Post # 1
If you went to someone elses wedding is it etiquette to invite them to yours? And how to deal with the ackwardness (I have a feeling there will be people who think they are invited but not).
1. Their wedding was large (300) and so everyone was invited.
2. Ours will be smallish (80) and a destination wedding.
Post # 3
Etiquette does not require you to invite them just because they invited you
Post # 4
You’re in no way obligated to invite them. Having just planned a wedding themselves, they should understand the situation you’re in.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
There will ALWAYS be people who think they’ll be invited, but aren’t- even with the 300 people weddings. Don’t worry about it.
Post # 6
I went to my co-worker’s wedding, but I’m not inviting any co-workers to my wedding, so I say invite who you want!
Post # 7
I have been very vocal about my 23 person wedding and that I am only inviting closest family members; parents, siblings and grandparents. I still got an extremely awkward question from a girl I used to be friends with about 12 years ago asking if she wasn’t invited.
People will always make assumptions.
Post # 8
Just a correction.
Etiquette does not have any rule that you must invite everyone who invited you.
The only thing etiquette says about who you invite is that social units much be invited together.
Post # 9
According to etiquette, you do not have to reciprocate wedding invitations.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone! I feel less guilty about it. 🙂
Post # 11
@peonies09: a small, destination wedding? i think you answered your own question. no, not “required”. 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
THANK YOU! I thought the same thing. These misperceptions about etiquette are why some people don’t get the point of etiquette. They complain about etiquette guidelines that don’t exist at all.
Post # 13
If etiquette did demand that everyone must reciprocate wedding invitations, I would have invited a lot of big name celebrities and probably the Queen of England. I am always up for a royal wedding.