Who here can't afford their ideal honeymoon?

posted 2 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 46
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Busy bee

My grandma, grandpa, and I lived together in a one bedroom shack with no plumping or door. We used a piece of huge wood over entrance as a door. So yeah, I lived in poverty as a child for a bit while my mom was hospitalized and my dad was in another country. 

So… not really pained if I can’t have an ideal vacation. But I was also exceptionally broke for a while. Any vacation you do have will be lovely because t’ll beautiful and you’ll be with your SO after a ceremony celebrating your love! 

Post # 47
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Busy bee

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jpchasez :  I’m weirded out by your short, question-based posts.  When will you be sending us the link about using rewards points, selling leggings and beauty products, and enrolling us in the MLM campaign?  

I joke about the Maldives often on Bee, because it is one of the few places on my list I haven’t yet gone.  I have a specific hotel and room type in mind.  I’ve found that gifts of “experience” are valuable to me, within reason, even if they are splurges. So I will wait until I have appropriate levels of funds to enjoy that vacation.

I did not have this requirement of a “dream” honeymoon when I married that you speak of.  I did have an idea of what type of environment and experience I wanted, and we selected our destination based on what fit those specifications within our budget and had an amazing time (luxury, private, romantic).  So, that is what I would do again: adjust my location based on the experience type we wanted, within our budget.  DH gave me a honeymoon cash budget, and I searched until I found something that was $104 above that number.

Depending on your room type and airport of origin, the Maldives can be 1800 a ticket for first class or 6800.  A room depending on season can be 1,400 a night or 9,800.  So it really depends on what you are paying, what your salary range is, how much of your disposable income that would be. If you have to pick up 2 months of overtime in order to afford the Maldives, sure.  8 months of saving? No way.

My honeymoon was not the first time I traveled, nor did I expect it to be the last. So I had no unreasonable expectations of how grand of an experience it needed to be.  Instagram seems to be making women outrageously over-demanding about proposals and couples unwise about their honeymoon choices. It is now all about capturing the moment in photos, rather in the memory, and I don’t enjoy that kind of “traveling.”

Is this even a real question?

Post # 48
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Blushing bee

I would think about what about the Maldives appeals to you and try to find a less expensive place with those features. Or, tone down on the airfare and resort requirements and see if that makes it more doable. Also, 2 weeks there might get a little long.

Post # 49
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Worker bee

This might be an unpopular opinion, but for us our honeymoon was much much more important than having a Pinterest looking wedding. We are getting married at my in laws farm in the country with 100 guests, then a month later we are going to Europe and singapore for 5 weeks…yes this does mean that we are kinda broke for the next six months, we pack our lunches to take to work, we don’t go out to pubs and rarely go out to dinner. But we are six months out from our wedding now and have paid for all flights/accommodation for our honeymoon ($9k) and are saving like crazy for the rest of our wedding costs…it really depends what your priorities are. We also bagged some fantastic deals booking so far in advance! My Fiance is also studying, and so not earning, so hey if you really want something and put your mind to it you can do it. You just have to be realistic with the hotels and not flying first class

Post # 50
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Worker bee

We have also been saving for our honeymoon for 18 months (2.5 year engagement!) because I knew that I wanted it to be special and to be able to spend over a month with my soon to be husband 🙂 

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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loz24 :  same here. We deliberately kept our wedding small and simple because we would rather spend the money on travelling than a massive one day party. It was a beautiful day, and we got to do our dream trip! 

Post # 52
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Bumble bee

I’m not sure anyone can afford their dream honeymoon/holiday. I know that I will never afford to go on my dream holiday even if I started saving especially for it, cause you know…I like to have food and shelter. Instead I have holidays that I can afford even if they are not my dream holidays, it’s still good fun. 

You either do a budget version of your dream destination, do the luxury thing to somewhere more affordable, save up and do it later or pick an alternative.

Post # 53
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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jpchasez :  A honeymoon is about spending a lovely bit of quality time with your spouse in a location you can afford. Holidays can be as cheap as you want or as expensive and they can equally be lovely irrespective of cost.

I’ve booked holidays through Luxury Escapes and they send me promo emails. I saw this the other day.

5 nights for AUS$5999 all inclusive for a couple minus flight costs. 

https://luxuryescapes.com/au/hotels?locations=Maldives

I’ve used luxury escapes lots over the last years. They are always great value and excellent holidays in accommodation that would normally cost us way more. Look into the above deal. 

Post # 54
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

ohariubride :  We felt the same way as you, we went on a 4 week road trip round the south west USA and a week in hawaii, and the wedding plus trip was still less than the UK average for a wedding. 

The dream trip can be done! It just means that you might need to cut corners elsewhere in the wedding. 

Post # 55
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Helper bee

We are going to Hawaii, it’s our “dream” spot but there’s no way we would have been able to afford it without getting creative. Both Fiance and I travel for work quite a bit so we’ve been hoarding points like crazy people. We’ll be flying economy there and back (we did have enough for our choice flights though!) and staying at Marriots/Hyatt’s (not the high end of the  brand but the decent). We managed to get this and our rental cars covered with points (only had to open 1 more credit card for the bonus points). That still leaves us paying for everything while we are there, we have our hearts set on some expensive activities so we’ll be bringing a cooler and packing snacks, lunches, and drinks while we are out and about during the days. It’s all about doing what you can afford

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

If you can’t afford it you find an alternative and if this trip is important than you make a plan with your hubby to save up and take the trip on your 5 year anniversary. There is no sense taking a trip you can’t afford because you won’t enjoy it and you will be stressed after the vacation. 

Post # 57
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

No, I wouldn’t take a second job for a honeymoon.  This is a little absurd, you can afford what you can afford.  Disappointed you can’t pay cash for a $20-30k honeymoon?  Ok.  TBH, unless you are significantly wealthy I wouldn’t waste $30k on a honeymoon in the first place.  I’d much rather take 2 or 3 (or 4 or 5!) trips instead. Sign up for scotts cheap flights or something and find some deals.  

Post # 58
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Busy bee

Who the heck is mortified at not being able to afford first class tickets?? You sound a special kind of entitled. 

 

Post # 59
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

LOL we didn’t have a honeymoon at all because we couldn’t afford it, and we only spent a few hundred dollars on our wedding, so there wasn’t much to cut there. We were barely scraping by at the time. We took a road trip to New Orleans for 4 days on our 1 year anniversary as our “honeymoon”. This is still the only trip that we’ve done that wasn’t visiting family or part of a work trip. Our dream trip is go to go Ireland, which isn’t really an extravagant trip at all, but we have other financial goals that take precedence.

FWIW, I don’t see any difference between spending 30k on a honeymoon and spending that much on a wedding. I find both pretty ridiculous unless you are extremely wealthy. 

Post # 60
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Worker bee

We definitely cant afford our dream honeymoon at this stage in life, but I content myself by thinking it really is all relative. We live in Ireland, which is already a dream destination for many. And our compromise for not affording a long haul holiday is that a short haul less expensive honeymoon for us will be mainland Europe. Ive read enough posts on the bee to know that lots of the more accessible countries for us are dream honeymoon destinations for others further afield.  

Meanwhile our dream destinations would likely be in the US or Canada which might not excite someone native to those countries. 

As others have said, the Maldives would be an amazing anniversary trip! My parents went on a very modest trip to Switzerland on their honeymoon as it was in their price range and they were delighted to simply leave the country. This year they took their dream luxury no expense spared trip to Hawaii to celebrate their 30th Wedding anniversary. So perhaps the Maldives can just be put on hold OP? Maybe not 30 years though…wink

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