Who here can't afford their ideal honeymoon?

posted 2 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 61
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Bumble bee

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jpchasez :  My “ideal” honeymoon would have been a month in Europe + an African safari at the end. Oh, and all travel on the Four Seasons plane.  And a shopping spree at Hermès in Paris. 

 

But alas, we have jobs we couldn’t leave for 6 weeks and we didn’t have $200k for a honeymoon. So we planned one we could afford – 2 weeks in Europe, business class there & economy back (since it’s a daytime flight coming back), a mix of splurge hotels and practical ones. Mix of cash and points. We didn’t go into debt for it. 

 

Is your post for real? 

Post # 62
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Helper bee

I think almost everyone has a dream vacation that they can’t actually take. rather than stew about it, why not either yes, take a 2nd job or something to be able to afford it if you REALLY want it, or wait and have a nice luxury vacation later?

 

I’m wondering if PP wants validation to use a CC or something for the honeymoon?

Post # 63
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Bumble bee

And also, it’s not like you’re going to drop dead after your honeymoon. You can always save a little bit each year and go for your 10th anniversary or some other special occasion. 

 

We do a splurge trip every 5ish years and in the other years we travel a little more modestly. I put aside the same amount of $$ each year for vacations so that every 5th year I have an extra $10k-ish in the vacation fund to go all out. 

 

You will not die if you don’t go first-class to the Maldives for your honeymoon. You’ve been watching too much Kardashians if you think the real world all goes on $25k+ honeymoons and people who can’t swing that are “mortified.”

Post # 64
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Honey Beekeeper

If you want to sacrifice or take a temporary second job to afford a honeymoon, that begs the question of whether you are in a position to put those extra funds towards luxury lifestyle choices at all. My guess is that the answer is “no.” 

Just because you manage to scrape up the money, doesn’t mean you can truly “afford” it or that it is responsible to spend it. 

Post # 65
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Busy bee

As to “mortifying,” I think you are confusing this:

With this:

Post # 66
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Buzzing Beekeeper
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jpchasez :  We can’t afford our dream honeymoon which would be a 2 week tour of Japan in Spring. We are having 2 nights in a nice hotel a couple of hours from where we live and that’s probably it to be honest. 

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I’m not sure I would call it “pain” lol

No one can afford their “dream” honeymoon… I mean shit – we’d all love to fly first class to a dream destination and eat and drink to our hearts content and be pampered and do lots of fun activities… but we have budgets for a reason.

If you have student loans to worry about, I would seriously reconsider doing a honeymoon at all at this point. Most couples I know didn’t actually do a honeymoon directly after the wedding. It is super common to wait and do a latermoon on your anniversary, giving you a year to save cash back up after the wedding. You could take a few days after the wedding and go spend some time out in the mountains or near a lake or wherever it is that you enjoy nearby and then do an anniversary trip somewhere more exotic. Again, that is what most people these days seem to be doing. 

Post # 69
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

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jpchasez :  Ah, no.. and I don’t believe I suggested that it was. But you said yourself that you can’t afford this OTT trip with your current finances, so although it is of course not a “sin” to spend extravagantly it most certainly is not responsible. I didn’t say that you have to do what everyone else does – I was simply providing you one option that I have seen done many times and that a lot of people seem to be very happy with. Sorry for wanting to help you find a way to have a nice honeymoon/latermoon that won’t force you to take a second job or load up a bunch of credit card debt? Jeebus.

Post # 70
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Bumble Beekeeper

 Are you from Chase visa or something

Post # 72
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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jpchasez :  no its not.. but to afford that you need to work harder and pick the right career..

If you dont want average then you better be making well above average income.. if your not then well suck it up..

If you have lots of student loans.. last thing you should be doing is going to Maldives… and first class.. lol ok. and mortified.. thats a bit much.

I would be mortified if i splurged 30k on a honeymoon without first paying for my schooling not the other way around.

There are many beautiful places in this world that are romantic and perfect and don`t come with that price tag

 

 

Post # 74
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

ideal. like tour the world for a few months in style.

instead we toured italy for 2 weeks eating and drinking our way though the county.

Post # 75
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We certainly couldn’t afford our dream honeymoon. I only had a week of free total—for the wedding and honeymoon. We could have waited to get married later when I had more time off, but I didn’t want to wait. The wedding cost us some money, so we really couldn’t completely splurge on the minimoon. You do what you can with the time you have off and with the vacation you can afford!! That’s life as an adult!!

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