Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
The boy and I are moving next week, so as we’ve been packing, we’ve been organizing things into four categories: keep, sell, donate, and trash.
I am not sentimental about stuff AT ALL. I dont save concert ticket stubs, greeting cards, anything. I have a few photo albums but I’m planning on ditching them once I get a scanner and save all of the images digitally. The only things I like to keep are clothes and shoes (and if I don’t wear them in a year, I get rid of them) and books. I don’t like getting rid of books.
The boy, on the other hand, has so much STUFF, and he didn’t want to get rid of any of it. He had a box of 30 Nintendo games that he was reluctant to get rid of – and we don’t even have the NES system to play it on. He has five GIANT boxes full of old Star Wars toys that we could probably sell on eBay and get a decent amount of money for, but he doesn’t want to sell them. It’s not like he still plays with them. He just likes having them. He also has a few dozen boxes of old comic books from the 80’s gathering dust, as well as a few hundred CDs that he hasn’t listened to since he got his iPod.
I know that the stereotype is that women are more sentimental than men, but in our case, it’s totally the opposite.
Post # 3
We are the same way. I am not sentimental and I hate clutter. It makes me happy to throw things away. I wouldn’t say Fiance is horrible at keeping things, but in my opinion he keeps way more than is necessary.
His mother gave him several large boxes of toys that he had when he was a kid (am I the only one that sees an issue that she actually kept ALL that crap?), and they are still sitting in our basement. He says he has gone through and gotten rid of some of it, but the majority of it is still there. I just don’t get it…*sigh*.
Post # 4
Definately my SO!!! He has half a garage full of lego, toys, all his school books, a million cds, old clothes from his childhood (“I can’t throw out this shirt, its the shirt I wore when my grandpa came to visit me for my 10th birthday”) Where as I have 1 archive box full of a few cards and letters, my childhood teddy, a few ticket stubs from our first few dates, and every love letter he has ever written for me. But it only takes up a foot cubed of space.
Post # 5
My husband has a ton of baseball cards. I think his parents have a ton of legos, Star Wars, and other things like that for us. His parents are crazy savers. We aren’t as much. I have some stuff saved from our big trip 4 years ago but I don’t really save cards or movie ticket stubs from when we first started dating.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
haha we are so the opposite. We are moving this week and for the last two weeks, he’s been making me throw out all sorts of things! I’m definitely not a hoarder, and I can part with most things, but I definitely get more attached than he does – he would just as soon gotten rid of everything and started over but I can’t do that! good luck with your move!
Post # 7
My husband keeps EVERYTHING. So does his mother. I tell him ALL.THE.TIME that we are going to end up on hoarders some day… it drives me insane. Despite the fact that all of our bills are paid online he INSISTS on keeping every hard copy of a bill. Boxes and boxes of old bills. And also… every card either of us receives for any occassion. It drives me bananas!
Post # 8
I was going to vote “We should be on hoarders” but I ended up voting that he is more sentimental. We were just talking yesterday how when we finally move in together we’re going to have absolutely no room for us to live because of all the stuff we have.
I am very sentimental with pictures and family memories- I do scrapbooking, I have boxes of old photos everywhere. I’m in the process of putting all of my 3 grandmother’s family recipes onto recipe cards so I can print them off of the computer. And I, unfortunately, save cards – hoping that I will one day put them in a book or something. Other than that – I get rid of everything.
He, on the other hand is sentimental with the same stuff as your Fiance – old video games, his Star Wars “dolls”, old toys that he used to play with that he feels bad throwing out, Rolling Stone magazines, oh yea…and his collection of sports memoribilia that’s taking over his room.
Good luck with this move. I can tell it’s going to be difficult for the two of you (you wanting to throw everything out….him wanting to save everything) I guess since I can understand both sides of the spectrum…I would just suggest to pick your battles. Don’t make him get rid of everything – but defintely pursuade him to donate the stuff that he really won’t need.
Post # 9
I canNOT get rid of sentimental things. It’s a disease and I would love to find a cure!
Post # 10
Oh my gosh, my Fiance is soooo sentimental about posessions! I mean, don’t get me wrong, there are certain things I own that I would be so crushed if I lost. Fiance is sentimental about pretty much everything that anyone ever gave him, haha. I’m a “I haven’t seen/thought about this in 3 months, throw it away” kind of gal.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I was, but lately I am in the “ack, we need to throw this stuff away!” mode.
Post # 12
hmmmm, this is a toughy. we both kind of are the same i think. i keep cards, hand written notes, art projects, etc. and Fiance keeps his old school books, school papers, newspaper clippings, sports stuff. we both save things for the memory, but he’ll save papers for practical/reference reasons and i’m more apt to toss something if i haven’t looked at it for a year.
Post # 13
I’m in this weird I have trouble throwing stuff away but I’m not overly sentimental. A few things yes, and definately moreso than my Fiance (I have every intention of making memory books just haven’t done it for 10 years). But I feel really wasteful throwing stuff away like maybe one day I’ll find a use for this.
Post # 14
Definitely my FH!!! I love him to pieces, but seriously… We just moved 2 weeks ago and he kept crap that has been sitting in a box for years!! Get rid of it!! I can’t stand clutter!!
Post # 15
I am WAY more sentimental about things. We are starting to work on it. I’m pretty sure we are about to go through all of our stuff and donate quite a bit.
Post # 16
I’m definitely more sentimental. Mostly for big family items, though. I can’t stand clutter and don’t keep much that doesn’t have some sort of explicit value. Every few months I’ll purge some of the stuff. But if anyone attempts to throw away a family heirloom (example: the three boxes of antique sheet music my grandmother was going to toss…!!!!!), I go berserk, grab whatever it is, and sock it away.