(Closed) Who is More Important, Your Spouse or Your Child/ren?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: What is more important to you, your Spouse or your Kid(s)?
    Spouse. The kids will eventually move out and guess who I am stuck with for the rest of my life? : (31 votes)
    30 %
    Kids. Spouses may come and go, but your kids will always be in contact with you. : (18 votes)
    17 %
    They are equally important in different ways. : (46 votes)
    44 %
    Sometimes I think my kids are, but sometimes I think my spouse is... I can't decide! : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Psshht whatever to kids.. I'm only raising furbabies and they are the most important! : (8 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think they are both equally important but it I ever had to chose I imagine I would chose my children.

    Post # 4
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My daughter. I made a commitment to her before I made a commitment to him. 

    But even if I had been married before she was born, I’d still choose her. Fiance would do the same for his son. 

    I brought her into this world. It is my job to always put her first-above work, above my marriage, above everything.

    Post # 5
    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Spouse, hands down. That’s why the only children we have are our pets

    Post # 6
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Eeek I can’t vote on the poll though. Although Annabelle is for life, I’d hate to say Mr. A isn’t.

    Post # 8
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I don’t have kids yet, but I hope that my husband will be the most important. Kids are a huge part of life and are important in their own way, but your spouse is someone you choose to be with for your entire life and that seems to be of greater importance to me. I mean, you do choose to have children, but you don’t choose who your children are, you know what I mean?

    Post # 9
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @Ms. Fox: I realized that but Mr. A isn’t so quick on the sarcasm. Stop reading my posts, Mr. A!

    Post # 10
    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My child is definitely my number one priority, but they are equally important in my life. And since I have son, let me tell you sometimes its like dealing with two teenage boys when them two butt heads!

    Post # 11
    565 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Ms. Fox – I did not vote either, my child will always be the most important thing to me, but I don’t believe spouses come and go either- I believe Fiance and I will be together until death do us part.

    The way I see it is that God gave me this child to raise and care for and that is and always will be the most important job and priority I will ever have, more important than my job, my money, or my relationship. I also believe a healthy relationship with my Fiance ( also her father ) is VERY important when raising her, our relationship is her first lessons in  how to love,respect , and treat  one another.  I also believe that it is My Fiance job to treat me as he would want somebody to treat our daughter one day, because this is where she will first learn how a women is to be treated by a man.

    If something ever happened where FI changed and was violent or abusive I would most definately choose my child’s mental and physical health over my relationship with Fiance.


    Post # 14
    4311 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Hard to say.  I’m kidless.  I know my kids will always be my kids and my husband may not be forever.  But both relationships need nuturing, and he has been part of my life longer and I depend on him more than I ever will my children.

    Post # 15
    642 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    This is a hard one to answer.  However, I am reading a book by two married psychotherapists called “101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married,” in preparation for my own marriage. One of the “101 Things” is…

    Your primary relationship is with your partner, not your children.

    Of course, this doesn’t mean that your children are any less important, but that you need to tend to your primary relationship.  And that the well-being of the relationship with your children is directly related to the well-being of the relationship with your partner.  

    Post # 16
    2271 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Actually My Cats! And Darling Husband knows it too!

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