(Closed) Who is doing your ceremony readings?

posted 6 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you may have anyone read. We chose non-party members as a way to involve more of our family and because the Bridal Party is already so busy that day. We had one grandma and three aunts do our readings, but it wasn’t strategic, just that we really wanted to involve them in this way and they were comfortable speaking to a large crowd.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We’re keeping our bridal party small – my sisters are my bridesmaids, FI’s brother is the Best Man, and his friend a groomsman.  We have 1 Flower Girl.  We each have selected a close friend to do a reading – we really wanted to give them a special role in the ceremony.  This way they read, we’ll put their names in writing on the program for doing so, and I’m hoping that means that they can walk in with the priest as part of the opening processional.

I don’t see any reason why you couldn’t select someone from your wedding party though.  Personally, I would just make sure that the person reading is someone that is familiar with church readings.  If they don’t go to church at all and aren’t really familiar with how that sort of thing goes, it might not be a suitable role for them.  Just a thought! 

 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I know I’m irrational but I kind of hate it when only bridal party members do readings. It makes me think, “Do they not like any of their other friends and family?”

What is the reason you feel most comfortable with the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen doing the readings? We have three readings and we’ve chosen a close mutual friend, a sibling who is not in the bridal party, and a godmother. We based it partly on the relationship and partly on who would be good at the job.

 

 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I recently attended a wedding where the Maid/Matron of Honor gave a reading but only because the person originally intended to do it couldn’t make it last minute.

I think ultimately, you can pick whoever you want, bridal party or not.  The readings are just a good oppurtunity to involve people that are close to you that are not in the bridal party, but if you’re not dying to squeeze in your best friend from 6th grade or your very close aunt-so-and-so into your ceremony don’t sweat it.

Go with who you are comfortable with!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We are having one of our close freinds who is not in the wedding party read a poem!  I have 3 bridesmaids and Fi has one groomsmen, I would have wanted her to be a bridesmaid but really didnt want to have 4, so I asked her if she would do the reading!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We are asking my godmother and an aunt Fiance is very close to to do the readings for us.  I wouldn’t ask my bridal party, because they already have a position of honor in the ceremony, and I see the readings as a way to honor other family members or friends who have played a big role in our lives.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We have to figure out who will do our readings also.  I think that I will ask my cousins to do the readings because I’d love to involve them in the wedding.  I know, as of right now, we have one reading picked out.  I don’t know if we’ll be adding anything else yet.  I haven’t asked my cousin but I hope she agrees to do it.  I think it’d be a special way to include her in our big day.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We had three readings. One read by a bridesmaid, one by a groomsman, one by my sister (she is in high school and is sort of a loose cannon, which is why she wasn’t a proper bridesmaid).

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

We’re having 2 readings- John 15:9-14, 17 and the Canticle of Love- it’s a response from the United Methodist Hymnal, but we’re doing it as a reading- it’s a compilation of 7 different passages, and includes Corinthians 13- I LOVE it.

My “godmother” (not technically, but basically) will be doing one reading, and I’m torn on the second person. My brother and I had a falling out earlier this year (family wedding DRAMA over no kids invited), and I’m still healing. I’d like him to be part of the wedding somehow, but I’m not sure I’m okay with him talking about love and peace during the ceremony- I may ask him to do the blessing at dinner instead. In that case, I’ll ask my Mom’s best friend to read the Canticle-I showed her the reading a month ago, and she also loved it. 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper

We had two friends who were not in the bridal party perform our readings. We didn’t choose anyone from the bridal party because we wanted to be able to include additional close friends in the ceremony. We also wanted our readers to be people who were pretty equally “our” friend.

But there’s nothing wrong with the bridal party doing it. I’ve seen it done before!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are having my moms best friend. I’ve always called her “mom #2” and her daughters are some of my best friends. I wanted to pick her because her and her husband have an amazing relationship and have been married for 30 years. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Future Sister-In-Law (who is not in the bridal party) is doing a reading.  We’re undecided about having a second reading, but if we do, I’d like to ask my twin brother who is also ushering.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Our officiant is doing a reading and then we are having a non-religious poem read by my fiace’s cousin.  My fiance’s brother-in-law who is an unordained pastor (or he would be marrying us) will hopefully do a reading or homily (sp?) and possibly a prayer at the reception.

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