(Closed) Who has more friends?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who has more friends?
    I have more friends than my SO : (26 votes)
    31 %
    My SO has more friends : (39 votes)
    46 %
    We have an equal number of friends : (15 votes)
    18 %
    SO is the only friend I need and vice-versa : (5 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2703 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i definitely have more friends than Fiance. not that i have a TON of friends, but i think being a girl, it’s easier to stay “in touch” vs. being a guy and having a lot of friends who’ve moved away etc.

    Fiance has his BEST FRIEND from childhood nearby. which is nice since my best friend lives in chicago five hours away… but i also have old work friends, church friends, “korean” friends, most of the friends that i have kept throughout the years are like brothers/sisters to me. whereas, for Fiance he had a lot of “acquaintance” friends from being in a frat and knew a lot of ppl, but never made deep relationships with any of them.

    it works out either way, his friends (the ones that do exist :P) are my friends and my friends are his ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 4
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think we have an equal number of friends but he tends not to socialize very often b/c he works so much. He has a few friends that he has made in the past 5 or so years, but most have been his friends for 20 years or more…they grew up together. As for me…I have known all of my friends for at least 7 years or so.

    I don’t think it matters that much b/c we both tend to socialize with our friends as a group. So if he goes out…it won’t be more often…it will be with more people and it’s generally the same for me. It doesn’t take anything away from our time.

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    18637 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Right now we don’t socialize much with anyone because I have almost no friends here and all his friends are working and traveling all the time.

    Post # 6
    Member
    572 posts
    Busy bee

    I dont think it makes a difference in the relationship. I have a lot of friends but my Boyfriend or Best Friend has lots more! LOL
    He is one of those people that considers everyone his friend. LOL SO CUTE!

    Post # 7
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    406 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    i think we have equal amount of people we consider friends but the kicker is i am much closer with mine than he is with his. friend time is totally unequal and he gets dragged to events with my friends so often. in talking about our wedding day he has even mentioned he fears one or two might not show! THey are good guys, just need to get themselves together a bit. a few are still in the frat phase of their lives.

    Post # 8
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    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We both have about the same number of friends. We have a few very close friends, and then there are the couple friends we hang out with…like he’s friends with the guy and I’m friends with the girl in the relationship. I don’t think it make a difference. We’re both very big on making sure we have time with our friends…whether it be with each other or by ourselves.

    Post # 9
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    2271 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    My husband has friends everywhere. No kidding, he is the friendliest guy I know and can strike up conversations with almost anybody. I have many acquaintances but relatively few people who I consider friends.

    Post # 10
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    1103 posts
    Bumble bee

    We have about the same number but I have a more active social life than him. His best mate is married with 2 small children and lives 45 minutes away. His other mates just seem slack about organising to get together! I would have coffee/drinks/lunch/whatever dates with friends at least once a week and usually more, but he has 1 regular lunch date (with a guy he doesn’t even like that much! guys are so weird). No wonder I feel like my “fun” money goes a lot quicker than his ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 11
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I definitely have more, but I don’t think its a big deal. The thing is… Fiance is pretty much happy just going to work and coming home to me. He doesn’t really crave outside friendships so he’s pretty lazy about maintaining them. I kind of agree with him in that 90% of the time I’m happy just hanging out with Fiance… but I do enjoy my friendships as well. 

    The other problem is that Fiance has really outgrown his college friends. They’re still bonging beers. We’re so over it. My friends are slightly more mature, which makes things easier. I hope in the future we’ll make more joint couple friends. 

    Post # 12
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    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My fiance has more friends. He’s been friends with the same group of guys since middle school, and he’s still close with them. Me, on the other hand, I have friends that I go out to lunch with, shopping, etc, but no one that I would consider my BEST friend. I used to have a best friend, but unfortunately we grew apart because she was still into the whole party & clubbing scene, which I grew out of., and she moved to a different state. I do miss having close girlfriends, but honestly I have a great family & fiance, and I really couldn’t ask for more.

    Post # 13
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    1049 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    I used to have WAY more friends, but since we’ve been together he’s become a lot more social. He’s really close now with all of my friends from college and is starting to hang out more with some people he works with. It’s really good for him and I’m happy that I was able to make him a little more of an extrovert.

    I think I still have more though. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 14
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    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    my Fiance def has way more friends than i do. ๐Ÿ™ kind of a bummer and i get jealous at times.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My Fiance has a ton more friends than I do. He is a social butterfly and will talk to anyone. Me, I am shy and tend to have that leave me alone look, or so people say.  I am pretty much okay with it because I cherish the few close friends that I do have so much more.

    Post # 16
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    1932 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2008

    my fiance has more friends, he grew up with this large group and has been friends with them since grade school. All my friends change with each season on my life, I can count on one hand the friends I still have from high school, or college or this church or that church. I think at the age I am now, staying at one place in your life to be able to keep the same friends is really difficult. Graduating, moving across the country, going to school, working, switching churches, moving again, new church, new home – a lot of changes have ocurred in my life in the last two years. So it’s hard for me.

    Finally my fiance was the one to move, to be with me, and we’re finally settled into one place. Finally found a new church and will start trying to get involved. So he’s not going to be the one with the most friends for long, since he left all of his haha.

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