(Closed) Who is walking you down the aisle?

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Who is walking you down the aisle?

    My father

    Both my mother and father

    I am walking myself down!

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  • Post # 47
    Member
    5282 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I want both my parents to walk me down the isle, but I think my dad kinda of wants it just to be him, so I don’t know I may change my mind….

    The reason I want both my parents is because I am somewhat of a feminist and the roots of the "father walking his daughter down the isle" comes from the symbolisim that as a daughter you are your fathers property, he then "gives you away" to another man, therefore you become his property (hence the newly married couple being addressed to as "Mr. & Mrs. Husband First name & Last name."

    Plus not only is it my feminist side, but both my parents have played a significant role in my life, I feel like its a dishonor to my mother for her not to be apart of it. Needless to say I think that my dad’s feelings are kinda hurt that I don’t want it to be just him….SO I’m thinking that maybe this time, I will put my beliefs aside & let my dad walk me down the isle like he has envisioned 🙂

    Post # 48
    Member
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    my dad is walking me down half the isle and then my aunt and uncle are walking me down the other have on behave of my late mother.

    Post # 49
    Member
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    I’m not close to my father at all and am on the fence about inviting him in the first place. My mother has never been around so that isn’t an option. I don’t really want to walk down the aisle by myself just because I know I’ll be too nervous so my brother in law said he would do the honor.

    Post # 50
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    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    daddy!! he’s not my biological father but he has taken care of me since i was 2.

    my biological father has never been in the picture, thus the MAN who has taken care of me (& paid for my college education & the wedding) is walking me down. I love him soooooooooo much!

    Post # 51
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    599 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    The Catholic priest told us that in more traditional Catholic Ceremonies its normally the groom escorted by his parents, then comes the bridal party (paired up or singly, we haven’t decided yet) then the bride escorted by both her parents. When I told my mom that we were probably going to do that (instead of groom waiting at alter) she got so excited! My dad seems to think its swell, too, so yay! He got to walk my sister down the aisle so I think he isn’t too worried about his thunder being stolen ^__~

    I am with AnnieAAA on the feminist thing. I don’t want to be given away by one man to another man. I really like this ceremony with both parents escorting their children. It seems more like two families coming together rather than an exchange of property! I am pretty excited about have both parents involved, but don’t really know the logistics of being escorted by two people! Where do I hold my bouquet??

    Post # 52
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    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I am walking myself down the aisle. My father is not invited to the wedding and while there are many other people who are supremely significant in my life, none of them are really “giving me away”. It’s a nod (a big one!) to my independence. I am super excited! I listen to my processional song all the time!

    Post # 53
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    4381 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    My father, but part of me wants my mom to do it as well.

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