(Closed) Who is paying for your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 31
10713 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Fi and I… while trying to figure out how to buy a house too… sigh. No one has really offered to help, when we told them they all said congrats and were on their way lol. Oh well.

Post # 32
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Fiance & I are paying for our Destination Wedding ceremony & reception.. and honeymoon.  I’m probably contributing about 70% & him 30%.  My parents are paying for our at home reception.

Post # 33
2194 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m going to be completely honest here. My parents are paying for everything except for the rehearsal dinner (FI’s parent’s are hosting) and the honeymoon. My parents never asked any questions or made any comments about expenses, just started paying for things. I’m not having a million dollar wedding, but in our area weddings start around 30k and we’re teetering over that mark. I am extremely lucky, and I know that.


Also, before we got engaged, my parents were planning on paying for my grad school loans. After the engagement, those loans are my responsibility and are about the same as the wedding.

Post # 34
634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Fiance and I paid for the whole thing ourselves. I had some money in shares and we used some of that to pay for it (about 70%) but the rest of it we are going 50/50 in. Fiance and I live and have a son together, so in our eyes we are as good as married now and everything that was mine is already his and vice versa. No one has asked about how we have paid for it, and if they did I would probably be shocked with such a rude question.

I do not at all think it is the parents responsibility to pay for our wedding! If we could not afford to get married and pay for it ourselves then we would wait- not expect them to cover it. We are adults and do not need handouts. My parents offered to help and we refused, it is our wedding and we take 100% responsibilty to cover it ourselves.

How you are paying for your wedding is really no-one else’s business. If you do tell them the truth people will generally react honestly which in this circumstance would be shocked as most couples would go 50/50.

Post # 35
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My parents are paying for mostly everything (ceremony, venue, and all those details), with some help from me and the Fiance here and there. His parents will be paying photography and videography, and his aunt and uncle will be paying for the honeymoon.

Post # 36
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The wedding: My dad

Rehearsal dinner: Future In-Laws

Honeymoon, rings, post-wedding brunch: me and Fiance (joint checking account)

Post # 37
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

FH – 48% plus my rings and honeymoon

me – 20% plus his ring (…looking to get him a simple platinum band…)

my mom – 24% (and she hosted the engagement party, not included in wedding budget)

his parents – 8% (rehearsal dinner is included in that)


Right now, we’re both living at home. Our childhood homes are only about 30 minutes away from each other, and we’re both attending college in my hometown. Living with our parents is helping save a TON of money, especially while in school, and it helps that when we need to stay in one town or the other, we have a room. We’re not taking out any loans or anything, and I’m the only one that’s been putting a few things on a credit card when I need to (with a measly $750 credit limit), so we’re not going into debt for the celebration, unlike some of our recently-married friends.

Post # 38
693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m extremely lucky and incredibly grateful that my parents are paying for pretty much the entire thing. FI’s parents have offered to chip in, so of course my parents accepted the offer. We’re actually not quite sure yet what the in-laws’ budget is (that conversation is happening this weekend, actually), but my parents are hoping they’ll cover the DJ and rehearsal dinner. As for Fiance and me, my mom told us to buy our rings and pay for our honeymoon, and not to worry about the rest. This leaves us our entire savings to put towards a downpayment on a house and begin our married life together without wedding-related debt. So grateful for my parents! <3

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