(Closed) Who is gonna throw my bridal shower?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

If you told your close friends you don’t want one, then they’re not going to throw one for you. And it sounds a little awkward to say, “Would you host a party for me?” Buuuut since we’re talking about your close friends, you can tell them you’ve changed your mind and I’m sure they’ll support you. I wouldn’t have a problem if any of my close friends asked me if they were in your situation!

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

Did you tell your close friends that you don’t want a shower because they asked you about it (meaning, they wanted to throw one) or was that more in conversation?

Are you having a wedding party?  Usually the BM’s or Maid/Matron of Honor will throw a shower for you… 

Post # 5
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1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You should probably bring it up at some point. Even go so far as to mention to people what kind of things you would like. If nobody offeres that I would assume you would be doing it yourself. If you stay quiet nobody will know or even think to ask.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

this is a weird situation, since you said you didn’t want a shower to your close friend. the bride (or couple) doesn’t plan the bridal shower. the parents don’t normally plan these either, unless maybe the siblings who are in the wedding need help “contributing” towards it financially.

what about throwing an “engagement” party? i think the couple could do that, but i wouldn’t expect gifts from it.

you could try to mention to your close friend (is this person in the wedding? i dont know that i would throw a shower for someone if i wasn’t in the wedding..) that you really DO want a shower. maybe something like ‘oh i saw the cutest bridal shower invitations online!” and try to veer the conversation to a possible shower for YOU.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@cosmocity: if it is your good friend and they’ve offered, I am SURE they would understand if you talked to them. Especially if you’ll help out with it (behind the scenes of course). IMO a lot of the normal etiquette rules don’t apply when you’re talking about your bffs 🙂 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

@cosmocity: I think you should talk to those friends and tell them you thought about it some more and would think a couples shower would be nice and ask them if they are still willing to plan it.  If they were excited to do something before, they’ll be happy to do it now.  Just make sure you don’t overstep whatever guest limit they are able to handle, etc.

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