(Closed) Who isn’t going to do a Rehearsal Dinner? Or had a Thrifty one?!?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Are you having a rehearsal dinner?
    Yes, its important to us and we're scraping up our pennies to guarantee it! : (23 votes)
    43 %
    Nah, No one will even care after the wedding is over. : (31 votes)
    57 %
  • Post # 3
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    We’ll be having it at my mom’s house. She offered to make a nice dinner, and considering my FI’s parents aren’t helping to pay for ANYTHING (and probably not attending), I don’t feel bad not blowing a few hundred bucks so that my wedding party can have dinner at a restaurant afterwards. This is an area I feel very confident about saving money in. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 4
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    WE had a thrifty one kind of. My Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law law hosted it. they just had it in their backyard. They had mde some wine earlier and served that and then purchased some meat that they cooked on the BBQ, they had a friend cater the rest, but I am sure you could get friends a family toi each bring a dish (maybe do a pot luck?).

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    Post # 5
    572 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    We invited people over for spaghetti that we cooked and while it was budget friendly, I wish we would have done something a little more fun. 

    Post # 7
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We didn’t have one. We weren’t able to rehearse at the venue the night before, and if you’re not having an actual rehearsal, then I don’t really get the point of having a rehearsal dinner, lol. So we skipped the whole thing and did a 5 minute rehearsal right before the real ceremony.

    Post # 8
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I would avoid doing potluck.  The whole point of the dinner is to thank your bridal party for the time and money they have spent on being part of your wedding.  You are requiring them to attend an additional function (the rehersal itself) so you should provide them with a meal as thanks.  If you do potluck, it’s not really much of a thank you to them since they have to bring the food.  I think Pizza and Beer or BBQ at your house is totally fine!  It doesn’t need to be fancy, but you and your Fiance (or your family) should be providing everything for the party rather than asking guests to bring something.


    ETA: In Hilsy situation I think it’s totally fine to not have a dinner if you aren’t having the rehersal itself.

    Post # 9
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Since our wedding party is all family with the exception of one Groomsmen, we are just cooking dinner for them and our family at home. 

    Post # 10
    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I want to do a rehersal dinner but I don’t have the money for a big restaurant meal.  I like the idea of doing a nice backyard BBQ or something similar.  I also think you can totally get away with a potluck in that setting.

    Post # 11
    459 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I did not have a rehearsal dinner, but we did go out to dinner with our parents, siblings, and MOH/BM the night before, and that was no-host. We did not see the need to have a rehearsal dinner, because a) we were not having a rehearsal, and b) our very small wedding was already rehearsal-dinner sized. We were also paying for the wedding ourselves, and did not feel the need to throw our guests two parties. Nor did we feel the need to host a separate dinner for our maid of honor and best man, because we did not ask them to do anything special for us other than showing up. We did figure that our families would need to eat the night before anyway, and would go out to eat anyway (because they were away from home), so we might as well do it together—but not as a rehearsal dinner.

    I do like the idea of doing a backyard bbq or something similarly cheap but fun. In some situations, though, that is not doable (it wasn’t for us).

    Post # 12
    87 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Our ceremony is being held in a park, so we are going to spring for an additional permit for the night before and have a picnic rehearsal dinner after our rehearsal!

    The park already had tables and a breathtaking view of the Manhattan skyline; we’ll get some pizza and beer, and set out croquet and bocce ball.  Everyone can bring anything else they want!

    Post # 13
    671 posts
    Busy bee

    My mother will be paying for the rehearsal dinner and we actually Opted to have a cheap-ish one when we didn’t have to! There is actually this Vietnamese place that Fiance and I went to for weeks straight! The owner knows us and we love the food.. I also think it would be great to share a little bit of our history with the people close to us ๐Ÿ™‚  

    Post # 14
    72 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    We went to a Chinese buffet and it worked out fine. It only put us out of $350 for everyone.

    Post # 15
    14495 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We are doing a bbq at our house. The FH smokes some killer food and he really wanted to show those skills off while the whole family is here

    And it really worked out two fold for me. When we deciding on the style of wedding we wanted I was in love with the rustic chic and elegant. FH wanted the more refined wedding. Now with the rehearsal dinner, my mom and I get to decorate with the rustic and get to use our crafting skills (or non-skills in my case).

    Post # 16
    2 posts
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My fiance and I are taking everyone to a baseball game after the rehursal.  We can do $10 outfield tickets with hotdogs and a beer.  Fun & not too expensive.

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