Post # 17
My sister and I are 16 months apart. We played okay when we were younger, but didn’t get along AT ALL from ages… 13 to about 20 or so. We are now 23/24 and get along ok. We have really different personalities, so I don’t think it was because we were so close in age, but mainly because we are just super different!
Post # 18
That is EXACTLY how it is with my cousins. I feel really bad for the oldest so I always try to do extra things with him since he’s so overlooked in his own family. I see a lot of myself in him so it upsets me that his parents don’t seem to really care.
Post # 19
One of my brothers was born in November of one year and my other little brother came in December of the next year. They are almost polar opposites of each other.
People always thought that they were twins and a lot of times, when they were little, we dressed them alike.
Post # 20
Agree. My sister is 14 months older than I am. It sucked for me too. My sister and I always had a play mate growing up because we were so close in age, but it was miserable because of our vast personality differences.
Having her go to school and leave fresh memories of what my stock “should” be like with teachers was an irritant, because I wasn’t my sister by any means, and I got sick of being compared to her. I didn’t enjoy being dressed similarly, and my birthday got overlooked too. Because of that, I don’t hold birthdays in high regard generally, and I’ve offended many people for not making a big production out of theirs because of how casually mine have been treated (OOPS!).
My sister could talk first, and much attention was paid to her growing up because she was doing everything “first,” so by the time I got around to reaching milestones, they didn’t seem to matter, because the family had “been there, done that.”
Please, take as many photos of #2 as you have for #1. Keep as many mementoes from #2 as #1. Let #2 know that they are loved just as well as #1 is.
Post # 21
The personality thing is HUGE!
I get a lot of flack because I want to have my kids far apart. People tell me to have them close so my kids will be friends, etc. I don’t buy it.
My brother and i were 2 years apart and HATED eachother. We didnt play, usually fought like crazy, and we’re still not close. I was always quiet and gentle and he was a holy freaking physical terror (to me).
No matter what the age difference, the kid’s personality will really dictate how they get along i think.
Post # 22
I am an Irish twin actually. There is a week where we are the same age. It doesnt matter much really. He is still just my little brother. If he were a girl we might be better friends, but he is a boy and the baby of the family so we dont get along all that much.
I guess it would really depend on the kids.
Post # 23
I guess it depends. In Africa where I grew up, especially at that time, it was very very common for people to have kids very very close in age. Um, let’s just say that the longest gap between siblings is about 16months so most of us really close in age. It made us much closer. I think it might be a culture thing though. And no, no one ever thought we were twins. We don’t even look alike. Congrats on your new baby.
Post # 24
@Quietserenity: congratulations!! how exciting!
my older brother and older sister are 11 months apart and my sister and i are 15 months apart. when my mom had me, that made 3 babies in diapers for her. she worked hard to get my brother (who was just over 2) potty trained.
i have to say the 3 of us were very, very close, however, when there’s 3, you will get “picking sides”. overall the bond is there. it’s actually my brother and i who are the closest.
Post # 25
My Fiance and his older brother are 363 days apart.
Post # 26
that’s really cool. i have heard of that. that would make them very close.
Post # 27
A yr and a half between my brother and me and I wouldn’t have had it any other way 🙂 we went to the same primary school it was great 🙂
Post # 28
I think a lot of it depends on how you treat them. Clearly, with some of the negative stories, one child overshadowed the other. I think as long as you treat them eaqually and fairly as well as individuals, they can be great friends.
While we’re not super close in age, my older brother and I are 18 months apart, and we’ve always been really close. My younger brother was 4 years younger than me, and we definitely weren’t as close growing up. Now that we’re older, we’re like the 3 musketeers, but it wasn’t always that way. It was a lot of my older brother and me ganging up on my younger brother, b/c my parents always let him get away with everything. Once he got older and stopped being a brat (hah), we started getting along better.
By The Way, congrats on your new baby and being pregnant!!
Post # 29
I am a twin and we’re extremely close. She’s my BFF. Our older sister is 2 yrs older and the three of us r sooo close!!! I love the relationship we have.
Post # 30
I am the oldest of my siblings. My sister was born 2.5 years after me and my brother 3.5 years. Both of my siblings were born in february and they are hyst under 1 year apart. I know it was hard for my mom having 3 kids under the age of four, but she always enjoyed having kids so close in age. My mom always talks about how my siblings were almost like twins and how they would talk to each other in their own special language and then laugh at what the other was “saying.” Good luck! You will be a great mom to your “twins”!
Post # 31
Congratulations! My kids aren’t quite so close (21 months), but from my own experience, I have to say that it’s never as bad as people make it out to be. Yes, there is an adjustment period, but just like you’re experiencing as a first time mom, once you get over the initial initial learning curve, it gets much easier and more enjoyable all around. Don’t worry; you can totally do this! Congratualtions again, and keep us updated! I’m really interested to hear about your experiences with 2 under 1!