Post # 1
Who is having a small wedding, of say 50 or under??
I read a lot of great information here on the Bee, but sometimes things don’t really apply to my situation because I am having max 30 guests! So things that seem like a splurge might be within budget, while other things like seating charts or wedding party might not be necessary.
Say HI and if you’d like, share why you are having a small, intimate wedding and how it is working out!
What have you found you CAN do because you are having a smaller wedding?
What are you opting not to do?
I am so excited, I was going to elope and now that this is an option for us I am having so much fun planning!
Post # 3
Hi-oh. My wedding has 27 invited guest. And your’re right! Our fist thought was to elope in Paris. But what were’re doing now is actually chaper, go figure. I’m getting my dream wedding for under 7k. While its pretty expensive when the cost per person is factored I feel like i’m getting a bang for my buck. 4 star ocean front resort, letterpressedDipioni silk lined boxed invitations, gormet food, black tie…..the works. I’m so excited. I’m having a ceremony and a dinner. So no reception formalities like the tosses or dancing etc.
Food was very important to my Fiance and I from the start. For 5k more we could have invited about 180 people to a venue a didn’t like to eat food i don’t like and well liquor because that’s what I would have been able to afford.
Post # 4
@rusticbee2014: Hi! My wedding is going to be right around 50 guests. I wanted to day to be about me and my fiancee and the people who have supported us. When it comes down to it, of family and friends? Right around 50 people we see regularly and interact with. I wanted to be able to go all out for guests I did have (good food, awesome venue, nice favors, etc.) and so slashing the guest list has really let me splurge on each guest.
Post # 5
I’m still a waiting bee but I really want an intimate wedding (either as few as 10 guests, no more than 50). Its such a precious day, I don’t want a bunch of acquaintances watching! That and I don’t want to spend a lot. Just want something meaningful and simple.
Post # 6
Our wedding will be around 55 guests or a little lower. We’re paying for the majority of it ourselves, hence the reason were going with an intimate wedding. I also like just having our closest family and friends there. I am a very introverted and shy person, having a large wedding would give me an anxiety attack!!!
Were still having a wedding party, 2 attendants on each side. This was important to us as these people are very close to us and we love that their standing up there with us.
With a smaller guest list we could have more wiggle room with our budget, although things are still pretty tight. We’re adding a lot of DIY touches to keep costs down.
I love that we decided to have an intimate wedding. It was the easiest decision to make in the wedding planning process.
Post # 7
I’m having about 50 in mine. It wasn’t really hard to do, because we both have small families. My best friends are all on the other side of the world 🙁 But I did trim the guest list a bit, because I’ve been to small weddings and large weddings, and I always loved the intimate ones. I especially love the wedding photos from smaller weddings!
I’m also glad that I’m able to “splurge” on a few things that I might not otherwise have done.
Post # 8
Our guest list is at 55 right now. I’d like to make it smaller, but it’s difficult to get out of inviting family, especially close family, even if they are complete assholes. I’m honestly expecting maybe 20 to come, but we’ll see. I’m mostly glad that I get to spend more money on feeding everyone and I get to spend more time with my guests.
Post # 9
Our guest list is at right around 50. I come from an enormous family, but I’m close with very few and we made the decision to invite the people who love and support us in our everyday lives. That is about 50 ppl. I have caught grief from my family over it, but this day is about the start of my new family (FI has three kids) and we wanted to do what makes sense for US. A huge dance party at 8pm is not us, and not a great environment for young kids. We are having a morning wedding, serving breakfast, having tons of fun games… Surrounded by the people we love. The focus of the day for me is the formation of my new family, my Fiance and our kids are my number one priority. I was able to splurge a bit on catering and decor bc I kept the list so small, so all the better. I’m sure there will be some family members thinking I should’ve cut back and invited more ppl, but I would have kept it small regardless. The fancy stuff I get to have is just a perk.
Post # 10
We’re having an intimate wedding next month. The ceremony itself will just be us and our families. Then we’re having a small dinner reception for around 25 people. But the thing is, we’re having a bigger wedding in July in the Philippines. We’re actually just having the wedding this May for legality since my fiance is not a US citizen so a wedding here will make things easier for us, documents wise. So the wedding next month will just be really simple. Plus since not all of our friends will be able to come to our destination wedding, we can invite them here. The ceremony is in the morning so we’re having brunch at a restaurant with family right after.
