(Closed) Who is always late? You or your FI?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who is always late? You or your FI?

    Me (My FI has to wait on me)

    My FI (I have to wait on him)

    We are never late! We know how important it is to be on time!

    Other (please comment)

  • Post # 17
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    3622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I am always early, and now WE are always early. I guess I’m lucky that he’ll get moving when I say we have to get ready and go.

    Post # 18
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    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m often late and my Fiance is irritatingly on time, but I think its because I have an insane schedule and he doesn’t. Its not hard to be on time when you are writing your dissertation, and just want to leave and do something else asap. 

    Post # 19
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    12 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Why does he always late? Did you talk to him before? I’d like to talk to him about this and try to improve the situation. Annoyed is not a good solution in this problem, and you two are couples in the future.So find out the reason,talk and solute.

    Post # 20
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    6261 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I am ALWAYS late

    Post # 21
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    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

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    @alotlikelove:  Did he work on stuff when you got back, or do you mean he just messed around and put off whatever he was going to do until it was really late?

    I’d ask him why he does it, point blank. What is the issue? Does he have issues with time management? Does he not know how long it generally takes him to get ready? Does he just wait until he’s supposed to leave, and then get ready or something, or does he just not care? It sounds like it’s often, and it’s not 10 or 20 minutes; it sounds like you’re speaking excessive amounts of time?

    I’d definitely ask him why he repeatedly does it, when he knows it’s really inconsiderate to you and it really frustrates you, especially when you’re waiting around to do nothing. Does he like to upset you? Is that what he’s trying to do? Because that’s what he’s doing, and he is the cause of it. 

    If he just says he doesn’t know why, doesn’t mean to be, doesn’t want to upset you, etc, then maybe you can discuss a solution that depends on the problem like… you call him when he needs to start getting ready, if time management regarding that is a problem.  

    If he’s just plain inconsiderate/being disrespectful/doesn’t care… I’m afraid that’s a whole different issue o_O

    Post # 23
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We both are ALWAYS early… especially since I was in the military, the saying is “Early is on time, on-time is late, and late is forgotten.” lol Fiance is just one of those people that run early. 

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

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    @alotlikelove:  No problem ^_^ Sometimes guys just need a lot of very specific details to get them to think. It usually seems to improve once they do that (assuming they care, which I’m going to assume he does 😉 ). I hope it gets better!

    Post # 25
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    3376 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Uggghhh, DH is ALWAYS late.  I’ve realized at this point that I need to just tell him a fake time that’s earlier than we actually have to leave.  If it something like getting to the airport (and being late would mean missing a flight), he can usually pull it together and be at most 15 minutes behind schedule.  But if we have more flexibility, for example, if we’re driving somewhere like my parents’ house one state over, we’ve left as much as 2 hours late.  It’s one of the things that bothers me the most in our relationship.

    Other than just lying to him about when we need to leave Smile, I’ve just tried to explain that it’s frustrating to me because I feel like he’s being disrespectful to me when he makes me wait so long and makes us so late.  He gets that and it makes him try harder to be on time.

    Post # 27
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    3263 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Late people annoy the crap out of both of us, so we’re very similar in that we like to be early or on time. If we’re by chance running late (we aren’t perfect) then it’s definitely at fault of both of us.

    Post # 28
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

    Erm… I voted other because it’s both of us!! Embarassed We are the worst.

    Post # 29
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    909 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My Fiance is always late. But his whole family is like that really. His dad isn’t from here and where he grew up they weren’t as concerned with time as we are in the US. It still gets on my nerves but I just let it go.

    Post # 30
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    3828 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We had this conversation last week. Fiance said he was never late until he met me because i dilly dally. I will admit, i dont like to rush and i’m a bit of a day dreamer. I lose track of time easily. 

    Post # 31
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    We are both from five-minutes-early families (or at least we were growing up, his family has given up on punctuality) and always show up on time. Always.

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