(Closed) Who is giving speeches/toasts at your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
4375 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think that typically the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man do give speeches at the wedding, which is where your Bridesmaid or Best Man is coming from.  However, we did have an officially designated MOH/Best Man, so we just had our fathers give speeches (along with our short thank you speech).

We opened the floor at the rehearsal dinner to anyone who wanted to speak, as we knew a few of the members of the wedding party wanted to.

Post # 4
1674 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

Our Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man will be giving a short speech.  I asked my Dad if he wanted to…he said if your FI’s Dad does then I will too.  Not sure if the Dad’s are supposed to give speeches, but I thought the Brides Dad was supposed to? 

Post # 5
963 posts
Busy bee

The best man and Maid/Matron of Honor are giving speeches, then Fiance and I will thank everyone. That’s all we’re doing. We didn’t want to put people to sleep.

Post # 6
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@excitedtobeMRSF: My dad did, as well as both of our best men and both of our maids of honor.  Everyone did such a great job!

Post # 7
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Our Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man gave short and sweet toasts. 

Post # 8
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@excitedtobeMRSF:  We had a mic on the head table and whoever wanted to say something could say something (meaning wedding party and parents). I said a quick thanks before the prayer, best man gave a short funny speech, Maid/Matron of Honor said a few short words, my dad said a few short words because he felt bad that the best man stole most of my MOH’s speech material, lol, and my Father-In-Law told a really fucking stupid story to try to embarrass the hell out of Darling Husband (and it turns out it wasn’t even about Darling Husband in the first place), and everyone just stared at him for being an ass. Lovely.

The speeches were made throughout dinner so it wasn’t like, “Ok. We are going to make speeches now.” But if they are short, sweet, and to the point I don’t see an issue with multiple people giving speeches.

Post # 9
6529 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@excitedtobeMRSF:  at our wedding the two best men and two MOHs gave a speech together, and my SIL also gave a speech. and then us (bride and groom) gave a speech thanking everyone and my mother for helping

Post # 10
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Traditionally (OLD tradition) it was the father of the bride and the best man who gave speeches. The more contemporary tradition is whomever hosts, the best man, and the maid/matron of honor.

We did a lot of speeches at ours. It went like this:

Mr. Lk’s welcome speech (we were the hosts)

Course 1 served

Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor speeches

Course 2 served

1 representative from each family (my Dad and mr. LK’s Aunt) speeches

Course 3 served

Teen LK’s speech (This one was not part of the plan. Earlier in the day teen Lk approached Mr. LK and I and asked if it would be okay for him to give a speech. We reminded him to be conscious of the time and place when developing his remarks, and then gave our blessing and told him he could give his speech after the main course was eaten. Well, in one of the most incredible parenting moments ever, my boy gave the most touching, heartfelt speech I could ever imagine. Everyone, even the wait staff, were in tears. He brought the house down. Point being this- sometimes the incredible moments are 100% unscripted. embrace them.)

Course 4 served


We gave everyone who planned to speak a hard 3 minute timeline because we didn’t want people to drag on forever. I told them it would be like the Academy Awards, and that my DOC would drown them out with music if they went on for too long. 😉

Post # 11
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

My dad gave a speech, and then the two MOHs and the Bridesmaid or Best Man did toasts. On my husband’s side, a very close family friend read a poem in Farsi (his family is Iranian) and his sister translated it to English.

Post # 13
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I hate speeches, so probably no one.  FI and I will probably do a welcome/thanks for coming type thing but that will likely be it.

Post # 14
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Our Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) and Bridesmaid or Best Man both did speeches, as well as my mom, my dad and stepmom, and my DH’s parents.  My Darling Husband and I did a speech as well at the end of dinner.  

Post # 15
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@excitedtobeMRSF:  We haven’t really talked too much about it but I know my sister (MOH) will be saying one, and likely his best friend (best man), as well as his parents, and my father (my parents are divorced – and I don’t really see my mom wanting to stand up alone to say something).  I think my 2 best friends (also bridesmaids) will also want to say something.  Then of course myself and my SO will give a thank you speech.  Sounds like a lot, but I think they will all be pretty short and sweet.


As for tradition, I have always thought best man, Maid/Matron of Honor, parents and bride and groom so this is where your bridesmaid is likely coming from and just doesn’t want to step on any toes.  HOWEVER, I think that it really is something that is unique to every wedding.  I think because you and your sister are not close it would make sense for your bridesmaid to say a speech – she may have more of a relevant speech to give! 

ETA: my two best friends will likely say a speech together, not seperately. 

Post # 16
2120 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013


holy moly well the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man (he kept it short and she rocked it). thought it would be the other way around but we left it open mic. Thats the way i think most weddings are up here. So his dad, my step dad, a couple old family friends, his two brothers, my sister, my brother, an old high school friend who kept talking about his skate board (he was super drunk) and then once he was kind of kicked off almost cried to me about how he had so much more to say. i was sooo surprized at how many people wanted to say something on our behalf or thank you. at the end i said thank you but kept it short. i dont like giving speaches myself. The DJ had to cut it off cuz he said it would have gone all night! And i only had like 60 ppl at my wedding.

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