(Closed) Who is NOT doing a first look?

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

No!!  I want to see his face when I walk down the aisle!!!

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

No first look for us either. I too want to keep it traditional and not see each other before the walk down the aisle. I also think it would be weird to not be wearing wedding rings in our wedding photos.

Post # 45
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I didn’t do a first look either but we did get a picture before the ceremony – i hid behind the bridal suite door – its one of my fav pictures

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are not. I was actually pretty interested in having one at first but when I mentioned the idea to Fiance, he was ADAMANTLY against it. We are a very non-traditional couple, but this is one tradition that he absolutely will not change. He said that probably the biggest thing he is looking forward to on our wedding day is when they open those big double doors and he gets to see me in my wedding gown for the very first time. Once I heard how passionate he was about not seeing me until the ceremony, I got on board with him and am so excited for that moment.

Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am doing a first look with my Dad, but not with Fiance. Moms always get the special time helping their daughters get ready, so I really wanted something equally special with my Dad. I’m really, really, really looking forward to it.

Post # 48
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We wont be doing a first look photo….I think it will make ours ceremony more special and emotional!

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

🙂 Ok, I completely understand first looks.  The pictures are gorgeous and you get the opportunity to have a special moment with your spouse to be.  It is, however, possible to share a special moment and get your photos done without seeing each other.  We did most of our bridal party pics before the ceremony.  We left family photos and some with both of us until afterwards.  As far as the special moment, we did non-first look pictures.  Being able to talk to my hubby-to-be calmed me down as well.  We talked, laughed, and held hands without seeing each other.  It was a wonderful time.  I remember wanting to peek around the door, but our photographer wouldn’t let us.  The anticipation was great.  Here are our pictures. 

 So, if you want to follow in tradition, you can.  Just be creative!

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper

We did not do a first look, and I’m so so so happy we didn’t. I will hold the look my husband had on his face dear to my heart for the rest of my life.

Post # 51
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’m having a ceremony on the beach in the evening, so my photographer recommended a first look to us because it was the most reliable way to make sure we got all our pictures in before the sun goes down.

Fortunately she’s pretty laid back and was totally cool with me being absolutely ADAMANT about not seeing him until I walked down the aisle. We decided to just bump up our ceremony by 30 minutes instead.

I totally want to hold hands and exchange letters with him from either side of a door or wall or something beforehand, though. I think something like this is super sweet:

 

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@rachelmichelle:  this is a sweet idea to exchange notes

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I never heard of this until WB.  I don’t like it and didn’t consider it for even a second.  

Post # 54
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@NovaRising:  don’t like first looks?

Post # 55
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can definitely see positives of both.  For the first few months of our engagement, I planned to have a first look.  But I ended up changing my mind eventually, and do not want him to see me before I walk down the aisle.  I think a lot of it has to do with the music I’m walking to…it’s so emotional, and I think seeing each other for the first time at that moment will make it that much bigger!

Love the picture above with the bride and groom reading letters…might have to do something like that!

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Nope. I figure if every other wedding I’ve ever been to my entire life (and most weddings of our parents’ generation and their parents’ generation) have been able to get the pictures done without doing a first look, I’m sure we, as smart and efficient people, can get it done as well, lol

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m not a whole fan of the tap-on-the-shoulder thing, either. I was originally sure we were not going to do a first-look, but I am now somewhat debating this–it would allow us to better enjoy our cocktail hour and our guests, especially when the venue we’re interested in only gives 4 hours of event time (extra hours cost more). I’d probably have to figure out a way not to tap on the shoulder though. haha!

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