(Closed) Who is invited to engagement party?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
3576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My take has always been whomever you invite to your e-party should also be on your invite list for the wedding. It doesn’t matter how formal or laid back. 

Post # 5
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am stressing about the same thing! The parents want to have an engagement part for us but we also wanted to a do a laid back party where the briald party (an more importantly their spouses, since they will have quality dinner time together next summer) could meet one another and hang out. We have decided to make the focus of that party a get to know the wedding party eventy  instead of an e-party. We did stick with the guest list for the wedding for the invites though to keep it from being weird down the road.


Post # 6
375 posts
Helper bee

I hate that this is a taboo to only invite wedding guests to E parties!

I am not engaged yet, but would love to throw a big houseparty where everyone could bring everyone that they wanted to celebrate an engagement. (no gifts either). I know that the wedding is supposed to be the party where everyone celebrates you as a couple, but not everyone gets to have the kind of wedding where they can invite everyone they want to (budget/space).

Post # 7
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

My mom threw us a surprise engagement party and invited some people that won’t be making the cut. I feel awful but I had no control over who she invited. I think if you keep it super casual and dont call it an engagement party you can probably get away with it.

Post # 8
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I tend to err on the side of caution. As a guest, I would feel somewhat uncomfortable attending a party — regardless of how informal — to celebrate a couple’s engagement when I knew I wouldn’t be receiving an invitation. So, my advice would be to invite only the people you know will be invited to the wedding.

Sidenote: there’s a way to “cheat” this rule, and that’s to hold a party for (ostensibly) another reason, and allow your friends to turn it into a celebration of your engagement. Did you recently buy a house/condo, graduate, get a new car, get a raise or new job, adopt a pet? You can invite anyone you want to what I call a “YAY!” party, and it’s more than likely that after you two make a toast for that reason, someone else will pipe up with, “And here’s a toast to the future Mr. and Mrs.! Congratulations on your engagement, we wish you all the best!”

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