounds!! I think the most important part for everyone to take away from this conversation is that it’s all about how you physically and mentally feel in your own skin that matters.  I am no skinny minny–I wear a street size 8/10, but i still embraced gaining a few to fulfill my own happiness in my own skin.  People thought i was crazy, but it doesn’t matter.  I learned a long time ago (in the size 18 life), to stop caring about others’ opinions and care about my own well being first and foremost.  Over and under eating are horrific side effects of emotional unwellness, and to echo sentiments of another social struggle–my body, my choice.  I’m happy to hear you felt beautiful on your day, regardless of weighty issues (hehe-puns).  Beauty really is more so reliant on a happy, positive attitude than a physical appearance.  <3

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