(Closed) Who is invited and who is not?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who to invite?
    Just who you want who cares about etiquette. : (49 votes)
    89 %
    Be nice invite them anyways.. they may not come? : (6 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Etiquette does not require you to invite them just because they invited you

    Post # 4
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    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You’re in no way obligated to invite them. Having just planned a wedding themselves, they should understand the situation you’re in.

    Post # 5
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    4193 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    There will ALWAYS be people who think they’ll be invited, but aren’t- even with the 300 people weddings. Don’t worry about it.  

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I went to my co-worker’s wedding, but I’m not inviting any co-workers to my wedding, so I say  invite who you want!

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have been very vocal about my 23 person wedding and that I am only inviting closest family members; parents, siblings and grandparents. I still got an extremely awkward question from a girl I used to be friends with about 12 years ago asking if she wasn’t invited.

    People will always make assumptions.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee

    Just a correction. 

    Etiquette does not have any rule that you must invite everyone who invited you.


    The only thing etiquette says about who you invite is that social units much be invited together.

     

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    According to etiquette, you do not have to reciprocate wedding invitations.

    Post # 11
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    1238 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @peonies09:  a small, destination wedding? i think you answered your own question. no, not “required”. 🙂

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    @andielovesj:  THANK YOU! I thought the same thing. These misperceptions about etiquette are why some people don’t get the point of etiquette. They complain about etiquette guidelines that don’t exist at all.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee

    @mrsSonthebeach:  If etiquette did demand that everyone must reciprocate wedding invitations, I would have invited a lot of big name celebrities and probably the Queen of England.  I am always up for a royal wedding.

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