Who here can't afford their ideal honeymoon?

posted 1 year ago in Honeymoons
Post # 91
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1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Our honeymoon was a 7 night stay at Sandals Montego Bay……..

 

Okay, okay, we were NEXT to Sandals…same diff right? We kayaked over 😂

And for what it’s worth, this was a cheapcaribbean vacation. We spent maybe $4k, ish. Would’ve loved to stay at Sandals but it would’ve been more than double that price. But such is life!

Post # 92
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3093 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

jackjackattck :  hm. I’m not sure I’d advise people to carry a balance for that long though. I’d be interested to know what you actually ended up paying in interest over all that time. 

Post # 93
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247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Queens, NY

I think I understand where you’re coming from, OP. I love traveling and I was raised to see traveling as an investment in my own personal growth. Language, culture, food, meeting people from a wide variety of backgrounds, etc. all contribute to who I am and help me learn and understand more about the world around me.

My travel bucket list is miles long and spans the globe and I have probably 30-40 of these Dream Trips you speak of, including a couple weeks in the Maldives. How I’m going to approach this once we start planning everything is to figure out the costs of the wedding I want to have (ugh NYC I hate you so much right now) and then rather than think of it as a Dream Honeymoon I’m trying to afford, I’ll look at all these possible places, figure out which options are the most feasible within my buget, and turn whichever one I pick into my dream that I already know I can afford.

If that turns out to be the Montana and Idaho trip that’s been growing in my mind lately, then Montana and Idaho it is! If it’s a week cruising the Med, off we go!

We will likely use credit cards to pay for most things, but then pay those off the next month. I’ve been insisting for months now on doing everything within our means and more. The fact that we live in NYC and are working on buying a house in the greater metro area is going to make that much more difficult, unfortunately, but I still have no desire to accumulate debt from this. I’d sooner elope and spend a week in a cabin in the Catskills than go into debt for a party. I’d most likely incredibly underwhelmed by it, but at least I’d have avoided the debt and married my partner in crime and life.

So my recommendation to you is to make a list of everywhere you would like to go and figure out what’s actually feasible on the budget you set for your honeymoon, then daydream about THAT trip and all the excellent times you’ll have with your spouse. 

Post # 94
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1976 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We couldn’t afford our dream honeymoon which was to spend two weeks in Bora Bora. So instead we went for two weeks to an all inclusive resort in St. Lucia and we had an amazing time 

Post # 96
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247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Queens, NY

jpchasez :  We don’t have the points for it that I’m aware of. We get some good deals on cruises, which is one of our favorite ways to travel because you can really get a lot for your money, but that’s about it.

Post # 97
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1364 posts
Bumble bee

jpchasez :  Get an SPG Amex, put weddings expenses on it = 50,000+ SPG points.  Work with SPG on a bundle flight + hotel using points + cash.  Fly coach & go for fewer days.  Do your really need two whole weeks at an expensive, luxurious resort?  Could you afford the trip if you substantially cut out of pocket expenses by going for a shorter stay and using points?

Right after my wedding all I wanted was to be somewhere kinda quiet & sunny to rest & decompress for a few days.  I would have been happy to do that in dozens of different places.  The last thing I needed immediately following my wedding was the pressure of a “dream trip” or extensive travel. 

Have you considered skipping the wedding, just eloping or going to the courthouse & putting that money into the honeymoon instead?  That is what I wished we had done.  

 

Post # 98
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284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We can’t afford our ideal honeymoon *at this time* – it’s been an insanely busy year for us because we are dealing with planning the wedding and renovating the house we just bought.  At the moment, we are strapped for both cash and PTO – we closed on the house a few months ago, have been doing some projects (Home Depot runs start to add up), but are still living in our apartment, which we will be moving out of very soon (moving is expensive), which means we’ve been doubled up on rent/mortgage and utilities (paying rent and mortgage at the same time has drained us pretty good).

But next year, we’ll have recovered our cash reserves, gotten settled in our house, and have the PTO to take the trip of our dreams, which is staying in a beautiful castle on the Rhine and drinking Riesling.  It won’t be cheap, but it’s not irresponsibly absurd for us like a five-figure trip to the Maldives would be.  I’d much rather put that kind of money into remodeling the bathroom or something.

Post # 99
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I never had an ideal honeymoon location I don’t think. I just knew that after all the planning and running around for the wedding, I just wanted a vacation to relax. An ideal honeymoon for me was very different from any other ideal vacation I would like to take. On other vactions, I like to go and see the sites and be active. That’s not what I wanted at all for my honeymoon. We stayed at an all inclusive in Jamaica for 6 nights for around 4k. It was perfect for relaxing. However, I would rather save a lot of money and go on numerous vacations rather than splurge for fancy hotels and fine dining every night in one location. 

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