(Closed) Who ISN'T losing weight for the wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Fitness
Post # 2
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I was planning on it. Just like 10 lbs but it didn’t work out. We only had a 2 month engagement and I ended up getting sick a couple times and had a bunch of projects due for work and school. I’m ok with it, I’m currently on the upper end of my normal. The dress fits, it will be fine. Sometimes there are just more important things to do in life. Given that it’s now 6 days away it’s clearly not gonna happen.

if people ask you about it you should just look the, right in the eye and say “no, why would I need to lose weight.” That ought to make them feel sufficiently awkward.

Post # 3
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455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Hunting Hill Mansion

First of all, congratulations!! You are going to be a gorgeous bride on your wedding day. 

I think a good rule of thumb is to stay away from any form of counting — whether it be pounds, calories, or hours in the gym! No one is perfect.  As long as you are healthy and HAPPY, that’s what matters. 

For me, I am not trying to lose weight for my wedding. I have a plenty of time to go, but I am actually hoping to do the opposite and build muscle! 

Post # 4
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3585 posts
Sugar bee

I wanted to lose weight but then i tried my dress on and it fit so now i am scared to. I still go a few days a week to keep the little strength i have but nothing to crazy. I don’t want to pay 500 in alterations because i decided to go on some crazy diet.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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MrsYellowDaffodil:  Everyone asked me if i was going to diet for my wedding, like its just assumed all brides need to diet. I do need to lose weight but not for the wedding for me to be healthier in general but I will not just diet to lose weight just for the wedding. I have struggled with body image issues my whole life and even though im bigger than I would like to be I am just now comfortable in my own skin and everytime someone ask if im dieting or makes comments about having a dress to fit into it really hits my self confidence. I am going to feel beautiful on my wedding day regardless of size, this isnt an event about looks and i think people forget that sometimes. Its the day we get to marry the love of our lives. If your happy and comfortable and feel beautiful that is the only thing that matters!! 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

My goal is not to lose weight either for two reasons: I am healthy and have a fine body as is.

I do however want to improve my physical fitness level by quite a bit. But it is not just a “wedding” thing I am trying to make these changes as a lifetime commitment for a healthier life. I am now 26 and not too long ago I was very fit from 24-25. But it took me a year to get there, and by “there” I mean I ran 2 miles every other day and alternated with various strength training excercises. I wish I hadn’t stopped because I would have been in AMAZING shape now. I want to get back there and keep going so when I hit the big 30 I can feel great about myself. 

I really do love exercise but the main thing for me is to switch things up so I don’t get bored. Pole dance fitness classes are really fun. I also love yoga and running as I mentioned before. The main thing with weightloss (no matter what number you are) doesn’t mean that you are physically fit or unfit. For me, just because some people would say I am “thin” (I hate that word) does not mean that I am strong or in good shape. I am improving, but I am still running a mile and a half within 20 minutes, alternating running and walking every 2 mins. For me, I have to take it in baby steps, because if I make it too hard I will start to dislike it. 

Ultimately our culture is just really messed about about dieting, fitness, nutrition, and etc. Unless your doctor is telling you that your weight is an issue that you need to address immediately then I think you are okay. But for the most part it’s just a world full of opinions that are out there to manipulate people into buying things with the false promise of getting the “perfect” body which doesn’t exist. 

 

 

 

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Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I wish I had the confidence to tell you I’m not. I’ve struggled with my weight and body image for an extremely long time and I really wanted to avoid this becoming a huge stressor for me and focus instead on just the activities I’m already doing.

But I can’t 🙁 The wedding is a year away and I’m growing more and more afraid every single day that I’m not going to fit my dress or that I’m going to look back and see my flabby arms and wide waist and wish I tried more. I already hate myself in photos, I don’t want to hate the photos of such an important, beautiful day on my life. It doesn’t help that three of my co-workers on are a huge weight loss kick right now and making a lot of progress while I feel like I’m at a constant stand still, not even invited to their daily walks.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

I didn’t lose weight for my wedding and I’m so glad that it wasn’t a focus. Being a size 16 (UK/12 US) didn’t stop me from looking gorgeous or feeling like a bride.

