(Closed) Who is more “career oriented” – you or FI / DH?

posted 10 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

lol we’re both workaholics!  he owns a night club and i own a business and we are constantly working all the time.  he actually has to remind me not to take calls (he likes to spend time with me on sundays)

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Thats hard to determine… 

I own my own business so I’d say I’m more focused right now because if I’m not, I don’t succeed & don’t get a paycheque.

However, he has larger career ambitions. He plans to get in politics once we have a family because you know you can’t trust a single guy lol πŸ™‚

We’re both workaholics.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

We are both very career oriented but in really different ways.

Fiance is an amazing baseball player, and while he is going to school for psychology, his passion is playing baseball for the school. He will work out for hours a day every day of the week and has major hopes of getting signed to a team. Unfortunately he’s out with a torn achilles for the next couple of months πŸ™

Im very career oreinted in an academic way. Im majoring in biochemistry and have full plans to pursue my masters and most likely a phd in nutrition research. I could spend hours studying chemistry πŸ™‚

 

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I definitely think that I am.  We’re both in law school right now, but with the economy sucking, job prospects aren’t good at all.  My boyfriend is already talking about just taking a job as a public defender.  I want to be a professor, so my goal is to try to get a judicial clerkship, which were already super competitive but even more so now, for after graduation.  Instead of getting down about how hard it is and thinking about taking a job that I never would have thought about before law school, I’m just trying harder.  I’m already at the top of my class, but I’m not #1, so there’s room for improvement.  I’m going to try to be Editor In Chief of Law Review next year.  My boyfriend just gets discourages and plays videogames. haha.  It’s weird how we’re taking completely different approaches to the same situation.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Hahahaha, is it bad if I say he’s the more career-oriented one? I hate to say it but I’m seriously hoping not to work once the babies start, I’d love to be a stay-at-home mom and not have to work…It’s wierd bc I was a women’s studies major in college but secretly wishing for an old-school situation…Oh well!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

runrgurl10…that’s ok. I wish I could be a stay at home mom…well, when I do become a mom. But unfortunately, I don’t think we’ll ever have that kind of luxury πŸ™

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m probably more career oriented than he is, at least at this point in my life. He’s settled into a good, secure job and has money and upward mobility; whereas I have no job or money, my parents are so broke they can’t afford to give me more than $10 for gas, and I have a lifelong career dream that’s pushing me along. So I definitely have a pretty hardcore drive toward reaching financial security.

But I can guarantee you that as soon as I’m wealthy, I’ll be completely lazy and only do the things I enjoy. πŸ˜›

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@runrgrl: it’s nutty because i am the stay at home mom, even though i own my own business (does that make sense?!) i work only when i have events etc and i am constantly doing research etc

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Me… for a few reasons:

* personality

* upbringing

* age (i’m ten years younger and still carving my path – he’s achieved a lot of what he wanted to do)

*  i went through a bad divorce and so i’m very concerned about always being able to provide for myself and not be financially dependent on a man. 

That said, he’s very supportive and he’s also thinking about this more as we discuss having a family. 

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

We’re both very career oriented, but I’m the only one that could be classified as a workaholic in this family!

Mr. DG always tells me to work less!

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We are both NOT workaholics, woohoO! Our jobs don’t demand it and we place our highest priority on work/life balance. We’d both turn down jobs with bigger salaries if it meant we had to work more. It’s not something we want. I’d say we’re both equally driven, although I feel like I have more to prove than him. We both plan on staying in the work force and working full time, even with a baby. I wouldn’t be fulfilled by being a stay at home mom so I need more in my life and he is 100% supportive of it which is great. I’m just not content to hang around the house all day! I gotta do stuff and tap into my super nerdy brain and do like, ‘smart people stuff’ i guess (for lack of better words. i don’t mean that offensively, i just mean i have to utilize all that math and nerdy stuff i crammed into my brain for 4 years). Plus, i’m the one going for my third degree lol, so i got him beat there =]. Oh and we’re starting the baby thing at like, 24, so uh, yeah. Can’t really just afford to up and stay home yet! We definitely need the financial security. And there are things I’d like–nice jewelry, a nice home, the ability to buy something and not stress, and he wants, well, a mustang.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The Fi totally has his career picked out and so forth I one the other hand have no clue what i want. I want to marry him and move but thats all i know i would love to be a college professor some day though.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

It’s ironic.  I am starting out as an attorney and he is a school teacher.  But because of where we are in both of our jobs, we works three times as hard as I do.  He comes home and does lesson plans and grades and studies for his Masters in Speech Pathology until we go to sleep.  I think it is cute that he is so dedicated to teaching.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think if I had a job that I was sincerely interested in, there’s potential for me to be a workaholic, but currently, I’m nowhere near that!

My husband is moreso than I am. If I never planned any long weekends or vacations, I’m almost certain he would never use up his time off.

The more I work, the more I realize that life is more important to me than a career, and I’d be extremely happy raising a family and calling that my career. My college self would balk at the idea, but I guess I’m getting old πŸ™‚

The only career I could see myself getting into is wedding planning. I love everything about weddings, and what they represent. I’m seriously considering starting my own business, but fear and money are holding me back right now.

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