Who here can't afford their ideal honeymoon?

posted 2 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 2
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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petitjordan :  We won’t be able to afford a dream honeymoon after our wedding. We will be taking a break for a few days after the wedding and we will be going back to the first place we went on holiday together, so it will still be special to us. Then we will continue to save and book our dream honeymoon for our first anniversary.

Post # 3
5557 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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petitjordan :  

Why not plan to do the trip when you can afford it? You aren’t owed a honeymoon.

We went for a long weekend at a bed and breakfast a month after our wedding and that was because people who came to my bridal shower gifted it to us.

Post # 4
159 posts
Blushing bee

You have to find budget friendly alternatives. Does it have to be first class? Can you go to a hotel with one less star? 

Post # 5
8207 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Anyone else feel this pain about your honeymoon? What did you do?

Just..not book a $20,000 honeymoon?

Post # 6
10548 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

A dream honeymoon would have been outside our price range. I mean, really I think most people could dream up a vacation that would be amazing but beyond thier price point. But we still had a totally amazing honeymoon at a price we could afford. It didn’t bother me at all that it wasn’t my dream vacation, there’s plenty of time in life for that. There’s no reason it needed to be my honeymoon.

Just do your ideal trip later, maybe for an anniversary.

Post # 7
953 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I can understand daydreaming and not being able to afford it, because seriously who wouldn’t want to fly first class to the Maldives? But depending what you consider affordable, there are a lot of similar options. Lots of all inclusives in the Caribbean/Mexico, some even have overwater bungalows like the Maldives/Bali/etc. I’d just research different ways to make it affordable. Even not flying first class, only going for 10 days, etc, will save a lot of money.

Post # 8
2188 posts
Buzzing bee

Probably almost everyone can’t afford their dream honeymoon, haha!  We waited a few months and went to Hawaii.  Would have loved to go to bora bora or somewhere really exotic.  Maybe someday!

Post # 9
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

You and I have a vastly different idea of “pain.”


We didn’t have a honeymoon. Gasp.

Post # 10
1547 posts
Bumble bee

Most people can’t afford their ideal honeymoon (of course everyone would travel in luxury if they could). We flew to Italy with Ryanair, stayed in average hotels/bnbs and didn’t eat out every night. It was still fantastic and going cheaper on other things meant we could stay for longer and visit more places. In your situation, fly economy, stay at a cheaper hotel or stay for less nights (or combine 1 week Maldives, 1 week Sri Lanka which is much cheaper). If you have your heart set on first class etc then you will have to postpone your honeymoon until you can afford it. 

Post # 11
2498 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would assume most people can’t afford their dream honeymoon. I would love to spend a few weeks in hawaii, or a few weeks traveling Europe, but unfortunately that isn’t in our money cards right now.

We opted for a 5 night cruise instead. Someday we will be able to take more “lavish” trips but for now we are doing what we can afford. 

Post # 12
3237 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

It would be foolish to break the bank on a honeymoon. We love to travel and have always found budget friendly getaways. My ideal honeymoon was being with my husband and I definitely got that. 

Post # 13
2219 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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petitjordan :  I feel like we had our dream honeymoon. Sure we didn’t fly first class or anything like that but we had one nicer-average hotel where we stayed for a few nights and one very, very nice hotel where we spent most of the honeymoon. We went to the Caribbean and stayed in an adults only all inclusive spa resort. The resort had butler service, 3 beaches, 2 pools and only 100 rooms which had a max of 2 people (so there would never be more than 200 guests). We had private transfers where possible. We used the spa. We accepted that flying first class wasn’t going to happen and didn’t let that dampen the mood or stop it being a dream honeymoon.

However, to do this we made our honeymoon the priority. We made sure our guests had somewhere to sit and something to eat at the reception. We made sure they were happy but the venue was a national hotel chain rather than more expensive, Pinterest-worthy options. We cut out the fluff for the wedding. Didn’t mess about with the save the dates, didn’t buy robes or ‘team bride’ stuff. We didn’t buy things that we wouldn’t use later. We kept our guest list minimal. We focussed on our priorities for the wedding (rings, church, cheap yet nice venue) and ignored everything else.

If you’re not willing to compromise on elements of your wedding and parts of your honeymoon then you’ll never be able to afford the dream honeymoon. Maybe the fluff of a wedding is important to you but only can decide if matching robes is more important than a dream honeymoon. If you work out what is important to you and what your priorities are, you can maximise your cash to make as many of your dreams come true.

Post # 14
2624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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petitjordan :  I’m sorry, this makes no sense to me. In a perfect world I would have my own private jet and travel wherever I want, but I realize that is incredibly unrealistic so I don’t even think about it.

My fiance and I did a lot of travel prior to getting engaged so we’re doing a small honeymoon in New Orleans (we live in Seattle), of course something tropical might be more fun but we’re realistic about where our finances/PTO stand and planned within that range. We’re not disapointed at all, we’re looking forward to this trip so much because it’s our time to celebrate alone, honestly I wouldn’t even care if we just took a few days off work to hang out in Seattle!

Post # 15
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

We would love to take a long cruise. But we can’t afford it right now so my parents gifted us a weekend in a cabin a few hours away from here. So we will do that and take a trip next year or the year after that.

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