(Closed) Who Keeps Gift Money in Chinese Wedding?

posted 12 years ago in East Asian
Post # 3
5 posts

Usually the cash is used to pay off the banquet bill.  Relatives/close friends give gold to the bride, and so the bride owns the gold, it’s part of the dowry.

In old days, the parents pay for the banquet, but nowadays most couples pay for the banquet, so it make sense the couple gets the money.  Sometimes both parents pay for the banquet, that case, the parents split the money.

Of course, there are times the parents would want to leave money to the couple, so couple gets the $$ 😉

Usually people will dicuss this beforehand (when parents/couples will have an agreement on this during the chinese engagement ceremony, not sure if you have do that)

Hope this helps! 

Post # 5
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Usually whoever pays for the banquet should get the money… that’s how it was for all my friends that have gotten married already and that’s what me and Fiance are planning on doing.  We are going to keep all the gifts.

Post # 6
30 posts

I’m not sure who gets to keep the money received during a Chinese wedding.  I think it depends on when the red envelopes were given.  If the bride’s parennts requested a dowry and your in-laws give it, it’s money the bride’s parents are able to keep.  If money from red envelopes and gold were given during the traditional tea ceremony, I think the bride and groom are allowed to keep that to help start their new life together as husband and wife.  The bride is suppose to keep all the gold jewelry as part of her own personal dowry since it symbolizes good luck.  If money was given during the evening banquet, that money is usually used to help pay off the banquet bill and anything left-over is kept, shared, or divided at the discrection of the bride and groom with both sets of parents.  Hopefully, eveyone can compromise!

Post # 7
20 posts

According to the Chinese wedding custom and traditions, it’s the bride and groom who should keep the gift money.

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