(Closed) Who has more than 1 kid? How did you decide you were ready?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Tatum:  We always knew we wanted more than 1. In my mind, that was pretty well not negotiable. No disrespect to people with 1 child, but I knew I wanted my kids to have at least 1 sibling. So it was a matter of when, not if, we’d TTC for #2.

And given that, I knew I wanted them close together. Looking after babies and toddlers is hard work, so I knew I wanted to overlap, rather than waiting until #1 was at school and starting over. As it turns out we had 3 kids, each about 2.5 years apart. I think i needed that time to recover (from pregagncy and the hard work of the first year) and that spacing was pretty well ideal for me.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had our daughter when my son had just turned four. I wanted him to be out of diapers and old enough to be playing with friends so there wouldn’t be any jealousy issues to deal with.

My philosophy regarding life altering decisions is generally If I’m not sure, I wait until I am.

Financial stress takes a toll on all members of a family. Maybe if you wait a while you will be in a better place to have another child.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We always knew that we wanted 2, and we started NTNP when Dirty Delete1 was 20 months-ish.  We both have siblings, but didn’t really grow up with them (DH is 7 years older than his younger brother, I’m 5 years older than my brother) so once we were settled in our house and had a pretty good rhythm going with work, home, play, and of course money, we felt comfrotable starting to try.  Now, we have a 3 month old and an almost 3 year old, and it is really busy and we’ve very tired, but the girls already have such a sweet relationship – by all means totally worth it.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

Dam for me it just happened. I didn’t even get a period in between. 

With them close together it’s hard.

I think a 3 year gap is probably a lot better. Mine are less than 2 years apart.

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