Post # 1
I am helping to get a list together of people to invite to my baby shower and my mom and mother in law are both requesting that I send invites to a ton of out of town relatives I barely know, saying, “They probably won’t come but it would be nice to send them an invite.”
I feel like this will really comes off like me saying, “GIVE ME GIFTS!!!” and that it will be more appropriate to just send them birth announcements after the baby comes. What do you guys think – am I overreacting about sending them invites or am I right and its more appropriate to just send them birth anouncements later?
Post # 2
lisaelanna: I know I have a few aunts/cousins who like to feel included even though they live far away. Some of them even want to know to send a gift to the shower. One is planning on flying in anyway. I guess it just depends on your family. They can send a gift or not, but no harm in inviting. I don’t think it’s offensive or gift grabby.
Post # 3
I voted yes. Only because on my dad’s side of the family I have relatives out of state and they expect to be invited to these sort of things. It can actually cause issues if they are not invited. Some of them sent gifts, some cards, others showed up, and some didn’t do anything. I also sent them all an announcement after the birth.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Anyone who you WOULD no-question invite if they lived near by – yes.
Post # 5
I personally think baby showers should be reserved for the people closest to you, but it’s your choice. I wouldn’t want a bunch of people I barely know at mine.
Post # 6
lisaelanna: I voted yes. It doesn’t seem gift grabby, it just lets them know you’re thinking of them.
I ended up sending a bunch of out of town invites to my bridal shower, same reason. They didn’t come, but it was nice to be invited.
I wouldn’t think about it too much and let your mom and inlaws invite people.
Post # 7
I voted yes. Sometimes people surprise you by coming. I also have an aunt who lives half way across the country and really the only way she knows what is going on is when she gets invites to things like this. She won’t come, but she is by herself out there and likes knowing people are still thinking of her.
Post # 8
lisaelanna: I ended up inviting my son’s dad’s anunts- whom I had never met- because he wanted me to. I felt sort of weird about, but he insisted. None of them could come (or didn’t want to LOL)– but they all sent gifts with really nice cards.
I never would have included them on the list if he hadn’t insisted– but I don’t feel stupid about it. They certainly didn’t have to send gifts, especially since they declined the invite…..and like I said their cards were very sweet.
Also, my cousin lived in CA at the time of her baby shower– and she knew we couldn’t fly out there just for the shower. But she still sent invites to all of her MN family, knowing they’d want to come if they could….and I invited her to mine, too- when she lived in CA and I was in MN.
Post # 9
I voted ‘yes’ before reading your post. If it is someone close to you who lives long distance I would send one but if you don’t really know these people than I would not send one.
Post # 10
lisaelanna: I don’t think it sounds too greedy to send invites to people out of state. I have family that would like nothing more than to send a gift our way, as that’s the only way they can help with the baby or be a part of their lives. I think some of them would be offended if we didn’t let them at least know a registry number lol.
Post # 11
lisaelanna: But on another note – I don’t think I’d send one to the people I don’t really know. If it’s a family friend who has known me all my life, that’d be understandable, but for those friends of parents that I’ve only met once or twice – that’d be kinda awkward.
Post # 12
doesn’t sending birth annoucements seem as gift grabby? i think OOTers would feel as much inclined to send a shower gift as they would a gift once seeing the birth announcement.
Post # 13
I think it’s appropriate to invite family and close friends who live far away – I’m in the camp of wanting them to feel invited. I wasn’t sure if it was appropriate, but my mother insisted that my aunts and uncles would want to be included. So I’m inviting all out-of town aunts, uncles, and grandparents (baby’s great-grandparents), even those that I know won’t be able to travel. My MIL just gave me her list yesterday, and we’re also inviting my DH’s grandmothers and aunts from Puero Rico (several of which may actually come!), and my MIL’s best friend/neighbor who she thinks would be happy to be included in our celebration.
Post # 14
lisaelanna: I think I kind of fell in the middle ground with this one. I kept my invite list to just close family and friends, with the addition of 2-3 to the out-of-town cousin/aunt that I felt the need to invite – I kind of felt like they would appreciate being invited. In my mind, I’d keep OOT invites to close family members (and maybe super super SUPER close friends). But it’s up to you!