(Closed) Who is right? FI or me??

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should he have needed a list to get a pic of the bride and her mother?
    Yes, the bride is at fault for not explicitly telling him : (24 votes)
    17 %
    No--why would he need a list to take a basic picture like that?? : (117 votes)
    83 %
  • Post # 3
    4014 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I read the whole thing, but right after you said that it was a horrible personality clash in the first sentence, I knew the answer.

    NEVER pick a photographer whom you don’t feel comfortable with!! I don’t care if he has the best photos on the planet!

    And yes. That is an obvious picture to miss and good photographers don’t need “must have” lists. They are more than capable of taking the reins and getting all the great photos. I would be really weary of a photographer who bashes past clients and places blame on them for something like that as well.

    Good luck and keep searching lady!

    Post # 5
    377 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    That is horrible! Keep in mind some times guys don’t necessarily ‘get’ wedding stuff.They want to feel useful and like they have an opinion though. For example my fiance thought it would be cool to release honey bees instead of blow bubbles, sparklers, birdsird etc. Ummmm, ya-no.

    Post # 6
    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @lauraashley09:  It sounds to me like this photographer is really, really unprofessional in regards to his behavior and how he approaches his clients. First off, he should not speak poorly of previous clients or tell you that he didn’t take a picture because he didn’t have a “list”, that is such BS. A wedding photographer should know what they are doing in regards to a shot list with weddings and they should also be open to listening to their clients if they want something out of the ordinary or have special requests. And it is weird that he doesn’t have any reviews anywhere especially if he is a wedding photographer. Maybe he isn’t as “professional” as he claims and if you aren’t getting along well to begin with, that is a BIG red flag that he is not the right photographer for you. I hope you and your Fiance haven’t signed a contract with him or put a deposit down (although with most photographers, you can back out with just losing the deposit). I would keep on looking because this guy doesn’t sound professional nor does he really sound like he knows what he is doing. I agree with the other Bee, keep on looking! Find a photographer that will listen to you what you want, you can have a nice conversation and repoir with! Good luck! 🙂  

    Post # 8
    652 posts
    Busy bee

    @lauraashley09:  you’ll be surprised. I’ve seen a couple weddings that mother bride pictures do get missed, because they thought daddy mommy daughter pic is good enough. A list never hurts, it just makes sure you get what you ordered.

    but yeah, that photographer doesn’t sound good. Drop him!

    Post # 12
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Personality Clash with a Wedding Vendor = NOT A GOOD THING

    As another Bee said, you can do better… keep looking

    (Although for the record, I’ve read here on the WBee before posts by other Prof. Photographers who have said that Brides should give them a list of MUST HAVE shots, because sadly things can be overlooked in the commotion that more often than not is the day… so IF having a pic of you and your Mom is important… or of the two of you doing a particular thing together… her putting your veil on / family heirloom piece of jewellery on, etc… THEN YOU NEED TO MAKE A NOTE OF IT)

    I also didn’t like the whole kiss & tell bashing that this guy was doing with you a potential client about past clients … very unprofessional

    Really who’d want to hire someone… knowing they were just more fodder for his need to gossip !! **

    And lastly…

    Lol don’t let not being able to find an entry for him on the Internet stop you from writing a Review… there are ALWAYS ways to create a new entry for such Websites.

    ** And I would be writing a Review based on this experience / info alone.


    Post # 14
    4477 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    This guy not only sounds like he lacks common sense (bride and parents is a DUH picture to take), but he also sounds like a jerk.  Whining about past clients is extremely unprofessional.


    Our photographer was good, but my Brother-In-Law actually got better pictures than she did.  However, she was super personable and made me feel at ease during our wedding.  She was very attentive to our needs, and got pictures of the people there.  In the end, that was far more important than Pinterest-worthy pictures.  If this guy gives you a bad vibe now, he’s not worth hiring.

    Post # 15
    8483 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Yeahh. I’d go somewhere else. He sounds like an ass.

    Post # 16
    652 posts
    Busy bee

    @lauraashley09:  oh that makes a huge difference. Then yeah, the mother daughter pic is an automatic. Man, shady/shi$&@ photographer 🙁 

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