(Closed) Who had NO SAY in the ring?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Any of you letting SO handle the entire (choice of) ring?
    Yes - SO is doing it all alone : (48 votes)
    23 %
    Sort of - I gave him some hints and tips, but he is making the final decisions : (68 votes)
    32 %
    No - I wanted a say : (96 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 47
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I mentioned in passing that I would prefer a gemstone ring to a diamond ring, but that’s as far as it goes.

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’m WAY too picky for him to pick the ring out on his own and be 100% confident that I would love it, so we’re shopping together.  We’ve already gone ring shopping a couple times, but my tastes have changed and so have his.  I think August will be the final time we go.  I’m pretty sure I won’t change my mind again, but I need to try on my favorite style.

    Post # 49
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    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’m a former Waiting bee and before he proposed, the Fiance knew that I would have to be the one to ultimately chose my e-ring. I definitely welcomed his input but I’m way too picky for my own good

    Post # 50
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    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    My Fiance let me pick out the ring that I want. We both agreed on a budget, I shopped, he paid

    Post # 51
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    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @mscuppycake:  I was afraid of mentioning rings to DH! We’d been dating for just over a year, and he looked over, and was like “So, just in case we wind up… Doing… Something serious… In the VERY distant future… What kind of… You know… Ring thing so you like? Circle or square?”

    Which was hilarious, because Darling Husband was 27 then, and a mature adut. But he sounded like a 12 year old! It was adorable!

    I told him I liked round more than square, but didn’t really care, and that I like stones on the sides, but NOT the three-stone kind of ring.

    He picked a round solitaire with channel-set side stones!  And he proposed two months later! “Distant future” my BEHIND!

    Post # 52
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    321 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I had some say…have Fiance a few ideas I liked.  That said he went his own way but it’s so perfect and I adore it since he did it on his own.

    Post # 53
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    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @mscuppycake:  my fiance did it all on his own! we talked about rings once and def never went into a jewelry store together. he knew i like cushions bc i always favor things that look vintage and antique. (the day before he proposed he legit asked me which finger the ring went on. i was so upset bc i thought….this guy does not even know the engagement ring finger. i almost threw him out of the plane!!! such a joker) he knows my tastes and my style very very well and said when going through the process he picked something he knew would i would love and that would fit my personality.

    It’s funny bc im SOO picky people were shocked i didn’t pick the ring out myself bc it’s exactly what i would have picked for myself. he did such a great job. 

     

     

     

    Post # 54
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    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014
    Post # 55
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    2437 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @mscuppycake:  I voted sort of. My only tip was that I did not want a diamond. I wanted a natural sapphire. He picked everything else.

    Post # 56
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    1002 posts
    Bumble bee

    My SO knows nothing about jewelry (and has made it clear that he’s quite happy with this state), and I am a hobbyist jeweler and VERY picky about what I wear.  We picked out the set I’ll eventually be getting together,  but it mostly consisted of him saying, “I don’t know this stuff – what do you want?”  And then me answering, “This one.”

    Post # 57
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    1460 posts
    Bumble bee

    Waiting bee, I had all say in the ring. I pretty much did everything except pay for it and pick it up. I worked with the jeweler to source the stone and I chose the setting. My bf came with me to all of the visits and I’d ask his opinion like…”do you like this” or “which do you prefer” and I took his opinions into consideration, but it was pretty much all me. He didn’t feel really strongly about much of anything and was very adamant about the whole “it’s your finger, you’re the one wearing it” 

     

    He did allow the jeweler to talk him into white gold when I wanted platinum.

     

     

     

    Post # 58
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    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    We were together 8 years before getting engaged. I was blowing up his email box with ehints. He picked what ended up being my favorite of all of the ones I sent him. He knows me so well!

    Post # 59
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    43 posts
    Newbee

    My Fiance chose the diamond on his own. He wanted to make sure I like the setting so he emailed me a picture of the setting so i can approve it. I had no idea he already purchased the diamond and all he was waiting for was for me to choose the setting and my ring size. The ring took 2 weeks to be ready. Once he got the ring he proposed within a week!

    Post # 60
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    He chose the ring, I chose the wedding band.

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