(Closed) Who is walking your grandmother(s) down the aisle?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We aren’t doing escorts for any family except for FH’s mother and stepmother, who will be escorted by his best man (cousin, mother’s nephew) and groomsman (brother, step mother’s son). The rest of the family will get there and sit as they come. We will have the first few rows on each side roped off for only family, but they won’t be formally escorted. Our processional order goes: officiant, brother w/ stepmom, cousin w/ mom, groom, Bridesmaid or Best Man, BM, MoH, FG’s, me (walking with my mom and dad). There will be a music change between flower girls and me. We are having a pretty simple processional because our families are complicated by divorces and remarriages and it would get messy if we tried to have grandmothers have escorts, etc. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We actually have a similar situation – only one grandmother, his. However we are including her as part of the party, she has a reading and we are also including our mothers – all a part of the procession. I struggled with who to walk with Grandma for a while. I did end up with one of the best men (we have two) escorting her, then coming back to join the rest of the procession. But then as planning went on, we decided we wanted ushers to include some very close friends of mine. So in the end we have 2 ushers. One is escorting Grandma, the other is excorting my Future Mother-In-Law. I am still struggling with who to escort my mom, but I think I will have my father do it then he can come back and escort me.

Im not sure if you are having ushers, or even if this would work out for you. I recently attended a wedding where the grandmothers and mothers were not escorted, but as each bridesmaid follow behind her, they each gave them an awesome calla lily, so in the end each mother and grandmother had thier own bouquet of flowers (it was a huge bridal party, 10 on each side).

Hope this helps!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant

We only had one grandma and it was Mr HW’s.  His bestman/brother escorted her at the start and our officiant (also her son) walked her back.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mandi.pitt: It wasnt my idea! just something I saw at another wedding and I thought it was very thoughtful. I kind of like the usher idea myself too…. Mine were given strict orders: 1. if ANYONE (and I do mean anyone) shows up wearing white they are to be MADE to leave immediatly, 2. If anyone NOT on the guest list shows up, they are to be told to sit in the back (and go hungry) or leave, and 3. Please take the overly drunk people outside and away from the antiques so I do not have to kill them later for breaking history.

My ushers are only costing me the amount for thier plate. So i thought that for some ‘support’ during the seating, ceremony and reception – it was totally worth it. Plus I love them dearly and to leave them out would break my heart!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Our grandma’s walked down together.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

My younger cousins (13 & 14) are our ushers and they’ll be escorting our grandmother and FI’s grandmother down the aisle. They’re both going be escorting my mom too since my dad will be with me. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mandi.pitt: Totally worth it! And he could escort your grandmom~ Especially on my side, we are an inter-racial couple with tension on both sides and crazy ass ex’s, plus we both have alcohol drinking uncles… my ushers are being used as a barrier. AND they will look lovely in tuxes! πŸ˜‰

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@JoJo Bananas: Hey now THERES an awesome idea! πŸ˜‰ Go JoJo! πŸ˜‰

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My grandma was very offended when she was sort of shooed to her seat at my cousin’s wedding last summer so to avoid any conflict here is our pairings:

FH’s Grandmother & Grandfather (he will be wearing a dark suit or his uniform- career Army)

My Paternal Grandma & My Brother (reader, wearing a tux at the insistance of my father)

Future Father-In-Law & Future Mother-In-Law (suit or maybe uniform- FH’s not sure if he still has it, also career Army)

My Maternal Grandpa & Mom (suit)

Dad & I (tux)

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mandi.pitt: I would def ask what they would prefer. Not to be ‘out of line’ but the image you put in my head with the “one grandma pushing the other” had me giggling. Too cute! And would surely make for some quirky photos! I love grandmas!

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