Post # 1
I have a ways to go but I still can’t decide who I want to talk me down the aisle.
I’m not close with my dad (my mom raised me by herself) and he’s not invited. My mom doesn’t want to walk me down the aisle, she “thinks it’s a guys job” and she’s insecure about her weight and the attention. I’m not too upset about it because she tends to stress me out so I’d like someone who calms me down.
I have it down to two calming people.
My brother. He was always there for me growing up, but has gone through some tough stuff in his adult life and we’re no longer close. He’s in the wedding party.
or my Uncle, my mom’s brother. I wouldn’t say he was ever a father figure, because he never had kids and isn’t the “father” type (or affectionate) but he’s always been interested in my life (involved/knowing what’s going on in my life) and when there have been times in my life when I needed it, he’s been there financially.
I’m not going to do a dance with his person so it’s only for the ceremony purpose. I’m leaning towards my uncle but I’m also kind of nervous that he won’t really be interested or get the honor/what it is all about. He’s single, never been married or had kids and isn’t a commitment kind of guy.
Mostly I think I’m just emotional about this because I’m just really bummed out that I don’t have a dad there to walk me down the aisle, to have a first look with, to give me away, ect. like really bummed, it’s a very sore subject and now that’s my wedding is getting closer I feel like I should make a decision before it gets too emotional.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@jbarker09: Have you considered walking yourself down the aisle?
Post # 4
@jbarker09: I’m having my (male) best friend walking me down the aisle.
Post # 5
that was my original plan (like before I got engaged) but now I feel like I’ll be too nervous and want someone to walk me down the aisle. Or because I’m already emotional about my dad not wanting to be around that I’ll think about it more if I walk down by myself?
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
Good point, you probably have to be pretty self assured to go it alone. I’m having my Maid/Matron of Honor walk LAST so that I have her with me up until the last minute.
Honestly, I think your uncle would understand the honor of it if you’re willing to have the conversation with him. Otherwise I would ask your mom to reconsider and tell her how much it would mean to you.
Post # 7
I think I’ll be walking myself down the aisle.
Post # 8
I would have my mother do it if she raised me alone. Technically she took on the Role of mom AND dad if yours wasn’t around. I have seen it before (moms walking the daughter) and in ever thought anything of it.
Post # 9
I think you should try to talk your mom into it!
Post # 10
I wouldn’t have someone you’re not close to or who hasn’t been a father figure walk you, to me it just kind of takes away the meaning from it. I’d either tell your mom again how important it is to you (she didn’t need a guy’s help raising you, so why should one walk you down the aisle?), walk alone, or I also think it’s really touching when the bride and groom walk down together or meet halfway.
Post # 11
I’m a single mom who will be walking her daughter down the aisle, but if the OP says her mom would not have a calming effect on her, I can see how that would add to, rather than relieve her stress. I have seen weddings on the Bee where the bride and groom walk down the aisle together; would this be an option for you? Even if you don’t want him to see you beforehand, perhaps having him walk to the back of your church (or whatever venue) and escort you up the aisle would give you the reassurance you’re hoping for? I don’t recommend walking by yourself if you’re nervous; I did that when I got married and it would have been okay except my bouquet never made it to the church and I had NOTHING to hold onto during what felt like an endless walk up the aisle! Funny now, but excruciating on what should have been a happy day.
Post # 12
@jbarker09: You missed a fairly popular option: Walking yourself down the aisle.
I love my dad (and we get on fairly well) but I didn’t want him to walk me down the aisle and I’m so glad I didn’t. On top of everything else, we had to move the ceremony inside at short notice and I only just made it down the aisle alone because it was so narrow.
Post # 13
We are getting married inside (the cermeony and reception are in the same spot) so the aisle isn’t HUGE. Maybe I’ll think more about walking down myself (or having my fi meet me half way). thanks girls!
Post # 14
Talk your mom into doing it. She will only get to see her baby walk down the aisle once, and if I were her I’d be damned if it weren’t me to give you away!
Post # 15
It would be really nice if you could get your mom to do it….I walked my daughter down lthe asile in 2011, it was Great!….My son is actually walking me down
Post # 16
My husband did!
We walked in together arm in arm. It’s a Swedish custom and it honored H’s Swedish heritage. I loved it.