Post # 1
Our wedding party is pretty large- we have six bridesmaids and six groomsmen. My Maid/Matron of Honor is not very fond of public speaking but said she would have no problem doing it, because it was for me. She did mention that she would feel a lot better if more than just her and the best man had to give toasts. My sister has also expressed interest in giving a toast (she didn’t want to be an Maid/Matron of Honor, she is only 20 and said it was too much responsibility, but that she still would like to say a few words). What did you all do about toasts? Was is just the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best man? Was it all of the wedding party? I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions!
Post # 3
i voted other bc my mom and my fil gave toasts in addition to our moh and bm. our other parents gave toasts at our rd, and a diff bridesmaid and groomsman gave toasts then too, as well as our siblings and a few other people who wanted to
Post # 4
Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man will be doing the only formal speeches. But my dad will also be saying Grace… so I suspect there will be a ‘toast’ type of feel to it, blessing our future together.
Post # 5
In the UK the toasts only come at the end of the formal speeches- given by the best man, father of the bride and the groom. Apart from that there are no other toasts traditionally, or at any wedding I’ve been to.
Post # 6
For our wedding it was the best man, maid of honor and my father
Post # 7
Our wedding was a little over a month ago, and the best man gave a toast, then my husband, then me. No one from my side gave a toast, which upset me. Apparently my brother had been asked by my mother to make a speech, and my SIL helped write it, but when the moment came he didnt feel right. The wedding was otherwise flawless, but I feel bad that no one from my side wished us well. I am trying to get over it, and focus on how great the wedding was otherwise, but it just needles me. Am I being oversensitive? My husband thinks so.
Post # 8
Toasts were done by: the MC, the Best Man, the Maid of Honour, His parents, my parents, us!
Post # 9
Both of our dads, my Maid/Matron of Honor and the Bridesmaid or Best Man. WHy not just have some people do a toast at the rehearsal dinner?
Post # 10
i only asked my sister (MOH) to do a toast. then my best friend suprised me with one (MOH #2)
Post # 11
I had a group Bridesmaid or Best Man and group GM’s speeches. I didn’t want the pressure to be on just the Maid/Matron of Honor and the best man. (I heard that my Maid/Matron of Honor was really nervous) Plus, since each Groomsmen and Bridesmaid or Best Man were important to both of us, we didn’t want the other Bridesmaid or Best Man or Groomsmen to feel less important. They were all special to us.
Also, usually when I’ve been wedding where the Maid/Matron of Honor and the best man speak, usually it was a long speech. Like at least 5-10 minutes long. Since I felt I somewhat alleviated the pressure of having only two people speak, my BMs and Groomsmen were only asked to speak for like 2 minutes or less. Some spoke more, if they were more comfortable.
I had all of my BMs go up at one time and just say something little. It ended with my Maid/Matron of Honor saying the last speech and at which they all toasted us. Then the boys went up and did the same. My BMs had support of the other BMs and the GMs had the support of the other GMs while standing up there.
It was great! I liked it. There were laughs and there were some tearing up. I’m glad I did that.
Oh, we had neither of our parents go up to do a toast. Since my Mother-In-Law wasn’t exactly helpful in my planning, I certainly did not want her to go up there and bash me. Also, Father-In-Law isn’t exactly involved completely with DH’s life, so it probably would have been awkward. Oh, and my father has been known to not give the best speeches. So yeah, we took those out. It was an easy decision not to include parent speeches.
Post # 12
Just the Best Man is doing one at our reception