(Closed) Who is always late? You or your FI?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who is always late? You or your FI?
    Me (My FI has to wait on me) : (59 votes)
    35 %
    My FI (I have to wait on him) : (66 votes)
    39 %
    We are never late! We know how important it is to be on time! : (35 votes)
    21 %
    Other (please comment) : (10 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    504 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    hahahahaaa, sorry :). I know what you feel, I get so annoyed when my fiance makes us late!

    Post # 4
    Member
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m ALWAYS late for everything and my Darling Husband is ALWAYS early. We actually used to really clash in that way but we are used to it now. My being late always bothers him and his being early is the thing that bothers me most about him… lol

    Post # 5
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    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    Ah, my Fiance is Army Reserves… so he really knows the importance of being on time lol. He’s literally had it drilled into him haha. I have a friend who is ALWAYS running late though… she just always seems to either be over-booked or she just doesn’t think that she reallly has to be there at a certain time. I just tell her we should meet 15 minutes earlier than we technically need to…

    Post # 6
    Member
    252 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    it’s me but I like to be on time or “fashionably late”..He likes to be early!

    Post # 7
    Member
    7456 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I’m usually on time, but my Fiance thinks being on time means you’re already 15 minutes late!

    Post # 8
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    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Being late makes me feel physically ill, honestly! Even if it is to something not that important. Fiance isn’t chronically late or anything, but he doesn’t have the same sense of urgency that I do. I work around it by building in some extra time when we’re going somewhere and starting to give (kind, non-bossy) reminders 30 minutes, 10 minutes, 5 minutes before we need to leave. He just doesn’t have that natural sense of time that I do. And God help you if he gets in front of a screen, especially a TV… he is totally sucked in with no concept of what is going on around him.

    I once had a roommate where we had to drive separately to the same event, just because her being late was STRESSING ME OUT. I wouldn’t hesitate to do that with Fiance if he were chronically late and it were causing stress in our relationship. It isn’t worth me getting stressed and snippy and him feeling resentful and bossed-around. If it really became a problem I’d just calmly ask if we could go separately to keep me from becoming a basket case.

    Post # 9
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    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    We’re not late when it comes to important things… but sometimes we both run late with less important things… and we switch off. Sometimes it’s me, sometimes it’s him. lol we suck ^_^

    Sorry if this is obvious/has been done, but have you told him how much it bothers you? 

    Post # 10
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    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I give him interval warnings at 30/15/5 minutes.  My dad always did that growing up and I do it to my friends and other family, too 🙂 I think “be there at 4” means get there at 3:55, Darling Husband thinks it means leave the house at 4.

    Post # 12
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    4049 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I make him wait, but only because he gets ready in like 5 seconds! I am not late though. I am actually very punctual. But I just take longer than him, so he gets impatient regardless. 🙂

    Post # 11
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    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @alotlikelove:  FI is the late one. Not horrifyingly so, but late enough to piss me off. I’m almost always early. He says it’s a cultural thing, and I know that’s a factor… but it makes me insane! One thing I do to cope is tell him “we have to be there at 9” when we really have to be there at 9:30. Or tell him that it’s alread 2, when it’s really 1:45, and we’re trying to catch the 2:15 bus haha. He’s improving, but I still feel the need to tell time-fibs.

    Post # 15
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    1685 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I usually just get really annoyed at him and start a fight Wink.

    It hasn’t worked so far, so I’m interested in reading the other comments.

    Post # 16
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    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Ellegee:  aaah totally get you on the “he thinks 4 means leave the hosue at 4” thing! Fiance also has a habit of telling me “on the way,” which actually means he’s putting on his shoes or about to get in the car. GRR! i tell him that i understand english is his second language, but he has preposition problems. that shit ain’t ON the way, it’s BEFORE the way. ARG!

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