I had enough stress without worrying that I wasn’t going to fit the dress because I decided to buy one to slim into or beating myself up because I was too ill for a lot of my engagement to exercise (I was pretty much bedridden for six months of it).

I have since lost a lot of weight and become a total gym bunny because I found a form if exercise that I REALLY enjoy, but I don’t look back at my wedding photos and regret that I chose not to lose weight at that time. I look back and think I looked gorgeous and happy and radiant. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

If I do, I do. If I don’t, I don’t. I’m by no means “fat” but I have a biger frame and I defnitely have a few extra pounds in my belly area that I would love to lose. But you know what? I eat (semi) healthy, I have an active job and as active lifestyle. I’ve maintained my weight for years (ok added on a few since Fiance and I got together- but nothing crazy) and I’m healthy (cholesterol is fine, Bridal Party is great).

Fiance is a belly guy. He likes bigger/curvy girls. He also likes healthy girls. He says if I stay as I am or get bigger with kids, he’d love it. He also says if I lost some weight he’d love it because I’d be happy. He’s just happy I’m happy. I’d love to tone up my arms a bit and my legs- neither is very big, just a little jiggly-er than I’d like lol. It’s my belly that is the problem child.

Motivation is defnitely a problem. I admit it. When I work (the overnight) I come home and crash. The last thing I want to do is work out. When I get up, Fiance is done with work so we usually do something together or I do chores. Yeah, people may call those excuses, I call it life. My dad’s side of the family has always struggled with their weight. Some people are genetically programed that way.

I rock my dress and THAT makes me happy. Me being happy is number 1 in my book.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Good for you! This is something I’ve never understood about the whole marriage mindset. I had ZERO intentions of losing weight or changing my routine just because I was getting married. I’m of average/athletic build, size 5/6, already don’t eat like shit and stay pretty active plus my fiancé proposed to me the way I am so why change? I remember trying on my dress being asked if I wanted to size down…and I was just thinking “Hell no, I need this sucker to fit in 7 months!” Comments from people are rude too- a girl at work asked me my “goal wedding weight” and I was baffled. Why buy a whole new wardrobe just because I got super skinny for my wedding? Not to mention the weight gain I’ve seen after. It’s not normal to live off of spinach and skinny Starbucks for months and then not plump up after the vows- which makes newlyweds depressed and gives marriage a bad rap for making people gain weight. I’ve been married since September and haven’t put on a pound. 

I really wish that women would just accept who they are, and realize that their family, friends and future husband LOVE them more than anything in the world- 5 or 100 pounds won’t change that. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Not me.  The only thing I plan to do is some situps!  (…and good luck with that) 🙂

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Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Nope… I’m happy with my body! There’s certainly an irritating trend where people joke about being on a wedding diet, as if all brides must want to lose weight, even if they’re comfortable in their current skin and even if it would be unhealthy to lose weight. I’m at the awesome weight where I can pretty much eat whatever I want (boy do I abuse that) and maintain my current weight… why would I destroy my metabolism to lose weight? My thinking is that I need to keep eating as much as I currently do or else my metabolism will die and then I’ll have to stay on a diet forever — so it’s best if I keep enjoying life and living in my body as-is 😉

Post # 13
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2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Not me! I lost 25 pounds a year ago, before we got engaged, and am now very happy with where I am. I try to eat well and exercise but that’s for general wellbeing, not weight loss. 

Post # 14
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7897 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It does seem a little disingenuous to lose weight solely for the wedding. I bought my wedding dresses (for two different events) off the rack shortly after getting engaged, so I knew I couldn’t fluctate my weight too much so that the dresses would still fit appropriately. However, I may have lost a few pounds inadvertently due to a busy month at work and eating less snacks now that Fiance lives with me, though I still eat a good amount of snacks!

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I wasn’t planning on losing weight for the wedding at all.  However, I went to buy my dress, and it was on clearance and a size too small – they did say they could take it out.

I didn’t feel like my body was unacceptable by any means, but this was a great excuse to start eating healthier and working out more in order to focus on myself a bit.  I’ve lost 5 pounds, I’m toning up, and I’m loving every minute of it.  My dress was more of a kick in the pants to be healthier than a plan to lose weight.  I’m really trying to make this a lifestyle change, not a temporary weight loss plan.

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