Post # 1

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Helper bee
My Fiance and I are paying for 100% of the wedding ourselves, and it seems overwhelming. Neither family is well off, and we decided our families have more important things to spend there money on(Retirement…). I am just curious to see how the average couple pays for there wedding.
Post # 3

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Busy bee
Fiance and I are paying the bulk of it. We’ve both been working for a while so it’s not that big a deal.
Our parents are chipping in for the alternate receptions / dinners (engagement party, post wedding reception, Out of Town brunch) as well as parts of the wedding.
Post # 4

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Worker bee
My parents paid for about half and me and the Fiance paid for the other half.
Post # 5

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Honey bee
My parents are giving us a set amount of money, his parents are giving us a set amount of money and paying for the flowers, and we’re covering the rest. It still feels overwhelming and we never would have been able to do it ourselves.
Post # 6

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Busy bee
Fi and I are paying more than the majority of the wedding. Both parents have given us a little bit of money to help with other things and Fi parenst are talking about paying for a welcome dinner.
Post # 7

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Honey Beekeeper
My parents are very well off but didn’t “believe” in throwing us a wedding unless it was in Jamaica.
We paid for it all ourselves. His mom gave us our Rehearsal Dinner and mom decided to gift us our honeymoon, but then dad decided he wanted in on that, too, so then it was from both of them.
Either way, it still cost US 18K not including rings.
Post # 8

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Helper bee
Thanks for your input. We are lucky enough to be able to handle the cost of the wedding ourselves. I do not want to portray us as saints. We had to make that decision because both of our parents would give us their last dime, and we do not want it to come to that. It was all or nothing. Still seeing that kind of money slip out of my bank account is sickening.
Post # 9

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Blushing bee
Me & Fiance paying entirely ourselves.
Post # 10

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Busy bee
We’re paying for almost all of it. My parents are covering church fees and my dress, my FI’s parents are covering Rehearsal Dinner and beer/wine at the reception. We’ve been pretty lucky in finding affordable options around here – with everyone’s contributions it’ll stay under 10K.
Post # 11

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Bumble bee
50/50 between both parents. We are very lucky!
Post # 12

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Busy bee
Each of our parents are contributing $5,000. So a budget that’s currently looking like $20,000 we’re doing 25% (my parents) /25% (his parents) / 50% (me).
Post # 13

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Busy Beekeeper
We planned on paying for it all ourselves, but his family generously offered to pay for half!
Post # 14

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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Both our parents are paying equally for almost all of it, and I am contributing about 10% because I simply refuse to ask them for more, even though both have offered…FH is not paying for anything because he is still in business school, that lucky duck!
Post # 15

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Busy bee
Although my mom is always saying she’s “saving to help pay”, she’s never been able to save a dime. So we’re paying for it all.
Post # 16

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Busy bee
We are paying for all of it. I don’t mind though because that means I can have what I want and the only person that I have to ask is the Fiance.