(Closed) Who Should Initiate?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@katy13:  try not to plan it so much in your head, it will come naturally as to who initiates and who does what…if you plan too much you might get nervous when the time comes..have fun and enjoy:)

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

You are overthinking this, fact is, the two of you will more than likely be blazing at the bit to get er done, so I would think of it as a team effort, regardless of who is where or doing what.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Just do whatever feels right on the night. A little spontaneity makes it so much better. I would probably expect the non-virgin to show the vigin how it’s done, but there is no particular right way to do it. The whole ‘husband’s duty to take charge’ idea is all bollocks anyway 😉

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

If he is a virgin, it will probably be over before you even get a chance to worry about this…

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

No need to fret about it. Just let it unfold. If he seems a bit stiff (no pun intended) and nervous, and you’re feeling like taking charge, then go for it! If he seems to take the lead, let him.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Be prepared to not do anything after the wedding. You might be exhausted, so don’t be disappointed if you wait until the morning.

Are you sexual now? Meaning do you kiss and make out? I would plan on doing that the wedding night (if you do anything) and see where that takes you. Don’t over think it!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why not let nature takes it course? You are putting too much importance on something that should be natural and initimate. You have so many other things to concern yourself with in planning the wedding and enjoying spending time with your Fiance put this to bed no pun intended. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@katy13:  honey, it’s going to last 15 seconds I’m sure so I don’t think you should worry about positioning. Lol 😉 If anything, maybe think of fun ways to keep it going over the honeymoon. Plan sexy little surprises and don’t worry about the first time. Seriously you both will basically attack each other…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh and mouth and vagina sensations are VERY different so don’t be surprised if his endurance is different than what you’re expecting. Awww, I’m excited for you guys. 🙂

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think more often he initiates, but its pretty equal.

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