(Closed) Who had uneven sides and how did you deal?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Are there many friends on your list? You could ‘use’ them to even things out a bit! FI’s family is big and close, mine is middling big and not so close, so we’re compromising and not inviting any cousins if we can get away with it. I really want, to be honest, to have as many people at our wedding that we care about as possible, and that we want to spend the day with, rather than people we’re tied to by blood , but that we see at funerals, or exchange christmas cards with.

Post # 4
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh I feel you on this one. I’m knee-deep in guest lists right now, since we’re hoping to sign for our venue soon, and thus want to prepare our parents for the guest cut-offs so they don’t go verbally inviting everyone they know. (It happened to FSIL!) 
My side of the family is bigger, technically, but R’s side of “must invites” is HUGE – his grandparents all got divorced, remarried, and divorced again. So he has 8 people coming just from the grandparents side of things. Eek! When we added up the guest list so far, his was about 70% of guests if not more. 
I honestly have to say it’s just not that noticeable at weddings I’ve been to. You’re not supposed to “divide” the seating in my local culture/tradition, anyway, beyond the first few rows. So that’s not noticeable, and in my experience at the reception, as long as you handle your seating chart well, it’s rarely noticeable to anyone but you. 

Post # 5
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think it is really a big deal. This happens in a lot of situations. I would just make sure that your ushers evenly seat your guests and then in regards to tables if you want you can put a brides table next to a grooms guest table. The venue doesn’t have to have brides guests on one side and grooms on another. My brother just got married and for 200 people, my mother only got 25 guests. While it was a big deal that my some of our immediate family wasn’t invited to the wedding on the wedding day you didn’t even notice a difference.

Post # 6
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wouldn’t really worry much about it.  There’s no rule that says you can’t sprinkle your family/friends among his.  In fact, that’s what our banquet manager suggested to us.  Just to get folks talking and mingling outside of who they’d normally speak to.

Post # 7
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

DH’s side: 85

My side: 5

Friends: 30

Yeah. I’d say it was lopsided =]. We just had everybody sit wherever for the ceremony and dinner, yeah, my family was at one table and there were 10 tables of his family and then 3 tables of our friends. But what can you do?

Post # 9
226 posts
Helper bee

I have a very small family… okay I have a big family but I do not have contact with 99% of them. However the bf has a medium sized family but his family is CLOSE. So as far as family members fo I will have maybe 3… no joke. And he will have maybe 30. However we both have a lot of friends that will even it out (alothough bf was born in raised in the town we live in so he will def have more guests than me).

Oh and we will prob try and intermingle everyone as far as seating goes.

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