Post # 1
I feel like I should have never agreed to add them, no matter how much I was pressured to do it.
My mom knows, through my Facebook, that I really care about LGBT rights. But she uses it as a reason to lecture me about and recently was even trying to tell me that I shouldn’t go to churches if they are “distorted” and pro-gay. I’m actually bi, but mostly in the closet and just try to let it roll off my back.
My mom also tried to make me feel bad by insisting I was in town where she lives but did not visit her a few weeks back. I told her this was not true, I would know if I had been in town and she said her friend took a picture of me at a birthday party. The girl wasn’t me! Ughhh stupid drama.
And my MIL is liberal one week, and tea bag conservative the next. She claims to not be racist but she just shared a post that said “illegal immigrant today, democrat on welfare tomorrow.” I could laugh because her other son was on welfare on her insistence so they could mooch off the system. She’ll also try to guilt me and especially my husband, posting things about how she never hears from him since he moved away, even though he calls her at least every week.The other day she posted that she thought my husband had come to visit her at work because a tall man (he is tall) showed up and she started crying. She’s been posting a lot of videos of the kids she teaches and saying how much they mean to her and that they’re like her children. A few years ago she used to tell me and H about a plan she had to adopt one of her students as a foster child, because his parents were only feeding him PB&J sandwiches and dinner and she felt she could do better for him.
I wonder if things were simpler befor the technology boom, at least where moms are concerned >.<
I don’t want advice though. I know I have to learn how to deal with this better. But I wouldn’t mind hearing your stories.
Post # 3
I’m friends with my MIL on FB but she knows not to get too involved with it. She simply loves seeing pictures of my puppy. I don’t post too many things but I do “like” a fair amount of things. She knows not to say anything if she doesn’t agree. She’s pretty even and fair though so I’ve never had a problem.
Post # 4
@MRSsrm85: haha well you can’t go wrong with puppies.
Post # 5
I have my mom on FB and have had no problems what so ever…
Post # 6
I’ve got my mom and FMIL on facebook. I don’t post much so it doesn’t cause many problems. Every now and then FMIL will go back and comment on everything on FI’s wall for the past several months all at once which is kind of funny to watch.
The people I refuse to friend on facebook are my politically radical relatives that I don’t agree with. I already get your stupid chain emails, I don’t need you clogging up my facebook feed too.
Post # 7
@Eckle: Haha I begged my mom to stop with the chain mails. But I also changed my email address.
Post # 8
My mom doesn’t have a FB but my FMIL does. I’ve never met the woman but she friended me and now posts wedding stuff on my wall and comments on things. I just find it a little strange because I’ve never met her or even talked on the phone to her.
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@tmsing: I’m friends with my mom on Facebook and it’s kind of like watching a child on Facebook, she shares and re-posts EVERYTHING and does the same with politics as your mom. I know she doesn’t understand shit of what she’s re-posting and it’s infuriating because we don’t agree on politics.
MIL is a lot more mature than my mom, she has a Facebook that’s not completely set up but I don’t think she would ever be too involved, she’d probably just use it to see pics that DH and I post about our daily lives 🙂
FWIW, I have unfriended my mother during a particularly heated battle.
Post # 10
@tmsing: I get them from my uncles and they’re those ones with every line a different font size and color like they’re from the 90s or someone who is computer illiterate. Unfortunately I can’t change my email because it’s on of my primary email addresses.
Post # 11
I’m friends with my FMIL, FSMIL, and my grandma on Facebook (and lots of other family members of mine and FI’s). FMIL doesn’t really use it. FSMIL just likes seeing and posting pictures and posting about her kids. My grandma doesn’t use it a whole lot, either, but does send me cute stuff.
Post # 12
I’m friends with both my mother and my FMIL on Facebook. I have no problems with either. My mom is fairly active (at least as active as I am, if not more sometimes), but she’s not who I’d consider an “annoying” Facebook friend. Being friends with her has never resulted in any drama in our relationship. My FMIL is almost never on Facebook. I think she only has an account because her daughter made her one, and she only seems to use it to share photos with members of her belly-dancing class. She comments on photos/statuses once in a very great while.
Post # 13
@vorpalette: omg it would be so cute if my grandma had a Facebook though >.< She’s always going out of her way to say nice things to me and my husband lol.
Post # 14
I’m friends with my mom on facebook, SO’s mom doesn’t have a facebook. SO isn’t friends with my mom on fb, though. It hasn’t caused any problems, she just posts pictures (that she’s taken), likes and comments on some things.
I’m also friends with some of her friends and some of my girlfriends’ moms. It was funny one time because I was visiting my friend in DC and mentioned that we’d be having drinks…both our mom’s commented on it (“have fun!”) and it was weird because I’d forgotten I was friends with both of them lol.
Post # 15
I have my mom and FIL on facebook (no MIL really). My mom drove my sisters and I crazy for about a month and finally we sat her down and was like ‘listen mom, we have our own lives away from you and we will remove you from facebook if you continue to be overbearing’. she stopped immediately and now just writes nice stuff on comments or pictures, my FIL has only now started calming down from his facebook insanity. he would spend ALL FREAKING DAY on facebook (since he doesn’t have a job) and wouldn’t comment or like EVERYTHING you posted within seconds FOR THE PAST 3 YEARS! Finally DH straight up said ‘STOP!’ and FIL has now calmed down.
I hate that family can be on facebook sometimes. LET ME BE!!!! 🙂
Post # 16
I am very thankful that my mom hates and does not have facebook! My FMIL is on there though. She isnt annoying (yet).