Post # 1
There are so many rants on here – and rightfully so, this is the venue for that, and some of the stories here make me so glad I don’t have a father, Future Mother-In-Law, Bridesmaid or Best Man, Future Sister-In-Law, whatever who is acting like that!
That’s sort of the point of this thread – who is being pretty darn good about your wedding planning? Who do you want to brag about because they are coming through for you like you never even thought to hope for?
My Future Mother-In-Law: While we had a bit of conflict in the beginning with the guest list, I am SO happy that she has taken the rehearsal dinner and run with it and made it something I DON’T HAVE TO PLAN. YAY! She picked a gorgeous venue and has been so great about trying to keep me from having to work on anything for it. Such a nice break.
My fiance: we have a really great balance of him contributing without necessarily caring about a lot of things. He knows just what to say when I ask him which shade of ivory napkin looks better: he doesn’t say it doesn’t matter or that they look exactly the same, he just picks one.
Lots of other people, but I don’t want to get carried away. What about you guys?
Post # 3
Gratefully my whole family both by blood and future marriage has been wonderful. Glad to hear of some positive!
Post # 4
My Aunts and Future Mother-In-Law…….they are being there for me and giving suggestions without taking over. I really appreciate that.
Fiance….he has been there but in other ways….love him 🙂 He was my shoulder the other night when I got upset that none of my friends and fam live in our area to help me plan.
Post # 5
My office mates have been ridiculously great!!! They have listened to me cheer, rant, giggle, scream…any and all of it, and try their best to help. One also accidentally CC’d me on an email titled “Surprise Shower for (FutureMrsBPB)” just the other day…but I was a good sport and deleted it without opening it. Love them all!
Post # 6
@FutureMrsBPB: That is so sweet! How awesome to have friends/coworkers like that!
Post # 7
I’m so glad you posted this, because there are a lot of rants on here, (which is fine) and I wrote on last night about how much I really appreciate two people in my life, and the thread got no love!!!!!!!!
my Sister in law (married to my bro for 13 yrs) is superwoman- she is so busy, but always asks if there is anything she can do, and wants to be involved in everything!
My friend since I was 12- lives out of state, and we have both kinda have different lives now, but she has offered to fly out three times before the wedding to help me! (I told her to save her money, and we can have one big plan-a-thon instead of three). She emails dresses, websites, everything. Its about 10 months to my wedding, and when I emailed her about bm dresses, and how I would perhaps just need her size info at some point, she literally had it to me within a day! I don’t even need it until next year! I just really appreciate how enthusiastic and helpful these two women are about my wedding!
Again, thanks for the thread!!!
Post # 8
P.S.- I was trying to think of ways to show my appreciation for them without just saying it. Ideas?
Post # 9
Honestly I do complain here sometimes but for the most part everyone has been awesome.
My mom has been the best though. She has helped me with EVERYTHING. We live 3 hours apart so I don’t get to see her as often as I’d like, but she always lets me blab on and on and on about the wedding. She emails me, gives me advice, comes to appointments with me and then says she feels bad… Like she not helping enough! Bless her heart.
Post # 10
AWESOME thread! I’m with you- while I understand the need to vent, I think it’s important to call out those that are making wedding-planning-life easy and fun!
My mom and sister are being great- and even my dad has taken some “projects” and really gotten in to them!
FH is finding the perfect balance of being helpful but not “too” helpful (ie if something isn’t important to me he goes with what I decide)
Future In-Laws are great, everyone is happy about the wedding and always asking how they can help
CO-WORKERS!!! They are sick of hearing about wedding stuff I’m sure but they always seem interested:)
Thanks for the up-beat thread!:)
Post # 11
My BMs, but especially my Maid/Matron of Honor and the one who would have been a groomsmaid if our parents hadn’t freaked out about the gender-bending. They’ve helped me with DIY stuff, been incredibly supportive, and my Maid/Matron of Honor recently offered to host my bridal shower. I love those girls so much.
My future in-laws. The whole family has been incredibly welcoming. Future Mother-In-Law, especially, has really tried to be supportive during the whole process. She’s not been really into planning everything like my mom has, but she’s been very supportive, and she’s taken over the whole rehearsal dinner so I don’t have to deal with it. FI’s grandma, too, has been awesome. I only ever met one of my grandmothers, and she died when I was still really little, and it’s wonderful to finally know what it’s like to have one.
My parents. My mom was a little overbearing at first, but she’s since mellowed out, and she’s helping out so much with planning and coming up with cool ideas and such. They’re also very generously hosting a morning-after brunch and paying for our honeymoon. My parents have been fantastic. They’re also so supportive of Fiance and really do love him.
My brother, surprisingly. We’ve never really gotten along, and he’s had some problems in the past with drugs and the law. Recently, though, he’s cleaned up, and he’s been calling to check in every other month or so and asking about the wedding. He’s actually really excited.
My photographers. I love them so much. Ditto with the owners of my reception venue. They win.
And, last but not least, my fiance! He’s been awesome. He helps with the DIY, he’s opinionated but not too picky, and he’s also the most wonderful man on earth and the reason why this whole thing is happening. I love him more than anything. <3
Post # 12
My officiant, who is also a very close friend. She has made the legal and spiritual part of this process so much easier. As well as helping me with emotional drama when others have backed out. All this despite some serious stuff happening in her personal life.
My family is being lovely, but they’re at a distance so they don’t have their hands in my business so much. I just call when I’m freaking out about something, my dad calms me down and my mom figures out a solution. They are such a team its astounding. Something to aspire to!
My Fiance has been really as good as I can expect, he doesn’t really ‘get’ planning. Though, when I ask him to do something and he understands that its important to me, he makes it happen. Good man. Also very good at back and shoulder rubs.
Post # 13
Great post! Surprisingly my mom and Fiance have been the best! I’m not doing a whole lot in terms of DIY stuff and our venue handles a lot of the decisions that I would otherwise have to make so I don’t feel like there’s too much. But, my mom hasn’t pushed me into doing anything I don’t want. She will make suggestions, but if I say no it’s on to the next thing! We actually agree on most of my ideas, which is kind of crazy. We’re also working very well together on the budget.
Fiance has been fun! Sometimes he gets more into than me, especially with the food lol. I do most of the choosing and then run it by him. As long as he doesn’t hate it, he really doesn’t mind. He was there for me almost like a girlfriend when two of my BMs dropped out. He talked about how selfish they were and made me feel better that they were gone.
Post # 14
My fiance has been wonderful. He listens, gives me real opinions, and helped me feel better when I was totally freaking out about finding a venue. I love him <3
Post # 15
My BRIDESMAID who lives very far away!
Post # 16
@sarahbabs:Oh your answer is better! I COULDN’T HAVE DONE THIS without *HIM* by my side!