Post # 17
Isnt it funny how moms always get into it on who should be our bridesmaids! My older sister went to Vegas to get married…now divorced…and I couldnt afford to go plus I was in college at the time…did she care nope! So do I care now to have her in mine…nope! Both my sisters are all about themselves and drama and I really wouldnt be able to count on them. Sorry mom! Too bad!
@Tammy Im really sorry to hear that she dropped out. It doesnt sound right because you were in hers. Maybe something else is going on? Good luck.
Post # 18
yup, i’m very familiar w. this. my mother is forcing me to make my 2 sisters bridesmaids along w/ my 2 friends. we never talk…..ever. we don’ get along. my fiance and i wanted a small wdding party (2), but now i have to add 2 ppl that i don’t even LIKE. greeeaaatt. AND she wants me to make my sister my Maid/Matron of Honor when my best friend was going to be.
Post # 19
d.marie your situation reminds me of a sex and the city quote. I don’t know if you’re a fan but it seems appropriate.
“The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them, and others you don’t, but in the end they’re the people you always come home to. Sometimes it’s the family you’re born into and sometimes it’s the one you make for yourself.”
Post # 20
My older sister is not in my wedding, either. We haven’t spoken in years, except one liners on Facebook. We don’t hold similar values or beliefs, which makes it really hard to have a civil conversation. I don’t know when her kids birthdays are, even.
However, just 4 days ago, she emailed me and asked why we don’t speak and if there was something she did to hurt me. In the spirit of our wedding and the new year, I chose to open up – and we’ve had a great dialogue about what’s been going on since we were children. We have 2 brothers (one between us, and one older than both of us) that neither of us are close to, and we’ve been able to talk about some of our feelings about them, too.
I’m beginning to regret not asking her to be a bridesmaid – I was in her wedding although I barely spent any time with her or the other girls. Also, FI’s sister is in our wedding but not standing for me; she’s on Fi’s side as a groomsmaid. Fiance thinks since my sister and I are just beginning to work through our issues, it’s OK that she’s not in the wedding. My mom already said that most likely, my sister won’t be coming to our wedding because it will cost too much (oh right – she and her family live in Europe; another reason we’re not close!).
It will be a wonderful time for us anyway! She will be there in spirit, if not body.
Post # 21
I have two sisters whom are 10+ years older than me and neither of them is in my wedding. Truth be told, we just aren’t very close (sadly). I don’t think they are upset about it.
Post # 22
I’m very close to my sisters, but I do have four of them. So instead of having a really large wedding party at an intimate 80 person wedding, I’m having my best friend of 20 years be my maid of honor. That’s it, no others. Maybe because they do understand me, they have no ill feelings at all. I guess I’m lucky.
Post # 23
It’s nice to know there are several of us going through this. I don’t typically talk about the situation with my sister b/c I feel embarassed about it — I think, who is this estranged from their sister? But it’s nice to know I’m not alone. 🙂
Post # 24
I only have one sister and she is 10 years older than me. I am not having her in my bridal party because she has never supported my relationship with Fiance because of his race. What finally did it for me was we drove all the way to NC from DC during the snowstorm that rocked the east coast in Dec 2009, to tell her about our engagement in person and she didn’t even acknowledge it or say congrats. She even tried to hook me up with someone that she thought was “right” for me mainly because this person is black. My Fiance is the just a good person all around and I couldn’t let someone who don’t know him treat him like that because he isn’t black. I decided that I only want people who have supported our relationship to stand by me. For me my wedding party is not about numbers or fancy dress it about people who love and care about us and can be constructive in their critisism if need be.
Post # 25
@Mocha I can understand what you mean about support and people who love the both of you together. Im sorry that your sister doesnt understand. My fiance is older than me and a lot of people in the beginning gave us a lot of bull about it and didnt understand that age has nothing to do with love. Good luck to you…go April brides!
@Miss Belle I love Sex and the City and cant wait for the new movie! And its true sometimes they are the family you were born into and sometimes its the family you make. I love that! And my family is def the one Ive made! 🙂 And its the best family ever!
@ Meg Im glad to hear that you and your sister are trying to talk again…sorry that she lives in Europe though.
Post # 26
my sister and i are 7 years apart… she’s turning 17 this year. we’re simply not that close. i love her and always will, but she’s not someone i share my deepest darkest secrets with.
my Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend since i was about 11. we’re keeping our bridal party small but only having a Maid/Matron of Honor and a best man.
my mum wasn’t very happy about not having my sister as a bridesmaid, but i stood firm… i think my sister will do a reading, coordinate the guestbook and possibly be the ‘MC’ at the reception. in other words, she’ll have other little duties on the day, she just won’t be a ‘bridesmaid’.
Post # 27
I’m not even inviting one (of my two) sisters to my wedding. The other sister might do a reading, if she’s not paralyzed by stage fright.
Post # 28
2 sisters! One is my Maid/Matron of Honor the other is not invited.
Post # 29
A lot of you are having your sisters do readings and others instead of being bridesmaids…but i think I wouldnt be able to even count on them for that. They would either forget, mess it up, wearing something too revealing or strange and i just wouldnt be happy!
Post # 30
We’re not having any family in our wedding. I have a brother, his fiance (will be wife by the time we’re married), and my FI’s sister.
My mom thinks it is weird that none of these people will have any part in our wedding, but we’re not close. Plus, my brother is getting married in August and I’m not in his wedding!
Post # 31
I got guilted into including my only sister even though we’re not that close. Definitely regretting it. She’s trying really hard to keep her crazy temper under wraps while we’re spending more time together wedding planning. I see and appreciate that. But, I still really nervous that she’s going to have some kind of fight or shouting match with someone on our wedding day. Ugh.