For the dinner, we’re having it at my fiance’s apartment building rooftop. Some of the food we’ll be ordering and some of it, my future Mother-In-Law and my aunt will be making.
The decor will be really simple. We bought some paper lantern lights and a bunch of tea light candles. Then we’ll get some fresh flowers and put them in an assortment of mason jars and glass vases and scatter them all over the table.
For the favors, since our real wedding will be in the Philippines, we thought of bringing a little taste of that. We asked my fiance’s brother who is flying in from the Philippines next week to buy packs of Chocnut (It’s kind of a nuttly chocolate that’s very popular in the Philippines.) which we’ll put in abaca bags (which he’ll aslo buy there).
That’s basically it. Since we’ll be having a bigger wedding in a few months, we thought of just keeping this one really really simple.
Post # 11
We’ve invited about 49 people. Hoping for 40 to attend. We chose (well I chose and fiance agreed) to have an intimate wedding because:
- I want only my nearest and dearest there to witness this sacred ritual
- it was either super small or 200+ and I definitely wasn’t down with the latter
- I’m paying for it myself…for reasons.
- We wanted to get married on the island where we met which meant a Destination Wedding, therefore precluding the possibility of every single friend and relative of ours being able to come
- I don’t have a great relationship with my parents and couldn’t see spending 12k+ feeding all their relatives and their dates
- I needed a manageable guest list because I really want to spoil everyone with great pre-wedding events, delicious food and top shelf liquor as well as academy-award grade welcome baskets
Post # 12
@pfizertobe: Wow, getting married in Paris for 7k, that sounds so incredible!
@kateisstoned: Exactly, me too! I love the fact that I can spoil my guests a little here and there, rather than having a larger party. Do you know what you are doing for favors yet?
@MsSunshineBee: I think that is the number 1 reason for me to have a small party too, I just feel like it’d be more meaningful if I can spend time with each guest throughout the night, and do things like write them a personalized letter. Little secret: I am still waiting too .
@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics: I can’t wait to see your DIY projects! And I love that you are having a wedding party of 2 on each side!
@Weetzie: @SouthernGirl: I am totally over the guilt of inviting distant relatives that would either get too drunk and create drama, or I just have never met or barely know. His side is estranged so we probably will only have about 10 family members, and the remaining 20 are close friends that have been supportive through our relationship. BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT THE DAY IS ABOUT, RIGHT?!?
Post # 13
I did a quick, small wedding for 17 people (including us). It was our immediate families anflour closest friends in the city. Since I didn’t live there and my now husband was deployed, I just emailed a few places to see what we could do. I eventually just set my hopes on a small neighborhood restaurant we used to brunch at a lot. they had never hosted a wedding, so I asked if we could host the ceremony an hour before opening, then have an open bar, then move to their private room once the restaurant opened. It was a ton of fun and couldn’t have worked out any better. I did my own flowers from a local wholesale and just picked up a bunch of votives and tea lights in various colors. It was perfect.
Post # 14
We’re having about 30 people destination beach wedding and also a second and final for us both:) so Fiance and I wanted to limit the guest list to those we are closest too. Each of our kids will be standing up. I can’t wait!
We are both paying for this wedding and I feel like that enables us to Have it our way. Intimate, fun, and casual just like us:)
Post # 15
– Boxed invites (only need to make 15!)
– Food: better quality, more appetizers and options
– Favors: photobooth, candy buffet, welcome bag with snacks, drinks, maps, activity list, bath salts and bath scrubs, personalized letters to each guest, hangover kit, smores, framed picture of guest with their loved one.
Another cool thing about a small guest list is that everything is manageable as a DIY!
I am so excited to show my guests a good time!
Post # 16
@dancingriss: what a great idea!
@Birdi: I think being able to/having to pay for the entire bill makes it easier to make the decision to have a small wedding. I am also having a destination wedding at a National Park! I think 30 people is perfect.