Post # 1
I got my Jan. issue of Brides and there is a question to the men:
Q: What would you do if your wife didn’t want to have sex on your wedding night?
Answer 1-That’s why they make stimulants. I would run out to Starbucks for her. (age 22)
Answer 2- I’d be disappointed, and I’d expect something really nice the next day. (age 25)
Answer 3-It happened to me. She was wiped out, so I got drinks with my friends. (age 27)
Answer 4-Part of being married is to understand, but honestly, that’s not a good start. (age 30)
Answer 5- I don’t even know what that means! She has to fulfill her duties! I just gave her my life! (age 24)
lol the last two were a bit much, but I wonder how many people didn’t have sex on their wedding night.
Post # 3
There was a thread on this a while back and I was SHOCKED at how many couples did not have sex the night of!! No judgement, but, I honestly cannot imagine being *that* tired. lol.
Post # 4
Nope, didn’t happen. We were both exhausted, me especially (we had an after party and didn’t get back to the room til about 3am), and he was preeetty tipsy. I did put on pretty lingerie, but we both basically collapsed into bed. But we made up for it the next day and on the honeymoon 🙂
Post # 5
LOL – they sound like real “keepers”! In all honesty, I’d be disappointed too, but… just LOL.
Post # 6
Yeah, I can’t imagine being that tired. I think it helps that we won’t be drinking or anything, though.
Post # 7
As a former bride, I will speak up about this. Yes, I was that tired! First of all, the bustle was resting on my lower back and it hurt so badly. Plus my health issues that causes pain after being up and about too much and I was so not in the mood. My husband wasn’t either. PS – I didn’t drink and my husband only had a beer.
Post # 8
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: Oh, I can imagine that the bustle and actual physical pain would make for a crappy night. 🙁
Post # 9
I was sooooooooooooo tired but that said, I had been waiting all my life to make love to my “husband”. So I sucked it up, put on my silky white lingerie and, well, you get the picture. I’m glad we did. It was a special day throughout (obviously) but busy, ya know? So “that” time, along with the “I do’s” solidified everything. That’s not to say that I couldn’t see it go the other way, too. In that case, we would have simply made love in the morning.
Note to the OP: If my hubby said any of those things I would seriously start to consider who I married !!!
Post # 10
i voted no, we were exhausted on our wedding night to do anything – but 4 scuba dives (2 before and 2 immediately after the wedding) and a beach wedding in sun will do that to you
Post # 11
I wasnt tired… but I was on my period.
Post # 12
We’re still 10ish months away from the big day but I can already tell you that we probably will not have sex on our wedding night. I know its different when its your husband and all but we’ve “been there and done that” about a bazillion times so its not like we’re waiting for our wedding night to be intimate. We’re both totally on the same page too (he’ll probably be asleep before I am). If we have the energy then sure, we’ll probably get it on but its not that horribly important to either of us (theres always the next morning and the rest of our lives). Our reception ends at 11 and then we’ll have a 2-3 hour after party so by the time all the wedding festivities are over, I’ll probably just want that comfy hotel bed.
ETA: In the last 2 years we’ve known about a dozen couples who have gotten married. More than half of them didn’t have sex on their wedding night due to exhaustion.
Post # 13
We were soooo wired after the wedding ended at 1:30am.
We read ALL of our cards and our guestbook (while still in our wedding get-up), then we took all the pins out of my head and I took a shower. After my shower we had a bath together (My BMs had decorated our sweet with petals and candles. And then we had sex. It was the perfect night in my opinion.
However, we didn’t set any expectations. If we wanted to drink we were free to do so (we never have sex after drinking… I am not a fan of the insensitivity I get or drunk dick for that matter) but we were on such a high neither one of us drank. I think not having expectations made for a relaxed intimate evening.
Post # 14
I thought we’d be too tired and was prepared not to have sex, but we ended up having sex and it was wonderful 🙂
Post # 15
Considering I got about 3 hours sleep (and not consecutive!) the night before and we had an after party where we stayed out until about 3am (? I’m actually not sure what time we made it back to the room, I lost all track of time that weekend!) I figured it wasn’t gonna happen but it did and it was fabulous!
Post # 16
@FMM: Lol, we call it a “Liquor Dick” in these parts. =)