Post # 1
So I was talking with my mom, who is going to coordinate with my Maid/Matron of Honor for my bridal shower and I was giving her a rough guest list. I included her, my bridesmaids, my Future Mother-In-Law, as well as my fiance’s aunts and two cousins. That list got us up to ten whole people, which I am totally fine with. I am not super pumped about a shower anyways. My mom said she thought there should be more people and started telling me to invite a couple girls that I work with. Whom I totally plan on inviting to the wedding, it just seems weird to invite them to a bridal shower…where they wouldn’t know anyone but me.
I don’t have a ton of family around here and my Fiance family is pretty small too.
So, my question is…was your shower pretty much just limited to your family and bridesmaids or were friends of yours that weren’t in the wedding invited as well?
Post # 3
We’re inviting the standard Mother, Future Mother-In-Law, Bridesmaids, Aunts and some of my female guests who are not in the wedding. So I think it’s definitely fine to invite friends who aren’t in the wedding. :o)
Post # 4
I’m having a small shower too. I don’t have any living female family members on my side except for my mom. Fiance has a handful of aunts that I know pretty well and they will be invited. Almost all of my bridesmaids will be there and the moms of my MOHs because I’ve known them forever and ever. I’m also inviting some of my friends who are not in the wedding too. I’m not inviting anyone from work, even though they’re all invited to the wedding. They’d be awkward because they wouldn’t know anyone else and I don’t want them to feel obligated to buy me anything.
Post # 5
I suggest having your wedding guest list set before deciding who to invite and then you can pick off of the guest list. We invited all the girls in my family, My Fi’s Mother, Aunt, Grandmother, his brother’s gf and 2 of his Cousins and I invited most of my friends as well. I left out a few who I’m not Super close to and live kind of far away. We didn’t invite any of his Mother’s friends that are coming to the wedding (there are a LOT). Often the groom’s family will also throw you a wedding shower especially if there are a lot of people in it. If it’s small then just the one will be perfect b/c people coming to both will definitely not have to give you 2 gifts!
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
we’re keeping it to all the women and girls in my family, and my fiance’s mom, sister, aunts and 1st cousins. I think we’re inviting 28 and will probably end up with about 15, which I think is just perfect!
edit: I guess I should mention that we’re not having bridesmaids, etc. so that’s why we aren’t inviting any friends
Post # 7
my shower was pretty big. it was all the local women who are invited to the wedding, and anyone in the wedding who is oot.
Post # 8
I know there are A LOT of people going to be invited to my shower. All my and FI’s family, extended family and friends.
Post # 9
My sisters have invited just my female family members, which is quite a few, my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law. They have not invited my other BMs. They told me it’s up to me, but they didn’t mail them anything. I have a huge family though so it’ll be just my family, my Future Mother-In-Law and then my two BMs who know no one. I told one Bridesmaid or Best Man about this and she said she wouldn’t mind being with just my family. What should I do?
Post # 10
As long as they are invited to the wedding it’s fine to invite both friends and family. They haven’t started planning my bridal shower yet but I’m inviting all of the females on my guest list. I can’t wait to hear all of their marriage advice.
Post # 11
Totally invited lots of friends that are not in the wedding, but are coming to the wedding. It’s completely expected/accepted in my circle of friends. I went to showers for all of them, regardless of whether or not I was a bridesmaid. Also, three of my mom’s closest girlfriends were invited, too. Again, my mom had been to bridal and baby showers for their daughters/DILs, so it was completely expected/accepted.
Showers are weird… the registering = asking for gifts, being the center of attention while opening presents, etc. But they are completely normal. Afterwards, I realized it was just weird for me leading up to the event because I had never experienced it before. But sitting there with all of my friends & family members, and seeing all of the smiling faces looking at me, I could feel their love flowing and realized how happy/excited they all are for me and how much they truly wanted to be there for me, at my shower.
Post # 12
My bridesmaids are giving me a shower in my hometown where my side of the family will be invited along with local friends (approx. 25 people). My Future Mother-In-Law is throwing me a shower in my fiance’s hometown b/c they are over 3 hrs away from each other. She is inviting all of her friends, my friends from there, as well as his aunts, etc. I believe she said she sent out 50 invitations for that shower.
Hope that helps!