(Closed) who invites themselves

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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5103 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s rude. And apparently A LOT more people than I ever realized do this.

I’ve had people ask on facebook, tell me they can’t wait to get their invite in the mail (gonna’ be waiting quite awhile there my dear) and just straight up ask me.

I would never.

 

Post # 18
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464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My sisters best guy friend (more like mooch, but hes nice enough) and I are friendly, and he resently had the nerve to say “yeah I cant wait to get trashed with your dad again at your wedding” uh…. Hes not invited, and we arent inviting THOSE kind of friends. He is in my MOHs group of friends so I just ignored it, and told her later to please not talk wedding talk around him and she knows who is and isnt invited. (Shes AMAZING!) If it keeps up I am going to talk to my sister about talking to him, because for some reason more and more of her friends are hinting that they are coming.

(BTW~ Close in age siblings is not always ideal in social situations… even more when one is VERY manipulative.)

Post # 18
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464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

*sorry… double post.*

Post # 20
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1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Wait until your guests invite OTHER people to your wedding.  This seems to be happening in every wedding.  Two of FI’s single guy friends decided they are entitled to bring a date to our five course – open bar wedding.  One apparently is called “and guest” and the other girl’s name sounds like she will be coming straight from an adult movie shoot.

Post # 22
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3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

People are honestly just excited about you getting married, and want to celebrate with you. As annoying as it is, I wouldn’t say it’s the rudest thing ever. If they are actually inviting themselves… that is rude… but not inquiring about it. I would just continue to give the same response you have been.

Post # 23
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239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Totally rude. But it happens WAY more often than you might think.

We’ve not only had to deal with people expecting invites to the wedding, we’ve recently been dealing with people inviting themselves to showers, who have nothing to do with the wedding. And I mean out-and-out saying, “I’d really appreciate it if I could get an invite” & saying things to guilt the host into letting them come.

Post # 24
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46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m late to this post, but feel relieved that I’m not the only one that has encountered crazy people like this.

Two people on facebook (that I wasn’t inviting and haven’t seen in like a decade) asked me when they should expect their invitation.  One instant messaged me with their address and after wrote “so you know where to send the invite.”   

Also, one of our groomsmen’s mom’s asked her son to ask us if she was invited.  And we told him that our list is very limited and we most likely couldn’t. Apparently she is ok with this, however she said she is going to sneak into our ceremony and then leave before the reception starts.  So weird, right?   So now I feel extremely rude not inviting her.  But we can’t invite all of our friends parents.  

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