(Closed) Who is so afraid of being called “bridezilla” you actually changed?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sure you know, there’s a difference between being assertive and aggressive. I think the term “bridezilla” is for the ladies that just take things to a whole other level. But, making decisions and being firm are not things you should back away from. It is your day after all and being the bride means you get to make those kinds of choices!

It’s not such a bad thing to be “aware” of how your actions come across to others. A true bridezilla wouldn’t think that way so I’m pretty sure you won’t ever be labeled that 🙂

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with pinkstripes. I’m an assertive person and I know what I want. that doesnt automatically make a me a bridezilla. I’m not going to change who i am just to avoid that term.  I will try to stay true to who i am and not fall on either extreme of bein too laid back or too uptight. hopefully i succeed

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@kate169: Uh, ME!!!

I have a VERY strong personality in every day life. I decided long ago that I would not bring that aspect of myself into our wedding. I did not want to come away from this w/ more enemies than friends & my family thinking I’m a raging spoiled douche.

I have been so laid back that my mom has taken that as a sign to totally take over our wedding and make a majority of decisions.

Just 10 more days & I don’t have to deal w/ this anymore!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Me! Me! Me! I’m terrified of people thinking I’m freaking out and being a bridezilla. But it’s just that I’m so worried because I’m the person who’s on the hook for these things. If people don’t like choices, it’s going to fall back on me. And so as a result of all that stress, I could imagine overreacting from time to time. Except, because I’m sooooo worried about the ‘zilla label I feel like I’m walking on eggshells and just holding everything in.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I feel bridezilla on the inside but on the outside cool and calm.  I think you can have all the say in the dress and that is expected, but in your case it may be too late for that.  But I bet your Bridesmaid or Best Man are delighted they got to choose their own dresses.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Me!  So me!

I’m normally clear about what I want and not afraid to say NO!

But, I’ve been so terrified of the “bridezilla” label that I’ve turned into the people pleaser I don’t even recognize.  I call her “codependa-bride”

I’ve finally come to terms with it.  If being called a bridezilla is the price I need to pay for having the wedding my Fiance and I put all this work and in money into being what we dreamed, then so be it!  Better a bridezilla than a miserable doormat!

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve had to basically stop having opinions altogether! >: some of my friends were calling me bridezilla over simple things like wanting all the bridesmaids to wear sunflowers in their hair or when i tried to find tasty gluten-free options for cake!

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