(Closed) Who has differences in families?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 32
2453 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Very different indeed, considering that his family is your typical American family and mine is Asian as heck. That’s just the beginning lol.

Post # 33
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It’s different, to say the least, and takes getting used to (like all things!).


Both our mothers are Korean, but his mother is more traditional than my mother. For example, apparently in Korean weddings, the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom are supposed to wear different colored traditional Korean dresses according to their roles. Mother of the bride is to wear pink, while the mother of the groom is to wear blue (or so I’ve been told). While I’ve asked my mother, grandmother, and other various Korean women in my life, they haven’t heard of this “tradition” at all and if they have, they say, “We live in America. We don’t have to do that.” My Future Mother-In-Law also says that the mother of the groom is not supposed to “out-do” or “out dress” the mother of the bride (again, something my mother has never heard of). Although I expressed my wishes to my Future Mother-In-Law that she wear a traditional Korean dress, she said she was uncomfortable “in her heart” to wear that dress, so I simply let the subject go.


My future in-laws have been together for over 25 years, while my parents divorced when I was 12.


My family is very close with our extended family on my father’s side. I’ve invited my grandparents, my one aunt, and one uncle to my wedding, while my FH didn’t even send invitations to his extended family (who live about 3 hours away). That confused me, but I let it go. Some things just aren’t worth fighting for.


My FH’s parents also let their kids stay with them until they get married, so my FH moved out just a few months ago at the age of 26. I moved out when I Was 18 (for college) and didn’t have to move back in with my parents (my mother, really) until a few months ago so I could save money for the wedding.


Unfortunately, that caused a blow-up a few weeks ago (my Future Mother-In-Law literally told me her son, my FH, “can’t take care of himself” which was just crazy to me). Don’t want to go into too much detail about that…


Whew, that sounds like a lot.

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