(Closed) Who is paying for your wedding

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: Who is paying for your wedding?
    Me and FH together : (56 votes)
    28 %
    Me, all by my lonesome : (8 votes)
    4 %
    My parents : (49 votes)
    24 %
    FH's parents : (14 votes)
    7 %
    Combination of FH and I and some parental contribution : (74 votes)
    36 %
    Someone else altogether (relative etc) : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Honeymoon/rings- us

    wedding- 50/50 split between us and my parents

    rehearsal dinner- his parents

    Post # 4
    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    FH and I already share accounts so we are paying for everything except for the meal at the reception. His Daddy has generously offered to pay for that:)

    Post # 5
    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My Fiance and I already have joint checking and savings accounts… we live together and he is awful with bills so I handle all the financials. But obviously both of our paychecks go into the same account. We are paying for the wedding completely ourselves minus my parents paying for half of my dress… So technically both Fiance and I are footing the bill.. At this time I am contributing somewhat more bc I am bringing home more money… All that changes in a week or so .. (darn I like being the breadwinner lol)

    Post # 6
    4582 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Fiance and I are planning on splitting the cost 50/50 or close to it. So far he’s put down deposits for the venue and photographer and I’ve done the deposit for our DJ and bought a ton of random stuff: my dress and accessories, decor items, Save the Dates, Invites (soon), etc.

    Post # 7
    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Wedding/reception/rehearsal/hotel rooms for various people: 90% my parents, 10% me (total cost ~$5000.)

    Thank you gifts: 80% me, 20% Fiance (~$1000)

    Champagne for rehearsal/possible post-wedding toast: Future Mother-In-Law (no idea of cost.)

    Plane tickets for FI’s whole family (6 people) and us: Fiance.  (His mom plans to pay him back for five of the tickets.  Total cost of tickets: ~$2500.)

    Rehearsal dinner in his hometown: Future In-Laws (Total ~$200)

    Mom and Dad insisted on paying for everything they are covering.  A week before we got engaged, my mom said I had no right or reason to get married, so I’ve been planning based on the idea that she could back out at any time.  FILs offered to pay for rehearsal dinner, but they are seriously short on cash (she and 2-4 of her kids are living in a 2 bedroom apartment, and he’s living with his brother and SIL.)  Plus, we’re just doing a backyard barbecue with a bonfire (with local relatives contributing side dishes.)

    Post # 8
    3004 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    We share a bank account too–and are paying for everything ourselves. No one is helping us. 

    Post # 9
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My parents are generously paying for all the F&B, the tent, and the photographer…. Fiance and I are paying for DJ, ceremony music, florist, officiant, honeymoon, rehearsal, and a bunch of little things but still we could not have done this event without my parents.  We will also be paying for travel expenses for my Future Mother-In-Law if she comes over from Africa… she was denied a visa the first time but we are trying again. Fingers crossed!! 🙂

    Post # 10
    3758 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    You didn’t put an option for Fiance all by himself. My Fiance is paying for all of our wedding.

    Post # 11
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My dad contributed a sum of money. His parents paid for most of the costs though. We also bought things throughout our planning and paid for our own honeymoon.

    Post # 12
    44 posts
    • Wedding: September 2011

    i’d say about 60% my parents 40% FI’s parents (not including bridal party gifts and honeymoon, we are paying for those)

    Post # 13
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I paid for it, but only because my wife was unemployed at the time.  When she has a job, we share all expenses.

    Post # 14
    4653 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We already have our joint account i handle ALL finances… And both of our parents are barely getting by so me and Fi with some Good savings and alot of budgeting are paying for the wedding…. But parents will be helping out with there time…

    Post # 15
    37 posts
    • Wedding: September 2011

    we’re in the unusual position of having TWO weddings.  our “real” wedding–a western style (white dress, etc) country club wedding in september, and then a traditional indian wedding in india.  (i’m ethnically indian, the fiance is italian-american, but all our folks live in the US.)

    breakdown is as follows:  

    *india wedding = 100% my folks

    *50% USA wedding + rehearsal dinner = FI’s folks.

    *50% USA wedding = my folks

    *my dress and alterations = my folks

    *post-wedding Sunday brunch = FI+me

    *honeymoon = FI+me

    *my parents’ hotel @ USA wedding and FI’s parents’ hotel in India = FI+me

    *incidentals (S-t-Ds, my shoes, random jewelry/decor, FI’s attire, bridesmaids’ luncheon, BM/GM gifts, etc) = FI+me.


    Basically, the FI’s parents have paid for half of his brothers’ weddings and are generously doing the same for us.  My parents want to contribute 50% to our wedding here as well (since it’s the actual wedding), but have familial obligations to throw a party in India.  Thus, Fiance and i are just trying to cover as much as we can while still graciously accepting the VERY generous gifts from our family.


    Post # 16
    948 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    100% Fiance and I, we each contributed the same amount. 

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