- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Valentine’s Day? What’s that?
Valentine’s Day? What’s that?
We dont celebrate it. And that’s because of me. I don’t recognize it as a holiday. Everything is marked way up – and I would rather my DH brought me home flowers on any random day to say he loves me than on Feb 14th because Hallmark is telling him to.
We don’t even acknowledge it. I hate it when people say stuff like “It’s when you show your significant other that you really love them” or some crap like that… what’s stopping you from doing it every day?? We spend more effort celebrating our anniversaries because they actually mean something to us.
I picked no on the poll, but not because it’s a cliche waste of time. Just because, between us, we prefer to be spontaneous about romance instead of having to be told “this is a romantic day”. I look for the romance in the little things.
I wouldnt call it a ‘cliche waste of money’, because it is a special day for a lot of people, and aalthough it isnt important to me, doesn’t make it less special or less important to others!
Happy Vee-Day Bees 🙂
We don’t celebrate it, but I wouldn’t give someone crap for celebrating it or tell them it’s a made-up holiday. There are a lot of made-up holidays.
The only thing that irks me about it is when I get badgered about plans/what DH got me/what I got for him – if I say, “oh, you know, we don’t really do Valentine’s day,” some people (mostly men) like to imply that I’m only saying that because DH is an unromantic clod and that as a woman, I can’t possibly be happy without shiny things and chocolate.
I mean, of course I like shiny things and chocolate, but that’s not tied to V-day. 😛
It makes me feel good knowing we’re not the only couple who don’t celebrate it!
In America do u get it as a holiday? It’s only a day here in nz not a holiday at all. I think we try too hard to be American here, trying to make valentines day, halloween etc into a big deal when it’s American not NZ. Stil fun but kinda weird haha. All about consumers and making money ay
Its nice to recognise each other on valentines day and if you wanted to celebrat you need to communicate that to him.. ask if he could make a reservation for dinner or something? let him know yu would like to recognise the day without having to spend alot of money.. (mention u saw some cute little valentines day cards “i remember one i got and it was so cute” simple but meaningful?)
I guess we don’t celebrate it in the sense that we don’t focus on it. We tend to do valentine-like things all the time. For no reason we’ll just get a nice hotel room for the weekend. This sort of stuff is not planned 99.9% of the time. So if we just spent a weekend at a hotel, eating out every meal, plus wine for the hotel room then it make sense to just go and drop a ton of money a week later because the calendar says february 14th. We also tend to buy presents for each other for no reason. I think cards are a waste of money and prefer hand written letters(which he gives me, without me prompting), I keep the first rose he ever gave me in a frame with a poem he wrote me. If this wasn’t the case, I would probably want to make v-day a thing but since things are the way they are, I’ve never felt the “need” to focus on it.
Valentines day is my fiances birthday and the day we started dating 6 years ago ! So in a way it’s a win win !!
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